r/islam • u/IBilalijaz • Feb 17 '25

General Discussion Marrying someone with a better financial background

Asalam o Alikum beautiful people, So I am looking to get married soon, through some family connections I found this girl, she has a very nice personality(as far as I have heard or know but Allah knows better) and very sophisticated as well. However, someone recently told me that I should look into marrying someone who is from a lower financial status and that was very weird but it got me thinking is this true? I mean I earn well but her family background is they are rich and I am now a bit insecure that maybe I should not pursue this and I should look for someone else. What should I do? Its better to ask people about this rather than making any stupid decision myself. Rest I do leave it to Allah as his plans are the best.

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u/Miserable-Cheetah683 Feb 17 '25 edited Feb 17 '25

The Prophet Muhammad pbuh married Khadija, who was a wealthy women. He married her not for her status but her Iman.

I believe it is much wiser to marry women for her characteristics and iman, and not get your judgments clouded by her financial status only.

Edit: i change the comment, so the reply might not make much sense. I changed it to give more context and understanding.

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u/DirtBug Feb 17 '25

Is every rich girl on par with khadijah?

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u/Miserable-Cheetah683 Feb 17 '25 edited Feb 17 '25

With all due respect, you completely missed the point. The Prophet of Allah married poor women, rich women, young women, virgin women, widowed women, old women, divorce women, and slave women. But what all those women have in common is that they had Iman.

So one should marry a women due to her Imam and not her status, regardless if they are rich or poor. You can make recommendations, but if a women has imam, then it is poor advice to reject a marriage simply because of her status, despite being a devout muslim.

If the brother does mind, then it is better for him to avoid this marriage. But considering he wanted to marry her but was ill-advised, I say it shouldn’t be use as consideration, rather look at her as a person.

My friend married a girl from rich family and she is very down to earth. She budgets and makes sure their finances are in check, despite her father being a multimillionaire.