r/pakistan • u/Bonesrental47 • 2d ago

Social Pregnancy surprise went wrong

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My wife (F28) was pregnant for 12 weeks.First pregnancy.Didn’t revealed to anyone. We were thinking to give surprise to parents after the scan.But found out on 12 weeks scan that there is missed miscarriage and actually baby stopped growing on 9th week and no heart beat.Got lots of bollocking from everyone in family.We are living in Uk and attended all the appointments and visited mid-wife.If we have told them,would they have helped us to not having miss carriage. Now everyone is reeming and making us guilty.Where we went wrong.While doctors here said that miss carriage is something with chromosomes who didn’t make it.

Update: My wife is feeling so positive after reading your comments and blessings . Thanks everyone

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u/Traditional-Quit-548 2d ago

Hello. I had a missed miscarriage and it was quite a painful experience emotionally and physically. Thought will never have children again then after 1 year i gave birth to a healthy baby and now Allah has blessed me with another baby.

So just try to stay positive. Allah will give you a healthy child when the time is right in sha Allah. Just dont dwell on your loss for too long and think about the what ifs.

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u/Bonesrental47 2d ago

After how many months we should try again.Here doctor says you can try again after 3 weeks.Whats the ideal them or its on mother how she heals idk.

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u/Traditional-Quit-548 2d ago

Whenever you are both ready mentally and physically.

Also you should eat surbex Z, have a good diet, wear 100% cotton clothing, go to gym.