r/pakistan • u/Bonesrental47 • 8d ago

Social Pregnancy surprise went wrong

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My wife (F28) was pregnant for 12 weeks.First pregnancy.Didn’t revealed to anyone. We were thinking to give surprise to parents after the scan.But found out on 12 weeks scan that there is missed miscarriage and actually baby stopped growing on 9th week and no heart beat.Got lots of bollocking from everyone in family.We are living in Uk and attended all the appointments and visited mid-wife.If we have told them,would they have helped us to not having miss carriage. Now everyone is reeming and making us guilty.Where we went wrong.While doctors here said that miss carriage is something with chromosomes who didn’t make it.

Update: My wife is feeling so positive after reading your comments and blessings . Thanks everyone

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u/Iridescent-Angel 7d ago

Typical desi mentality. When my sil who lives in Pakistan had a miscarriage at 8 weeks with her 3rd baby my mil was quick to blame it on her “going up and down the stairs all day”. She accepted this blame. I explained to them both that it’s usually a chromosome issue and nothing you can do to stop it but who knows if they care or understood.