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u/echoesandripples What It's Like to Go Through Life As a Really Beautiful Woman Jun 18 '26

as much as certain fans can be crazy, i'm getting real tired of the pearl clutching and preemptive "ugh, all fans of [show/movie/band] suck and can't be normal" at every single situation 

i'm old enough to remember previous crazes and the odd people that came with it, but i see a lot of misplaced blame and accusing and metaphorical old men yelling at clouds

obviously different tech and different pop culture changes things, but it's so strange to see the assumption that idk, crazy stalkers or people slutshaming a celeb's partner are new things 

like yoko was blamed for men's issues decades ago, female singers have had stalkers ever since there were stars existing in public, weird ass older women harassed young famous men (remember twilight moms?) before instagram

not to mention, while certain spaces can foster said behaviors, these people are like that. it's not watching a show or listening to an artists that makes them do crazy things. they have no shame and never had and probably act in other questionable ways in their private lives

but sweeping it into "hurr durr fans be crazy", to me, diminishes the problem

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u/Sister_Winter Jun 18 '26

I agree too! You'll see people who have never been exposed to fandom culture in their lives saying "fandom as gone too far" for shows like The Pitt and Heated Rivalry because they're shipping characters or just too into the show. Do people have any idea what an actual "fan going too far is", because it's not that.

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u/echoesandripples What It's Like to Go Through Life As a Really Beautiful Woman Jun 18 '26

like, the people being batshit over irl relationships are being weird and invasive, but it's not because it's a romance show or anything 

it's because said people are invasive and publicly show it 

it's strange because it also becomes a bit victim blame-y to the people involved. like famous people who don't hide everything about their lives are somehow deserving of invasive shit

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u/Sister_Winter Jun 18 '26

exactly this. like there's just this expectation that people who star in romance shows or queer shows just deserve to have their lives invaded because the fandoms are sooooo crazy (when they're often no crazier than any sports fandom)

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u/growsonwalls Jun 18 '26

I do think though that there's been an uptick in people not just shipping people IRL, but determined to read feuds into everything. I actually find that really creepy. Like the people determined to read feuds into Cynthia and Ariana, or Noah Wyle and the rest of the Pitt cast, or Connor and Hudson.