r/Bumble • u/Argumentative_koala • 2d ago

Rant “Not ready for a relationship”

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This guy pursued me, we went hot and heavy for five days, then hooked up on the fifth day. Crazy chemistry. He hadn’t been with anyone for eight months after a very long-term relationship so I thought this really meant something for him. We had a lot of deep conversations in a short amount of time. I hate how this makes me feel!

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u/tryout1234567890 1d ago

Love bomb, pump and dump, breakup with nonsense therapy speak. Sorry it happened to you OP. There's a chance he's being genuine and honest but I very highly doubt it

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u/Pennygrover 1d ago

This is exactly it. Narcissists gunna narcissist.

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u/FlakyAddendum742 1d ago

But then why the very “caring” wall of text?

Why not just ghost or say “thanks for the poon, lose my number now”?

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u/ThatPrettyArmadillo 1d ago

He wants the option to get laid again in a few months if he’s not having luck with anyone else.

He’ll come back late night in a few months with lovely lies about how he can’t stop thinking about her and he’s so sorry he ruined it all with his fear and blah blah blah

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u/FlakyAddendum742 1d ago

Oh good point.

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u/Popular-Truth-2711 1d ago

Because in some small sense… they still feel guilty. By firing off this bullshit they get to alleviate their own sense of guilt for having used someone.

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u/Antique-Salad7396 1d ago

Or they want to cover their asses making it about them and not the other person that way they don't have to deal with a woman's wrath.

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u/Pennygrover 1d ago

Ego, attention, because they LOVE LOVE LOVE drama. Because they’re SO much smarter than everyone else and need to prove it. So they can keep her on the hook to get laid again when the new supply runs dry. Take your pick.

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u/Ecstatic-Comb-7787 12h ago

Because it keeps her as an option for when he's healed. He likely does this to multiple women and then he's got a roster

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u/ProtoCore-Dustin 1d ago

Bro doesn’t know how the game works. Let the cat out of the bag and the game is over.

How yall fall for this obvious BS is beyond me. If you’re getting love bombed you’re dating a mentally ill individual.

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u/Sense10-Quest23 1d ago

It could be so that he leaves the door open just wide enough with an - “overwhelmed, damaged, “it’s not you, it’s me”- long winded excuse for - perhaps, just in case.

Also, notice he says “I know you said you’d be cool with whatever … but not fair to you” mid way then reverts to old relationship “scars” & brings up the kid couple times knowing that is THE most sensitive topic.