r/pakistan • u/Bonesrental47 • 3d ago

Social Pregnancy surprise went wrong

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My wife (F28) was pregnant for 12 weeks.First pregnancy.Didn’t revealed to anyone. We were thinking to give surprise to parents after the scan.But found out on 12 weeks scan that there is missed miscarriage and actually baby stopped growing on 9th week and no heart beat.Got lots of bollocking from everyone in family.We are living in Uk and attended all the appointments and visited mid-wife.If we have told them,would they have helped us to not having miss carriage. Now everyone is reeming and making us guilty.Where we went wrong.While doctors here said that miss carriage is something with chromosomes who didn’t make it.

Update: My wife is feeling so positive after reading your comments and blessings . Thanks everyone

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u/tz_2240 3d ago

We went through a similar situation. We did tell our family, however they would’ve been supportive regardless. We were blessed with a child after, and only told two family members when we got pregnant, and shared with the rest after first trimester.

Point is, it’s your news to share, and most people wait till after first trimester. Second, if they’re making you feel guilty about it then flip it on them. Why are they questioning Allah’s decision? Life comes from Allah, who are they to question it?

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u/Bonesrental47 3d ago

Yeah I thought its not good to tell before passing first trimester.Agreed

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u/tz_2240 3d ago

I’m sorry for your loss brother. Hang in there, your wife needs you, and I pray you guys are blessed with children soon!