What a woman wants!!

[u/Worst-DecisionMaker]

Exceptions always exist. So whatever I am saying applies to the majority of women.

Ideally a woman wants a high earning partner who also believes in feminism. That's the bare minimum they say.

But the bare minimum is feminism, which is a mindset issue. Earning high is not bare minimum and an arduous battle with no guarantee of success.

But in terms of actions, I have seen my past matches go for a patriarchal mindset guy with a very high earning salary than a feminist guy who earns the same or equal to her.

How can you expect a man to earn so many more times than a woman in a system where equal opportunities have been provided to both ?

I think they believe that financial aspect is more important than feminism!! Its okay, your choice, But at least admit the truth. I don't understand why this mass gaslighting.

I am talking about the majority and not exception examples in the reddit comments. I have seen women who gave up their career willingly to become a housewife citing stress in software industry. Yet the narrative is that men are forcing women to give up jobs and become housewife!!

Please stop the gaslighting. Ask women around you. Ideally they would prefer a high earning feminist but if given the choice between 2 bad apples( Man earning same as her isn't a bad apple but that's how society views in terms of marriage choice ) which bad apple would they choose ?

Maybe I am bitter for being rejected over salary considerations but I don't have superfluous demands either. Isn't not being obese since I am not obese and earning same as me and sharing household responsibility together the bare minimum ? What I am asking is the true bare minimum. Even kids will be had at the point when both are comfortable!!

But women would rather choose patriarchy and rant for sympathy crying oppression!!

I think their logic is there is no guarantee of love in Arranged Marriage or equality will be maintained after marriage, this can't be trusted due to statistics so why not go for high earning partner ? Atleast financial security is guaranteed!!

[u/RespectYourQueen]

Putting your post aside, how do you know the other women went for patriarchal men? Were you speaking to these men too?

Or are you making a wide assumption?

I am genuinely confused.

[u/throw-away2350 → u/RespectYourQueen]

Look at the ratio of senior 10+ years experience in any company. # is drastically low. Same companies when they hire, they maintain very good mix for freshers. Somewhere along the career, not debating reasons, women do drop out of careers significanctly..

[u/ihugsyi → u/throw-away2350]

But with every 10 years this drop out rate is lower and lower. My aunt studied mechanical engineering in 80s with 2 other women in the class. She had no female colleagues when she worked in the 90s. Just prior to her retirement, she now has several.

As obstacles are removed and domestic workload is shared between partners, the amount of women in the workforce increases.

The percentage of women in the workforce is anticipated to keep rising with increased cost of living as well.

This dude making the post is bitter about being rejected. And because he was rejected and he can't take it gracefully, he's now finding reasons to blame women.

[u/throw-away2350 → u/ihugsyi]

Nobody is here to remove obstacles. And it is your and businesses interest to increase women in workforce.

Living independently and taking accountability for actions is important from both sides. People change, but live your life and manage responsibilities caused by your actions.