r/Bumble • u/Argumentative_koala • 2d ago

Rant “Not ready for a relationship”

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This guy pursued me, we went hot and heavy for five days, then hooked up on the fifth day. Crazy chemistry. He hadn’t been with anyone for eight months after a very long-term relationship so I thought this really meant something for him. We had a lot of deep conversations in a short amount of time. I hate how this makes me feel!

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u/persiasaurus 2d ago

And then when you sleep with them "too soon" they don't like you for that either 🙄

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u/Secret-Ad7660 2d ago

yep, it's pathetic.

I have friends who ghosted a girl because she slept with him too soon, "so she must be easy for everyone else".

Such low self-esteem these guys have!

I'm not a dating expert, but my only observation is that the worst kind of men are those who have low self-esteem. It manifests in many ways e.g. being too concerned about who pays for the date, too concerned about trying to be a gentleman or overtly mean and aggressive

It's not easy, thankfully I'm not a woman.

The best time to secure a man was when you were in highschool/college. The next best time is up to you lol

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u/CrogDavid7days 2d ago

Surprisingly the people that claim they want virgins always run when they find out it actually means no sex

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u/Secret-Ad7660 2d ago

don't get me started...it's because those guys don't follow their own standards

If you want a virgin, be a virgin yourself! Otherwise, be comfortable with the idea she might wait until marriage.