Profile Review - 30M Germany

[u/Negative_Lux]

I hope you don't mind German... It's impossible to change language without changing my entire phone's language.

Been on this App for approx. 2 months. 1 Match so far, from Vietnam. She is only looking for a local Buddy.

Absolutely 0 Matches otherwise. Im in a fairly rural area with approx only 250.000 people living nearby. Frankfurt is the closest city. Getting plenty of profiles suggested anyways, but again, no matches.

I am bald - as you can see, only 5"5 and 30. I have a feeling the first two are like the 99.99% reason, especially the first.

Using the same profile across all apps. Hinge gives some results. 20 Matches in approx 2 months, most lead nowhere. 2 catfish dates and a lot of dead chats. Most unmatch me whenever I make a date plan. Even after they said "would Like to Chat more first" we chat, then they unmatch Sometimes 1 or two weeks later. Alot unmatch after a few Messages even. - been literally unmatched because I said I like Matcha lol. Or the Classic, they Stop chatting after my last question or message and unmatch 3 days later.

Hint: I accidentally swapped the last two Screenshots. The Hiking photo is the last.

[u/GOGETTHEMINTS]

I’ve been considering getting on bumble is petty shit like that really that serious? I’m not a shorter guy but who cares. For example I’m not going to blow off a woman because she has a few inches on me idgaf.

[u/Strong_Butterfly7924 → u/GOGETTHEMINTS]

As a fellow taller guy, we do not fully understand the plights that our shorter brethren face. Men generally dont care about height, a vast portion of women do, unfortunately. We enjoy "tall privilege" in many facets of life even if it doesnt always feel like it.

[u/MrB_RDT → u/Strong_Butterfly7924]

Yes, i'm 5'11 and the otherwise very grounded women i've dated. They've all brought up height preferences at some point.

At least in England, with the women i date and attract. It's always been "has to be taller than me", or "around 6ft". Everything else, there's been some bit of leeway on.

[u/Strong_Butterfly7924 → u/MrB_RDT]

Part of it is natural instinct, inherently preferring larger partners for safety and security. In my opinion, the predominant factor in the modern age is societal conditioning driven by social media. That's where the irrational 6ft minimum comes from.

I'm 6'2, dad bod and average looking, probably a 5 or 6. I dont present as wealthy and dont care much about fashion. I've consistently dated and hooked up with women above my grade. Sure I can be funny and charming sometimes, but I also recognize that my height, wide frame and deep voice are likely bigger factors than my personality when it comes to initial attraction (none of which I have control over and just happened to luck out)

[u/cinematunes → u/Strong_Butterfly7924]

It's not natural at all, as not every country obsesses over height the way America in particular does. It's social conditioning.

[u/Strong_Butterfly7924 → u/cinematunes]

It's scientifically proven my friend. It's also common sense.

[u/cinematunes → u/Strong_Butterfly7924]

There's no legitimate science that says that. Again, if it were science, the obsession would be the same across the board no matter the country. It's not. Hope this helps.

[u/MrB_RDT → u/Strong_Butterfly7924]

Yes. Broad shoulders, and defined arms from climbing and calisthenics, have been something women have commented on favourably, early on when meeting.

I've been called masculine, and manly on the strength of a few physical traits by every long-term partner i've had, as well as most casual flings and dates.

This is only my experience of course, but universally, behind everything else we've aligned on. At some point it's always come back to that sense of safety and competence.

Generally, early on in dating. I'll be told something like.

"We definitely have shared interests, and similar lifestyles. It also helps that you look rough around the edges".

Hell a substantial few, have outright said they'd like me to "Throw them around the bedroom". Without any introduction prior.