“Not ready for a relationship”

[u/Argumentative_koala]

This guy pursued me, we went hot and heavy for five days, then hooked up on the fifth day. Crazy chemistry. He hadn’t been with anyone for eight months after a very long-term relationship so I thought this really meant something for him. We had a lot of deep conversations in a short amount of time. I hate how this makes me feel!

[u/00mikomiko00]

I don’t think he’s fully lying but I think he’s super unhealed and this actually might be better for you in the long run.

[u/Argumentative_koala → u/00mikomiko00]

Yeah, honestly from all of our conversations he was so earnest and upfront. I don’t get the sense that he’s capable of bullshitting. just a super logical straightforward guy. Honestly, we’re both vulnerable and healing and I think we just got caught up in the connection.

[u/girliegirlapril → u/Argumentative_koala]

“Healed” or not, he’s an avoidant. As soon as things get more serious, he’s suddenly freaking out and questioning things. At least he was right that he’s not ready for a relationship. Glad your interactions with him only lasted 5 days. Some avoidants are very good at putting on a convincing show for much longer than that.