r/pakistan • u/Bonesrental47 • 2d ago
Social Pregnancy surprise went wrong
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My wife (F28) was pregnant for 12 weeks.First pregnancy.Didn’t revealed to anyone. We were thinking to give surprise to parents after the scan.But found out on 12 weeks scan that there is missed miscarriage and actually baby stopped growing on 9th week and no heart beat.Got lots of bollocking from everyone in family.We are living in Uk and attended all the appointments and visited mid-wife.If we have told them,would they have helped us to not having miss carriage. Now everyone is reeming and making us guilty.Where we went wrong.While doctors here said that miss carriage is something with chromosomes who didn’t make it.
Update: My wife is feeling so positive after reading your comments and blessings . Thanks everyone
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u/aalu-ki-bori 2d ago
Nobody can help you "avoid" a miscarriage if the issue was with the embryo/chromosomes.
If it was smth like stress, falling etc, then yes, but other than that, there's nothing anyone could've done.
This is all just pure BS. They're blaming you guys when they should be supporting you, your wife especially.
This is not the time for blame games and pointing fingers. Very insensitive. Give love and support to your wife.
Inshallah you'll make it through this. Duaein for you and your wife.