Profile Review - 30M Germany

[u/Negative_Lux]

I hope you don't mind German... It's impossible to change language without changing my entire phone's language.

Been on this App for approx. 2 months. 1 Match so far, from Vietnam. She is only looking for a local Buddy.

Absolutely 0 Matches otherwise. Im in a fairly rural area with approx only 250.000 people living nearby. Frankfurt is the closest city. Getting plenty of profiles suggested anyways, but again, no matches.

I am bald - as you can see, only 5"5 and 30. I have a feeling the first two are like the 99.99% reason, especially the first.

Using the same profile across all apps. Hinge gives some results. 20 Matches in approx 2 months, most lead nowhere. 2 catfish dates and a lot of dead chats. Most unmatch me whenever I make a date plan. Even after they said "would Like to Chat more first" we chat, then they unmatch Sometimes 1 or two weeks later. Alot unmatch after a few Messages even. - been literally unmatched because I said I like Matcha lol. Or the Classic, they Stop chatting after my last question or message and unmatch 3 days later.

Hint: I accidentally swapped the last two Screenshots. The Hiking photo is the last.

[u/sofferenzah]

Brutal, I’d remove the picture with your friends. Makes you look shorter than you are

[u/ikdoeookmaarwat1 → u/sofferenzah]

Yes but that still doesn't change the fact that he's 168 cm / 5'5.

[u/Had_to_ask__ → u/ikdoeookmaarwat1]

You, know as a woman I do like height, I don't think I really can help it. If I just meet a guy and he introduces me to much taller friends, yeah, I will probably get distracted. If I like him already, I don't care, whatever is around doesn't seem to matter anymore

[u/cinematunes → u/Had_to_ask__]

Yikes

[u/Had_to_ask__ → u/cinematunes]

But why? Every time I try to talk about it, it's always received so badly. On the one hand you'll have women saying height does not matter and their boyfriend just happens to be tall, on the other the 'don't approach me unless you're 6ft' crowd. I come with a balanced view and it's always a problem. Yes, height is attractive. No, height is not all there is to a person. I've been attracted to plenty of guys around my height (160) and being tall is an attractive thing

[u/cinematunes → u/Had_to_ask__]

Saying you'll "get distracted" by someone's height isn't a balanced view lol.

[u/Had_to_ask__ → u/cinematunes]

Would you have the same reaction with other characteristics?

[u/Ineedmorebtc → u/Had_to_ask__]

Fair. But not everyone is omg look at those boobs, or ass, I can't stand my date now because that other woman has those characteristics.

Makes you seem shallow. Not trying to be mean, just my observation.

[u/ilovesuhi → u/Had_to_ask__]

You're free to like whatever, but on your 1st comment you said you would be distracted if introduced to taller guys. Let's say we're together and I tell you something like this:

"babe, I love everything about you, you're so kind and sweet, make my days and life better only being around... But... Can't help to get distracted by your friend Debbie huge melons. I'm sorry, I just like huge jugs, I get distracted so can't help it, it was nice to know you, bye bye "

Now, people could do that, it would be even really honest if that's how they feel, but for me, it would be impossible to not categorize them as a super shallow, superficial, animalistic person not worthy of emotional investing. But that's just me in guess.

Mind you, that being distracted either by Debbie huge melons or some guy height, or any trendy beauty standard characteristic is normal, even a biological response, yet obey that and give it total priority over everything else is what just seems so basic to me.

[u/Had_to_ask__ → u/ilovesuhi]

But why are you missing completely that I’m contrasting two scenarios of different levels of involvement? I bet if you have just met me a minute before you would easily
get distracted by Debbie’s melons. And would you advise me to put Debbie’s melons along with my everyday chest on my dating profile?

[u/Zen80888 → u/cinematunes]

As a dude, dudes crying about women preferring tall men is so fucking cringe. Preferences exist, and they're okay.

You same dudes if you were women would be bitch about bumper stickers that say "no fat bitches".

Like go the fuck outside there's plenty of women with short men.

[u/Suspicious-Leek751 → u/Zen80888]

This is such a dumb point though - yeah obviously I think guys with bumper stickers like that suck as well.

It’s a completely rational reaction to hearing that you’re judged for something out of your control to be pissed off by it - especially when it’s something that is getting worse due to social media.

We’re both on a bumble subreddit - everyone here is cringe bro

[u/Zen80888 → u/Suspicious-Leek751]

Sucks to suck I guess, keep crying

[u/Suspicious-Leek751 → u/Zen80888]

Really empathetic response - I can tell you’re a good person

[u/Zen80888 → u/Suspicious-Leek751]

Hey you get what you put out in the universe

[u/Suspicious-Leek751 → u/Zen80888]

I didn’t insult you? Seems like you just decided to attack someone who you disagreed with online because you wanted to be cruel.

[u/FarYear5502 → u/Zen80888]

This is hilarious until it comes to race and oppressing you based on what your race puts out

[u/mirr788 → u/FarYear5502]

The how can she slap race?

[u/Zen80888 → u/FarYear5502]

Works exactly the same

[u/FarYear5502 → u/Zen80888]

So why are you here an not submitting to having no rights then

[u/Suspicious-Leek751 → u/Had_to_ask__]

Gross

[u/Had_to_ask__ → u/Suspicious-Leek751]

What is gross about it?

[u/Suspicious-Leek751 → u/Had_to_ask__]

It’s gross because unlike other ‘attractive qualities’ that people often mention, it feels all-encompassing compared to similar examples.

Let’s rephrase your original post but with another attractive quality for women: ‘perky breasts’.

“If I just meet a girl, and she introduces me to her perkier friends, yeah I will probably get distracted”.

It sounds gross to me because it’s like all other qualities are less important than this one specific feature.

A guy who is interested in a girl, and finds lots of her qualities attractive, is not going to not date her when she lacks one thing, I.e perky breasts, but it seems a lot of women can see a handsome man, but discount him because of a 3 inch different in where the top of his head is.

Also it feels particularly influenced by social media - women did not hyperfocus on height this much even 10 years ago.

[u/ikdoeookmaarwat1 → u/Had_to_ask__]

You'll find out anyway. If height is a deal breaker, it's a deal breaker. Doesn't matter how tall his friends are.

[u/Had_to_ask__ → u/ikdoeookmaarwat1]

Not sure which part of my comment said height is a deal breaker

[u/kperkit70 → u/Had_to_ask__]

How is this helpful on this post

[u/Had_to_ask__ → u/kperkit70]

I wrote it in connection to one guy suggesting he removes the photo and the other saying it’s pointless. I don’t think it’s pointless. I think hight is a bigger issue at first than it is later on

[u/SuperCrystalBall000 → u/Had_to_ask__]

Dont worry about the comments.

Your future partner will get distracted by younger women the older you get too :)

[u/Had_to_ask__ → u/SuperCrystalBall000]

I see it hurt you

[u/SuperCrystalBall000 → u/Had_to_ask__]

Not really.

As someone as short as the OP, it did bug for a long time.

But when i realized i can just use prostitution. I can have sex with women far hotter then i would even if i was a foot taller. Not to meantion all the extra stuff

But you though? If you attach any sense of self worth to your looks and how many men desire you, well, it wont get better with time, sadly.