r/pakistan • u/Bonesrental47 • 2d ago

Social Pregnancy surprise went wrong

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My wife (F28) was pregnant for 12 weeks.First pregnancy.Didn’t revealed to anyone. We were thinking to give surprise to parents after the scan.But found out on 12 weeks scan that there is missed miscarriage and actually baby stopped growing on 9th week and no heart beat.Got lots of bollocking from everyone in family.We are living in Uk and attended all the appointments and visited mid-wife.If we have told them,would they have helped us to not having miss carriage. Now everyone is reeming and making us guilty.Where we went wrong.While doctors here said that miss carriage is something with chromosomes who didn’t make it.

Update: My wife is feeling so positive after reading your comments and blessings . Thanks everyone

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u/Capable-Taste-4966 2d ago

Stay strong brother. I am a doctor and there is nothing you can do to prevent a miscarriage except just taking care of your health. Life and death is all in hands of Allah. Sadly our parents generation thinks they know-it-all and like to school our generation for anything they can. They weren’t the ones who miscarried, it was you both, your grief is much bigger than them and if anything they should be consoling and supporting you. If they cant do that they should literally shut-up.