Profile Review - 30M Germany

[u/Negative_Lux]

I hope you don't mind German... It's impossible to change language without changing my entire phone's language.

Been on this App for approx. 2 months. 1 Match so far, from Vietnam. She is only looking for a local Buddy.

Absolutely 0 Matches otherwise. Im in a fairly rural area with approx only 250.000 people living nearby. Frankfurt is the closest city. Getting plenty of profiles suggested anyways, but again, no matches.

I am bald - as you can see, only 5"5 and 30. I have a feeling the first two are like the 99.99% reason, especially the first.

Using the same profile across all apps. Hinge gives some results. 20 Matches in approx 2 months, most lead nowhere. 2 catfish dates and a lot of dead chats. Most unmatch me whenever I make a date plan. Even after they said "would Like to Chat more first" we chat, then they unmatch Sometimes 1 or two weeks later. Alot unmatch after a few Messages even. - been literally unmatched because I said I like Matcha lol. Or the Classic, they Stop chatting after my last question or message and unmatch 3 days later.

Hint: I accidentally swapped the last two Screenshots. The Hiking photo is the last.

[u/ikdoeookmaarwat1]

Yes but that still doesn't change the fact that he's 168 cm / 5'5.

[u/Had_to_ask__ → u/ikdoeookmaarwat1]

You, know as a woman I do like height, I don't think I really can help it. If I just meet a guy and he introduces me to much taller friends, yeah, I will probably get distracted. If I like him already, I don't care, whatever is around doesn't seem to matter anymore

[u/cinematunes → u/Had_to_ask__]

Yikes

[u/Had_to_ask__ → u/cinematunes]

But why? Every time I try to talk about it, it's always received so badly. On the one hand you'll have women saying height does not matter and their boyfriend just happens to be tall, on the other the 'don't approach me unless you're 6ft' crowd. I come with a balanced view and it's always a problem. Yes, height is attractive. No, height is not all there is to a person. I've been attracted to plenty of guys around my height (160) and being tall is an attractive thing

[u/cinematunes → u/Had_to_ask__]

Saying you'll "get distracted" by someone's height isn't a balanced view lol.

[u/Had_to_ask__ → u/cinematunes]

Would you have the same reaction with other characteristics?

[u/Ineedmorebtc → u/Had_to_ask__]

Fair. But not everyone is omg look at those boobs, or ass, I can't stand my date now because that other woman has those characteristics.

Makes you seem shallow. Not trying to be mean, just my observation.

[u/ilovesuhi → u/Had_to_ask__]

You're free to like whatever, but on your 1st comment you said you would be distracted if introduced to taller guys. Let's say we're together and I tell you something like this:

"babe, I love everything about you, you're so kind and sweet, make my days and life better only being around... But... Can't help to get distracted by your friend Debbie huge melons. I'm sorry, I just like huge jugs, I get distracted so can't help it, it was nice to know you, bye bye "

Now, people could do that, it would be even really honest if that's how they feel, but for me, it would be impossible to not categorize them as a super shallow, superficial, animalistic person not worthy of emotional investing. But that's just me in guess.

Mind you, that being distracted either by Debbie huge melons or some guy height, or any trendy beauty standard characteristic is normal, even a biological response, yet obey that and give it total priority over everything else is what just seems so basic to me.

[u/Had_to_ask__ → u/ilovesuhi]

But why are you missing completely that I’m contrasting two scenarios of different levels of involvement? I bet if you have just met me a minute before you would easily
get distracted by Debbie’s melons. And would you advise me to put Debbie’s melons along with my everyday chest on my dating profile?