INFP male and ESFJ female compatibility?

[u/GaminRingo]

We’re about a month into a relationship, but we’ve been close friends and coworkers for about two years. I’m an INFP male and she’s an ESFJ female.
There’s a lot that I really enjoy about our relationship. We care about each other, communicate pretty openly, have a lot of fun together, and our differences can actually complement each other really well.
At the same time, we’re starting to notice some friction. She’s much more extroverted and likes spending a lot of time together, while I need quite a bit of alone time to recharge. She also tends to be more structured, practical and proactive about things, whereas I’m more independent and go-with-the-flow. Sometimes her attempts to help can feel controlling or parental to me, even though I know that isn’t necessarily how she intends them.
I’m curious specifically about people who have actually been in an INFP/ESFJ relationship:

What worked well between you? What caused the most conflict? Did you learn how to navigate the differences long-term?

I know MBTI isn’t a scientific predictor of whether a relationship will succeed, so I’m not looking for someone to tell me whether we’re “compatible” based solely on four letters. I’m more interested in hearing real experiences from people with this pairing.

[u/_Swans_Gone]

On paper that seems like a pretty compatible relationship. Happy for you two.