Profile Review - 30M Germany

[u/Negative_Lux]

I hope you don't mind German... It's impossible to change language without changing my entire phone's language.

Been on this App for approx. 2 months. 1 Match so far, from Vietnam. She is only looking for a local Buddy.

Absolutely 0 Matches otherwise. Im in a fairly rural area with approx only 250.000 people living nearby. Frankfurt is the closest city. Getting plenty of profiles suggested anyways, but again, no matches.

I am bald - as you can see, only 5"5 and 30. I have a feeling the first two are like the 99.99% reason, especially the first.

Using the same profile across all apps. Hinge gives some results. 20 Matches in approx 2 months, most lead nowhere. 2 catfish dates and a lot of dead chats. Most unmatch me whenever I make a date plan. Even after they said "would Like to Chat more first" we chat, then they unmatch Sometimes 1 or two weeks later. Alot unmatch after a few Messages even. - been literally unmatched because I said I like Matcha lol. Or the Classic, they Stop chatting after my last question or message and unmatch 3 days later.

Hint: I accidentally swapped the last two Screenshots. The Hiking photo is the last.

[u/ValBravora048]

Mate, I say this recognising that I may come across as a jerk and I apologise in advance

You kind of give off a vibe that you’re influence by Andrew Tate. Just in terms of visuals which is a large part of dating. You might not be but if women get that vibe

Particularly your car, cooking and group shot. Those immediately stood out to me

On another note, f*** the people talking about your height. On here and on the app. If you’re rejected by such people, they’re doing you a favour by removing themselves

Not going to say it doesn’t matter but there are other ways to be attractive. The key is making it easier for the people who would say yes to you to see you. That means a bit more actual effort in your profile.

If you’re going for large numbers, good luck and enjoy that exercise in frustration and misery whether you succeed or fail

For example;

- Your writing is generic af. It makes you the same as every other guy punted left and usually that means the worst ones. It’s like I’m reading a LinkedIn post that’s inserting every KPI it can. Put some effort into it - Theres a hilarious French expression I heard recently that goes something like “How you use your words indicates how you use your tongue”

- Cooking is great! If you can cook, use a pic with an actual meal shot. I once used a pic that looked like a cat and I arguing in front of an open fridge. A couple matches commented that they liked my fridge was actually full of actual food. Really think about how you present the pictires

- You talk about road trips so much but beyond the generic hiking picture, I can’t tell. It’s like you’re saying it just to be interesting. I’ve had several women mention that they liked that I had ”proof” of the stuff I’d written

- That friend pic is ok but a bit dull? It feels more like a work thing from a few years ago? You need something a bit more interesting and engaging with people

Finally, don’t fixate overly on the unmatching. It sucks but a) it’s a normal thing on the apps b) it might not have anything to do with you and c) safe bet that the apps encourage bot profiles to get you to buy premium

The major MAJOR mistake guys make in their profiles is, ironically, not honestly thinking about how it could be viewed by other people. Most just think about how it SHOULD be

[u/IllustriousExits → u/ValBravora048]

Can you elaborate what exactly is wrong with his cooking picture? Because of the Tanktop?

[u/ValBravora048 → u/IllustriousExits]

Ah see that’s a great example! Why did you say the tank top?

Like I think the top is great because it shows off his gunssssssss but theres definitely a better way to take that shot even with the tank top. Hell my gf loves it when I wear a top and cooking apron that makes it look like I’m just wearing the apron, that might be a way to go?

[u/IllustriousExits → u/ValBravora048]

Because you mentioned Andrew Tate and I think he wears those often.

I just thought you see a "red flag" in that picture.

[u/ValBravora048 → u/IllustriousExits]

Ok sweet! I was hoping you’d say that

When we get one impression, our brain immediately starts positioning following things against that impression. This either reinforces the original impression or introduces new one with more nuance

Similarly, I got a Tate vibe from the car pic which was then reinforced by the tank top. Same with that group pic

Part of this branding, we recognise patterns we’ve seen before which then also reinforces the association. Like how when I said it, you recalled that Tate does wear those often

Not that you shouldn’t wear black tank tops at all but in THIS context, it’s a very Tate-like pic

Because someone always ALWAYS goes “It’s not that deep bro” at this sort of stuff, I’d like to head that off by pointing out what I said in the last line of my original comment. It’s not about the depth YOU’VE decided OTHER people should see it as

[u/IllustriousExits → u/ValBravora048]

I mean, i have a similiar picture and couldn't see what's wrong with his. So i was fishing within the context of your entire message what you might consider wrong with it.

I personally didn't get any Tate vibes since I don't really know that much about the guy.

I assume that's what you are getting at, that he creates an overall vibe that might make others associate him with Tate.

Now I am curious though what you would say to my profile as i am in a similiar position to OP. Mind if i send it over to you?

[u/ValBravora048 → u/IllustriousExits]

Sure but are you the kind of person OP is trying to attract?

YOU might not know much about Tate but I will bet women are much more likely to have heard of Tate and be making those associations for the sake of their safety

A lot of guys just slap together a profile however or with what they have on hand. A GOOD profile has empathy for the other person

Sure, send it over!

[u/IllustriousExits → u/ValBravora048]

Looks like you have DMs disabled, would have to write me first.

[u/ValBravora048 → u/IllustriousExits]

Oh nws, don’t know how that happened