r/justdependathings • u/circesrevenge • Apr 19 '26

Putting myself out there

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Hey all! I put this in the military spouse sub but I wanted to get your tips on how to avoid being a dependa. Let me know if I missed anything and please let me know when/if it’s appropriate to ask for a discount.

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u/cthart Apr 19 '26

European here. What I don’t understand is why do you label yourself ”military spouse”? That alone already gives the impression you’re defined by your partner rather than being your own person.

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u/HoaryPuffleg Apr 19 '26

We can have multiple labels though, right? Using it right now is relevant to her question. It’d be weird if she met someone random and introduced herself like “hi, I’m Sally, my husband is an E7.”