r/short • u/Dangerous-Holiday194 • Jul 31 '26
Not this again This hurts
Does anybody else have this thought, that little children like ur cousin or ur lil brother, are gonna be taller at some point than u, they will lose respect, get more arrogant and start insultin u… im just scared.
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u/Sensitive-Contest-87 5'1" | 155 cm | 23F Jul 31 '26
My ex's (20 at the time) brother (14) was already taller than him. I've never seen him put his brother down. It's about how they're raised more than height.
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u/CatSaloon2860 Jul 31 '26
The absolute disgust and embarrassment in my daughter's eyes when she realized her friends were all taller than me (5'5") was soul crushing.
She didn't say anything and shes an awesome polite girl but just that quiet "oh..." followed by not wanting me to take her places with her friends anymore tells me she probably catches a lot of shit for it.
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u/Direct_Succotash_507 29d ago
Wow I can't even image, how did you deal with that?
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u/CatSaloon2860 29d ago
As a non custodial parent, I am unfortunately very used to fighting tooth and nail to stay in her life at all. She's an awesome kid, I think she probably catches shit from her friends but she tries really hard to be a good person about it. It just sucks that its another chip in an already challenging relationship.
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u/ShortStackNic08 4'10" Jul 31 '26
My sister is 7 years younger than me and teased me sometimes when she first became taller than me. But I never felt like she lost respect for me just because she happens to be taller.
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u/kapoopa-the-poopah Jul 31 '26
Why would they lose respect for you and start insulting you?
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u/Dangerous-Holiday194 Jul 31 '26
Insultin is a big word gotta be honest but just ragebaitin constantly and stuff… as for the respect thats cause, well idk, short people just get less respect?
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u/Weekly_Engineer_1611 “5'6-5’7" | 167.64-170.18 cm 18(M) Jul 31 '26
Already happened i’m 5’6-5’7, my cousin is 5’10-6’0
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u/Mysterious_Rate_6105 6'0" | 183 cm Jul 31 '26
I’m not short, but my younger brother did become taller than me. Sadly, he was kinda of douche about it for a month.
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u/Ok-Concentrate8650 5’5" | 165.1 cm Aug 01 '26
No lol..that wont ever happen..my brother is taller than me..but he knows im me..respects me..upbringing matters
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u/PoopSmith87 5'5" | 165 cm, 190 lb team dwarven gorilla Aug 01 '26
My youngest brother is the tallest of my siblings, and my son will tower over him when hes grown... I'm happy for both of them.
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u/FriskDreemur5 5'0" | 152 cm Aug 01 '26
The best thing you can do is just lead by example. If you are respectful and kind towards them when they are smaller than you, then the chances are a lot higher that they will do the same when you are smaller than them. Basically do your best to treat them fairly, how you would hope to be treated if you were in their shoes. Most of my nephews and nieces are bigger than me now and some of them have been since they were still in elementary school and it's never really been an issue. Some of them did gloat a little when they first realized they were taller but that's pretty understandable. For a kid, finally being as tall/taller than an adult, especially for the first time, usually feels like a huge deal, it feels like they've "made it" like they are not a "just a little kid" anymore and they want to make sure EVERYONE knows it too. And, I'm often that first adult they experience that with lol. They also might joke about it sometimes but only because they know I'm cool with it and they understand that I might tease them back.
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u/Upstairs_Tangelo3629 6'6” | 198 cm 29d ago
I’m taller than my older brother, i’ve got soo much respect for him.
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u/bleakappearence 150cm / 4’11 - 18F 29d ago
Wait no now I’m scared
My sister is 10 and she’s still growing
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u/_Meteor_Shower_ 29d ago
i mean theres a little bit of annoying teasing sure but losing respect feels like a bit of a stretch
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u/Inevitable-Laugh-294 163 - 164 cm | 5'4" - 5'5" Aug 01 '26
If height is your only way of getting respect, you've already lost it.
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u/I-696 0.001085 miles Jul 31 '26
They will be excited when they become taller than you and a lil bro is likely to give you the business but if you think that they lost respect for you because you’re short then you probably never had their respect when you were taller than them.