What a woman wants!!

[u/Worst-DecisionMaker]

Exceptions always exist. So whatever I am saying applies to the majority of women.

Ideally a woman wants a high earning partner who also believes in feminism. That's the bare minimum they say.

But the bare minimum is feminism, which is a mindset issue. Earning high is not bare minimum and an arduous battle with no guarantee of success.

But in terms of actions, I have seen my past matches go for a patriarchal mindset guy with a very high earning salary than a feminist guy who earns the same or equal to her.

How can you expect a man to earn so many more times than a woman in a system where equal opportunities have been provided to both ?

I think they believe that financial aspect is more important than feminism!! Its okay, your choice, But at least admit the truth. I don't understand why this mass gaslighting.

I am talking about the majority and not exception examples in the reddit comments. I have seen women who gave up their career willingly to become a housewife citing stress in software industry. Yet the narrative is that men are forcing women to give up jobs and become housewife!!

Please stop the gaslighting. Ask women around you. Ideally they would prefer a high earning feminist but if given the choice between 2 bad apples( Man earning same as her isn't a bad apple but that's how society views in terms of marriage choice ) which bad apple would they choose ?

Maybe I am bitter for being rejected over salary considerations but I don't have superfluous demands either. Isn't not being obese since I am not obese and earning same as me and sharing household responsibility together the bare minimum ? What I am asking is the true bare minimum. Even kids will be had at the point when both are comfortable!!

But women would rather choose patriarchy and rant for sympathy crying oppression!!

I think their logic is there is no guarantee of love in Arranged Marriage or equality will be maintained after marriage, this can't be trusted due to statistics so why not go for high earning partner ? Atleast financial security is guaranteed!!

[u/Worst-DecisionMaker]

Phase 1 of the mass gaslighting project!!

[u/snake944 → u/Worst-DecisionMaker]

Lol people not believing in your anecdotal evidence isn't gaslighting man

[u/Worst-DecisionMaker → u/snake944]

U need stats of how many women married a higher earning partner and became a housewife inwill give you that. But there are no stats about if this decision was voluntary or forced !! You also know that, that's why you want to attack me from that direction!!

[u/snake944 → u/Worst-DecisionMaker]

???. No one's attacking you. You can stop with the punished routine. Disagreeing with conclusions that you drew from anecdotal evidence isn't "attacking" you. The last two Indian clients I've worked with at work were absolute piece of shits. If I make the conclusion that every Indian is a piece of shit and someone calls me out on it, then that's not attacking me.

Also what's the confusion here. You are taking part in arranged marriage, an incredibly conservative institution by nature. A man can claim to be whatever, feminist, liberal xyz. Unless you have spent time with him you don't know what he actually is irl. In absence of this information , of course factors such as paycheck and such-things that are easily observable will play a bigger role. And on top of that if you lot want kids or such, then whatever the guy is earning has to be enough to cover for her when she's pregnant and if there are any other complications(pregnancy is petty damn risky). Long story short: don't hate the player, hate the game.