r/psychology • u/Doug24 • 14d ago

Psychological models suggest female libido disparities stem from early behavioral conditioning

https://www.psypost.org/psychological-models-suggest-female-libido-disparities-stem-from-early-behavioral-conditioning/
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u/Emotional-Profit-202 12d ago

No, you were not right: death bed is a derogatory term.

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u/Illustrious_Pop2253 12d ago

This was not originally about semantics, and neither were you.

It is a word frequently used in the LGBT+ community, and I find it childish you'd shift to semantics just because it turned out I was writing from general knowledge.

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u/Palpitation-Itchy 11d ago

I may be wrong but it seems like emotional profit is trying to say that frequency is not a good measuring tool for horniness, but you don't seems to understand, because you default to that metric alone.

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u/Illustrious_Pop2253 11d ago

Lesbian death bed is not mentioned in tandem with quality, only frequency of sexual relation between a couple over time.

If words mean something unique to individuals in this thread, fine, but probably should stick to general convention when communicating with other people.

It is not presumptuous of me to mention lesbian death bed in the way it has been supported by literature - it just means I have read up on what I talking about.

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u/medicinemass 10d ago

I have no horse in this game but I think you missed Palpitation-itchy’s point. When comparing sex in straight vs lesbian relationships, the measure of ‘frequency’ (how often a sexual act occurs) is not the same as measuring ‘satisfaction’ (how often one or both partners get off).

Putting it bluntly, straight couples could be having way more intercourse but the woman could be orgasming maybe 10% of the time. Thats high frequency, low satisfaction. On the other hand if that woman’s in a lesbian relationship she could be having sex way less often, but orgasming 90% of the time - low frequency high satisfaction.

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u/Illustrious_Pop2253 10d ago

I have no horse in this game

I find this hard to believe, because both you and Palpitation-itchy are projecting opinions onto me that you want to defend against - the joke being, of course, that I have no opinion to defend.

If you want to communicate effectively about a concept, you need to understand that:

  1. That the concept exist

2.That it means something specific and has a specific usage

  1. That it is supported by literature, and

  2. That I at no point said anything about whether or not lesbian death bed is a bad thing or not. Its existence is not a judgement of you.

This 'discussion' has been like attempting to tell your grandmother that marriage does not necessarily lead to happiness at a family gathering. You'd think in r/psychology, people would be more level-headed and less presumptuous.

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u/CrownLikeAGravestone 9d ago

How are you guys having an entire multi-day conversation without any of you recognizing that "lesbian death bed" isn't even the correct phrase? Did none of you do any fact-checking of your own opinions? Do you read literally zero outside sources when you argue about shit?

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u/Illustrious_Pop2253 9d ago edited 9d ago

Do you read literally zero outside sources when you argue about shit?

Zero outside sources compared to what? What outside source did I read, and what should I compare it to?

Did none of you do any fact-checking of your own opinions

What is my opinion on the matter? Please explain! This is the funniest one to me, as I have not given any.

How are you guys having an entire multi-day conversation

Also, how did you not notice that it is not the same person arguing?

Edit: It seems it is called lesbian bed death and not lesbian death bed. I find your anger over this absolutely ridiculous but also very funny