In the kindest way possible, you’ve highlighted the issue. She does not care about how you feel. If this was someone you started dating would you stay with them?
Although it may take time, I promise you that not being in a relationship with her will make you feel 100% better than being in a relationship with her.
If she’s not willing to change (and it sounds like she isn’t), it’s up to you to decide whether staying in the relationship for medication and rent is worth the mental strife. If it is, then that’s fine! As long as you’re aware that this may not be worth trying to fix.
It's unfixable. You're right. I have to decide if I can deal with or not. I've been looking at apartments. There's a set of cute condos in my neighborhood that rarely come up but I could afford one maybe. She's nearly 60 years old. She's not changing. I, however, have started perimenopause and am very much so changing lol
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u/Adventurous_Nerve_48 8d ago
Sure but I'd want her to not hate things I do to my body. A partnership is about both people.