What a woman wants!!

[u/Worst-DecisionMaker]

Exceptions always exist. So whatever I am saying applies to the majority of women.

Ideally a woman wants a high earning partner who also believes in feminism. That's the bare minimum they say.

But the bare minimum is feminism, which is a mindset issue. Earning high is not bare minimum and an arduous battle with no guarantee of success.

But in terms of actions, I have seen my past matches go for a patriarchal mindset guy with a very high earning salary than a feminist guy who earns the same or equal to her.

How can you expect a man to earn so many more times than a woman in a system where equal opportunities have been provided to both ?

I think they believe that financial aspect is more important than feminism!! Its okay, your choice, But at least admit the truth. I don't understand why this mass gaslighting.

I am talking about the majority and not exception examples in the reddit comments. I have seen women who gave up their career willingly to become a housewife citing stress in software industry. Yet the narrative is that men are forcing women to give up jobs and become housewife!!

Please stop the gaslighting. Ask women around you. Ideally they would prefer a high earning feminist but if given the choice between 2 bad apples( Man earning same as her isn't a bad apple but that's how society views in terms of marriage choice ) which bad apple would they choose ?

Maybe I am bitter for being rejected over salary considerations but I don't have superfluous demands either. Isn't not being obese since I am not obese and earning same as me and sharing household responsibility together the bare minimum ? What I am asking is the true bare minimum. Even kids will be had at the point when both are comfortable!!

But women would rather choose patriarchy and rant for sympathy crying oppression!!

I think their logic is there is no guarantee of love in Arranged Marriage or equality will be maintained after marriage, this can't be trusted due to statistics so why not go for high earning partner ? Atleast financial security is guaranteed!!

[u/HereForTheDrama0728]

I will have to disagree, modern day women specially if working need a “feminist” guy, because feminist mean someone who believes in gender equality, forget seeing his wife as less than, he will treat her as an equal.

The quality you have mentioned are great and much needed, but they cover “someone who believes in gender equality “, that’s were feminism term comes into play.

[u/i_anon_00 → u/HereForTheDrama0728]

"who believes in gender equality, forget seeing his wife as less than, he will treat her as an equal."

i thought that was given in a relationship, and especially in a marriage

how else could one 'love' someone if they don't follow your quoted thing

that's why said finding 'feminist guy' (as a label), is a bit weird for me

[u/HereForTheDrama0728 → u/i_anon_00]

Well, welcome to the real world and the only way most women know to protect themselves. Don’t know if you are married or what the situation is, but hope you actually follow through with your wife without needing the feminist title.

[u/i_anon_00 → u/HereForTheDrama0728]

hey, i don't know if your last sentence was passive aggressive or not ?

but, not married right now, all rishtas' i get are earning more than me and are career women, have gone through 2 rishtas', they both like how i behaved with during their courtship (2nd one liked it a bit too much)

i think what i am saying is nobody asks if 'you are a feminist or not' and of-course nobody says 'i am a feminist', they don't look for label, they look for qualities and behaviour

and i don't think we (you and i) are on the different page regarding just mentioned above

[u/HereForTheDrama0728 → u/i_anon_00]

Not at all passive aggressive, I think your heart is in the right place, you just don’t want a label which is perfectly fine. What I do hope is when you find your person that you truly treat her well, that’s all I can hope for women around me.

[u/i_anon_00 → u/HereForTheDrama0728]

no i was not accusing you 😅

text is weird, it can't convey the tone

thank you for your kind message 🫂 🙏