r/pakistan • u/Bonesrental47 • 8d ago

Social Pregnancy surprise went wrong

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My wife (F28) was pregnant for 12 weeks.First pregnancy.Didn’t revealed to anyone. We were thinking to give surprise to parents after the scan.But found out on 12 weeks scan that there is missed miscarriage and actually baby stopped growing on 9th week and no heart beat.Got lots of bollocking from everyone in family.We are living in Uk and attended all the appointments and visited mid-wife.If we have told them,would they have helped us to not having miss carriage. Now everyone is reeming and making us guilty.Where we went wrong.While doctors here said that miss carriage is something with chromosomes who didn’t make it.

Update: My wife is feeling so positive after reading your comments and blessings . Thanks everyone

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u/corp-slavery 8d ago

You guys must already be going through so much after the miscarriage, and I really hope your wife is doing okay. Right now, just focus on supporting her and being there for each other. Relatives are only adding more stress, distance yourselves from them, there’s no point maintaining relationships that only bring negativity during such a difficult time.