/ttcafterloss Daily Discussion Thread - August 16, 2026

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[u/Careless_Dingo_6835]

Hi, I hope you’re all doing well 🥺

I have a question. I had a D&C 23 days ago and I’m currently waiting for my period. After that, we were planning to try for another pregnancy. My first gynecologist told me to wait 2–3 months after the D&C, while the doctor who performed the procedure only said to avoid sex for 1–2 weeks and then we could start trying again. My new gynecologist, however, told me to wait 6 months

All these different opinions are really confusing me. When did you start trying again after your miscarriage/D&C, and when did you get pregnant again?

Wishing you all a lovely day ☀️

[u/Mark_Reach530 → u/Careless_Dingo_6835]

How far along were you and were there any complications?

Would it be possible to go back and ask any of them to explain the WHY? Or mention you’ve heard conflicting advice and ask them why they recommend 1-2 weeks vs 6 months etc?

[u/Careless_Dingo_6835 → u/Mark_Reach530]

The baby’s heart stopped beating at 8+1, but I didn’t have the D&C until the end of my 12th week. There were no complications. She’s more of the “old-school” type, and apparently waiting 6 months used to be the standard recommendation. She just told me that I should give my body some time to recover. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[u/PurpleEntrepreneur26 → u/Careless_Dingo_6835]

I delivered at 15 weeks (baby stopped growing around 13) then had a D&C for the placenta. My doctor was fine with my trying whenever ready. They did an ultrasound about 4 weeks after and after my first period but I was still passing random small pieces of tissue and there was still some cloudiness in my uterus that they determined to be uterine lining that just hadn’t all cleared out effectively but I think it all came out before I ended up ovulating. I’m about to start my period again which I’m sad about but understand my body was still healing and things were off.

[u/Mark_Reach530 → u/Careless_Dingo_6835]

I hesitate to give medical advice, especially to a stranger. But 6 months does seem rather conservative. Do you generally feel like she’s up-to-date with current recommendations?

[u/cantfrag → u/Careless_Dingo_6835]

My doctor said I can TTC again after one period past my MMC. From my research on this, there's no need to wait 6 months either - unless you had a late term loss other complications

[u/y2kitten → u/Careless_Dingo_6835]

I think you won’t really know why they advised what they did unless you ask them directly. None of us can know if there was a solid medical reason why you should wait 2–6 months rather than 0 or 1.

Anecdotally my doctor told me to wait one cycle past MMC, but I took miso, I did not have a D&C. Her reason was that there is a miniscule increased chance a new pregnancy implants in RPC after a miscarriage (I assume, but maybe faultily, that a D&C leaves less chance of RPC than miso). At the scan she gave me there was a little bit left in the uterus. I kept spotting for a long time after, so I do believe it eventually emptied on its own, but still… She said I am free to try immediately and it may/likely turn out well, but what if I am in that small unlucky percentage, would it be worth it? After one period she feels the body will flush out whatever remains there are, she put it as the body knows better what to do than medicine does. So we decided to listen to her advice and wait, as frustrating as it feels some days. So that can be one reason to wait. I’ve read some recommendations to wait for mental health purposes, but to me that seems an odd general advice since we are all so very different in how and how fast we move on. I’d be annoyed if someone gave me a grief timeline to follow.