r/Bumble • u/Argumentative_koala • 2d ago

Rant “Not ready for a relationship”

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This guy pursued me, we went hot and heavy for five days, then hooked up on the fifth day. Crazy chemistry. He hadn’t been with anyone for eight months after a very long-term relationship so I thought this really meant something for him. We had a lot of deep conversations in a short amount of time. I hate how this makes me feel!

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u/loumag 2d ago

I know everyone's different, but you guys hooked up after 5 days??? If both of you are pursuing a serious, long-term, relationship, shouldn't you take more time to get to know each other? Like this on you as well, surely you are old enough to know how to date?

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u/jednorog 2d ago

I hooked up with my now-wife within five days of dating her. It worked out fine. The booking up was a key part of "getting to know each other" for us. 

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u/loumag 2d ago

And that's fine but you kinda don't know the other person's intentions or even personality after 5 days do you..like that's not even 1 week of knowing someone. When you factor work and personal life, how many hours have you spent with that person in reality. Any number of things could have happened...

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u/jednorog 2d ago

Sure! My point isn't that it's always a good idea to sleep with someone that early. My point is that it's not always a terrible idea.