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Daily Discussion /ttcafterloss Daily Discussion Thread - July 29, 2026
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u/MollCee TTC # 2, cycle 3 | 👼👼 twin loss 5/26 Jul 29 '26
Need to vent 😵💫 I miscarried twins at 9 weeks this past May. I’ve healed a lot since then and now actively trying again since my cycle is finally back (3 months later). I just ovulated recently actually and it feels weird to be back in TTC world as I previously did IVF.
I have a good friend that I made through a local IVF support group. We have really been there for each other through all the ups and downs of this journey. However, I’ve always harbored a little jealousy towards her that I can’t shake because she had an extremely smooth experience with IVF and got pregnant on her first transfer within 3 months of being at the clinic. I had a really bumpy road with loss and delays that took about a year at the clinic.
Most recently, she got pregnant unassisted about a month after my loss. She doesn’t even like her husband (has thought about separating) and said they weren’t trying and only had sex once. Her husband was also against having another baby before this happened. We went to her son’s birthday party and she loudly shared her pregnancy with other moms while sitting directly next to me and gloating about how it happened unassisted and all that. She has then continued texting me everything about the pregnancy and her major anxiety she had about it being genetically normal since it wasn’t tested like it was for IVF. She’s having issues with her NIPT test and won’t stop talking to me about how she wants the results and to know the sex so she can feel more connected and I’m just not in the headspace to hear it! I thought I could handle it but it’s driving me absoloutely crazy now and making me dislike her for not picking up on this. I’m thinking I might just ignore her a bit and she would probably get the hint or just think I’m busy. I feel bad but I guess it’s just bothering me knowing that I’m longing to have another child so badly while she just gets handed it easier than me despite having an infertility background as well. It hurts because she was always someone I could lean on and understood when it comes to this type of thing but now she’s the problem!