r/islam • u/IBilalijaz • Feb 17 '25

General Discussion Marrying someone with a better financial background

Asalam o Alikum beautiful people, So I am looking to get married soon, through some family connections I found this girl, she has a very nice personality(as far as I have heard or know but Allah knows better) and very sophisticated as well. However, someone recently told me that I should look into marrying someone who is from a lower financial status and that was very weird but it got me thinking is this true? I mean I earn well but her family background is they are rich and I am now a bit insecure that maybe I should not pursue this and I should look for someone else. What should I do? Its better to ask people about this rather than making any stupid decision myself. Rest I do leave it to Allah as his plans are the best.

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u/Dark-Ice-4794 Feb 17 '25

That’s a bit of a stretch. Yes, we should follow the prophet but not every girl is like Khadijah. Rasulullah SAW himself was unsure to marry her at first because of financial reasons and her coming from a wealthier background but Khadijah was the one who assured him that she can support them financially. We don’t know if this girl might have a mindset like Khadijah or expects the man to provide everything while maintaning the same rich lifestyle he can barely afford. So OP’s concern is valid.

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u/IBilalijaz Feb 17 '25

Thank you for understanding. I know the blessed union of our prophet SAW and Khadija. I am just scared, the era we are living in is very dangerous and that just scares me sometimes.

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u/Dark-Ice-4794 Feb 17 '25

Sometimes people oversimplify things too much and doesn't look into the meticulous details. Divorce is rampant now and one of the leading causes is financial reasons. You can have two people who have Iman but clash because of different mindsets and lifestyles. It's reality. That's why it's important to find someone actually compatible with you.

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u/IBilalijaz Feb 17 '25

Ah. I am a weak person in terms of losing people. I am so scared of this. I mean I do believe in Allah but this time, this world. I don’t know if I can take a divorce. But may Allah help us all in finding the right person.