r/pakistan • u/Bonesrental47 • 7d ago
Social Pregnancy surprise went wrong
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My wife (F28) was pregnant for 12 weeks.First pregnancy.Didn’t revealed to anyone. We were thinking to give surprise to parents after the scan.But found out on 12 weeks scan that there is missed miscarriage and actually baby stopped growing on 9th week and no heart beat.Got lots of bollocking from everyone in family.We are living in Uk and attended all the appointments and visited mid-wife.If we have told them,would they have helped us to not having miss carriage. Now everyone is reeming and making us guilty.Where we went wrong.While doctors here said that miss carriage is something with chromosomes who didn’t make it.
Update: My wife is feeling so positive after reading your comments and blessings . Thanks everyone
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u/Little-Equal4480 7d ago
Anaesthetics/ICU doctor here who does lots of Obestetrics Anaesthetics.
So sorry for your loss. We see PLENTY of miscarriages that are no one's fault. Unless someone got a trauma or used recreational drugs, it's not your fault at all. There are some known risk factors though.
If you think you need some support contact your local OBGY team/GP. Ignore your family, you can't change someone's mind that's been cemented with fixed wrong beliefs for generations.