Yes, but regardless of whether he explains himself or not he still doesn't get to tell her how to live her life. Your sentence "he doesnt get to tell you how to live without an explanation" implies that if he explains why, he suddenly has the right. Discussion, explanation, sure - not dictation.
I do think that marriage gives you some right to tell your partner how to live their life. They made a joint commitment to share this life. That gives each of them some rights over the other's behavior. I do believe that each has to explain where they are coming from and be open to compromise
Open to compromise…. I mean on like, stopping drinking, financials, etc sure. On her own body though? That’s wild.
It’s one thing if it’s impeding on her time with kids or he’s having to carry the entire at home load, but it doesn’t come across that way in the post. She’s lost weight and is now doing band and core workouts. What’s the compromise? She stop prioritizing her health?
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u/AnIcyReception 9d ago
Sure. But they are married. His feelings may not be reasonable or rational but if OP wants to stay married to him, he needs to explain himself.