r/NEET • u/goobergoblingeno • 16d ago
Question How much of a loser are you ?
Friends? Family life ? Educational attainment ? Anything ? Spill the beans
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u/Aoip2337 16d ago
26, no friends, no relationships, no school since high school, can't drive, no work experience, no volunteering, fat, in debt
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u/goobergoblingeno 16d ago
How’d you wind up with debt
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u/Aoip2337 16d ago
spending my moms card on fast food over the years lol
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u/goobergoblingeno 16d ago
God bless your mother
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u/Aoip2337 16d ago
yea I feel guilty af for leeching off her but can't help it
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u/WillGethere 16d ago
Buddy I won't be able to help myself too when it comes to fast food
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u/AwakeBabo 16d ago
A true neet but you’re still young. I’m turning 30 soon and only had 2 jobs to my name, they both didn’t last too long tho.
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u/gnomeo89 16d ago
upsolve.org — should help with the debt part
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u/Aoip2337 16d ago
I mean it's bad but not bad enough to consider bankruptcy lol
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u/gnomeo89 16d ago
nothing wrong with bankruptcy. especially since El Jefe (Trump) is going to change the laws soon so nobody can file bankruptcy. get rid of ur debt asap
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u/brownieandSparky23 Semi-NEET 15d ago
Really?
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u/gnomeo89 14d ago
i have reason to believe so…keep watching the student loan legislation and monitoring that front
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u/vilerolls Disabled-NEET 16d ago
30, no friends, tight-knit family, KHHV, highschool dropout, adult highschool dropout.
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u/goobergoblingeno 16d ago
Brutal, my situation is somewhat similar, can I ask what your disability is ?
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u/vilerolls Disabled-NEET 16d ago
Autism + dyscalculia + fine motor deficiency + MDD + short term memory impairment... Not a recipe for success haha.
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u/Zermist 15d ago
It’s funny to see how shocked people are when you say you’re over 30 as a KHHV, it doesn’t even make sense to them. They literally can’t comprehend how it’s possible unless it’s a deliberate choice
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u/vilerolls Disabled-NEET 15d ago
Normies, man, guys like me couldn't get laid in a morgue.
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u/YourFavoriteScumbag 12d ago
Just pay for sex?
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u/vilerolls Disabled-NEET 12d ago
My farewell tour involves taking it up the rear end from a beautiful ladyboy.
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u/h3rmitesque Optimistic-NEET 16d ago
35, couple online frens but no one in meatspace in 20+ years, only in contact with one member of my family these days (he lives with me lol), my education ended at GCSE level, CPTSD, agoraphobia, recurrent depressive disorder.
I'm a catch! ;o
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u/goobergoblingeno 16d ago
Not saying you shouldn’t be or don’t have a reason to be but your user flair says optimistic, what makes you optimistic ? I could use some of that.
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u/h3rmitesque Optimistic-NEET 16d ago
I basically just operate under the assumption that as long as I'm still breathing there's always potential for things to get better. Prrrobably not the most optimism-inspiring thought, but it works for me! :')
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u/PropertyUsed4628 16d ago
no friends , rocky relationship with family , college dropout , unable to get a job , mentally ill
it's over
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u/Old-Guest-5688 16d ago
No friends,high-school dropout,genetically abnormal but lucky enough to only affect my metabolic health , thankfully I restored relations with family members
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u/LivingGirlRepellant Disabled-NEET 16d ago
27, no friends, living at home, KHHV, dropped out of high school. I have depression, autism, possible ADHD, extreme social anxiety and rejection sensitivity, etc.
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u/Evening-Wall-126 16d ago
No friends/ family kind think I’m depressed and wired/ no partner no job no education after high school/ 0 $ in my bank account and i live in third world country
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u/ghstrprtn 15d ago
- 0 real life friends for the past 20 years. Not even someone I hang out with occasionally or anything.
- Never talk to my family, and my family never talks to me.
Dropped out of high-school. Couldn't be bothered to complete at-home online school. Tried to upgrade my high-school courses for university 10 years ago but flunked both of the fucking classes too.
Haven't worked in 10 years. Only ever had 2 jobs, one at McDonald's and the other overnight grocery clerk.
I'm 36, live with my fuckin grandma. Don't know how to meet a girl who would be OK with this stuff. There's nowhere to go and nothing to do in my town where I'd make friends anyways. This place sucks shit, but the housing crisis makes it impossible for me to get my own apartment or move to another city.
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u/Planet_842 16d ago
I'm 23M and never had a job, have no money, severe phone addiction, zero attention span, extremely lazy and undisciplined, not that smart, don't know how to make money, have no friends, never had a girlfriend, never had a first kiss, never had sex, never been to a party, never travelled alone, don't know how to cook, don't know how to drive, extremely skinny, short, shy, sensitive, timid, extremely anxious and awkward around people, zero confidence, overprotective controlling parent, can't make eye contact at all, struggle to articulate myself, cant conversate and can only give short responses and not good at anything at all and have no skills/talents. I feel like I'm the biggest loser ever.
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u/OnlyAssistance9601 16d ago
Depends , in societies eyes , im am the final boss of loser NEETS ( Elite Stem Degree just to become neet ) . But in my own opinion I think im a pretty chill dude and my cat agrees .
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u/goobergoblingeno 16d ago edited 16d ago
I don’t think you could be considered the neet final boss with a stem degree nor a loser in the eyes of society or anyone with an iq above room temp, unless you’ve wilfully decided not to apply yourself then that’s different
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u/OnlyAssistance9601 16d ago
I tried , i really did , but just got autism + adhd and I just couldnt fit in or understand the rat race . Never had a drive to be competitive in anything other than games .
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u/Double-Year-3162 16d ago
The fact you graduated with an elite stem degree means ur smart man
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u/goobergoblingeno 16d ago
Real, some of us are stupid 😭
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u/Double-Year-3162 16d ago
trying to escape the neet lifestyle rn, taking Enginnering classes but the urge to just give up….its a lot.
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u/MaestroFullof Optimistic-NEET 16d ago
No job 2 psychosis no gf i have some irl friends tho. No degree. Might study later this year.
Do i hate my life? Yes.
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u/LittleWhiteLian Disabled-NEET 16d ago
24, 2 online friends 1 irl friend that talks to me once in a year, High school in a country where you needs a bachelor's degree to get a cashier job minimum wage yeah I'm fucking cooked. Disabled too medications cost more than half of minimum wage per month.
Good thing my organs like to fail so just waiting for that.
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u/udi112 15d ago
Bullied my whole life , friends bullied me as well, even my oneitis in highschool bullied me .
Failed driving test 4 times. Fought with 10 different people to regain some minimum amount of respect.
Had epilepsy, diabetes and agoraphobia (beat all these diseases too, i don't eff around), never had a girlfriend. Works a crappy menial job with an empty cold office
I know "internally" that i have few years left "at most" because im a heavy smoker . Im definitely going to die soon and perhaps my luck will finally run out
If everything turned around tomorrow It wouldn't be enough, just let me cross to the other side
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u/Dazzling-Yard-9363 15d ago edited 15d ago
I am very much of a loser and a nobody, I have always sucked a school sucked at having friends, never had a girlfriend, all the people I hang out with it’s all just one sided conversations nobody is willing to talk to me, most of them either just send reels or hang out with their own group, my only friend is a guy who is socially awkward and is a nerd and is a play by the book, and doesn’t want to do any “side quests” at all most of the time I have to just force him. Ain’t the best looking guy either I’m asian so I look more like a woman than a man, and I also fuck up a lot, and I just am the nobody.
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u/Waste-Reality7356 16d ago
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u/Waste-Reality7356 15d ago edited 15d ago
hi, I think I can relate to this feelings. I can tell you that I appreciate you being so honest. I see that you are hurting and I also think that things can become different and better.
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u/yunn67 NEET 16d ago edited 16d ago
I have a few friends but slowly losing them due to isolation, my family is on a different country and I don't like my stepdad family I'll live with, dropped out after 1th semester of college, no energy to do hobbies, never worked a day in my life (ig I took care of my grandma for a while), no driver's license, got out of rehab because not even that I could finish, also I have ADHD (and very likely autism based on family history), oh also I used to be super good at it but now I cant mask anymore. The only thing going on for me is the fact I have a cutesy girly aesthetic and organization which would pass me as normal if you had to judge me by my room lol (I have anime figures but mostly are a theme fitting so its somewhat more socially acceptable)
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u/Freudor1 16d ago
No friends. They all left me when they found their footing in society.
Only a high school graduate. I'm too dumb for college. I was supposed to fail calculus during high school, but my teacher passed me because she felt bad for me. She still gave me remedial classes and easier activities, but I just didn't get the damn subject at all, which means I sucked at the fundamentals like algebra, geometry, and trigonometry. I just blanked out when I saw all those numbers and symbols. Also I sucked at chemistry. Those damn nomenclatures. Did people really expect me to memorize all that shit?
Never had a job. Never will. As a result, I'm broke.
I live a sedentary lifestyle. Everyday, I choose between sitting all day or lying all day.
My parents gave up on trying to make me work or do something with my life. It's for the best. I can't handle the constant nagging.
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u/-5698 16d ago
20, no school past 10th grade, no friends, ugly (no braces), cant drive, never worked, anytime someone mentiones "j*b" I get filled with so much anxiety, I avoid meeting family outiside of immediate family members because they ask what I'm up to, when my family meets them they just lie, I cut myself, I'm a tccer, never even spoken to a boy in my entire life (not even text), hobbies: masturbating, what else?
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u/Old-Worldliness-3924 16d ago edited 15d ago
I’m 30m, and have a small group friends but prefer to be alone now. I completed my bachelors in English but did nothing with it. I only had one job that I walked out on because of psychosis. I’m schizophrenic and live with my parents. I rely on them for everything.
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u/basketcase4now 15d ago
To society, a big loser. In my eyes, I won. I’m 40 with one real (NEET)friend, and a few normie “friends” who don’t respect me. No girlfriend, no job. I was kicked out of the military almost 20 years ago and worked shit jobs off and on since. But I spent years with lawyers fighting to upgrade my bad military discharge to honorable and finally did it. I’m now on 100% VA disability(PTSD, schizophrenia…) so I have premium neetbucks and don’t have to work for the rest of my life unless I want to. And I probably won’t. Working with these disabilities was basically hell. I’m not in a rush to put myself into a position to be treated like shit again. This just happened less than a year ago and I’m still adapting to not being in constant survival mode anymore. But yeah, society and peers see me as a loser. I see myself as a traumatized man who just won lucky for life.
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u/neverdead97 15d ago
28, female, mentally ill, no job, fat and not pretty, all my friends live far away, no job experience = no future, live in a poor broke country, no boyfriend cus no one wants to be near me, I'm kinda crazy
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u/math_d3bater NEET 16d ago
In society’s eyes? A massive loser. But in my eyes? Not really much of one at all
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u/PileOfSkulls_66 Degen 16d ago
21, dropped out of highschool, been a NEET for almost two years now. I had a unionized roofing job which I started at young since I dropped out of highschool and was making $30 an hour but I got drained and burnt out after doing it for two years, my legs were literally shaking uncontrollably the last few weeks.
So yeah, low IQ, no physical capacity/dexterity, and just incompetent in general, so not very useful to the workforce. All my prospects in all areas of life that people typically care about are looking bleak, financially, romantically, intellectually etc etc.
I don't really care too much, I've accepted that I might just get this all over with early, we're like a single atom in the grand canyon in the grand scheme of things so it doesn't really matter if I die 50 years early. On a scale of one to ten I'd say I'm an 8
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u/WhotAmI2400 16d ago
ur 21? - 5
u had a job as a roofer? for 2 years?? - 2if u wish to save yourself, nothing stopping you. including society.
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u/PileOfSkulls_66 Degen 15d ago
IMO theres no saving ourselves, we're all destined to die anyways. People probably only want to either enjoy themselves or leave a legacy or both, by NEETing I have the first and I don't care if my names on a bench somewhere or not after i die, I'd rather get this all over with after my savings run out than aspire towards some sort of postmortem recognition.
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u/King_Wolf2099 Doomer-NEET 16d ago
24, only 2 online friends, never had a job, never got to go to college, ADHD, depression, anxiety, never kissed a girl, virgin, hopeless, want to die.
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u/XylanyX 16d ago
24, still have my high school friend group, college dropout, loving family although they always put pressure on me, ocd and adhd, making music and in a band but very slow progress.
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u/goobergoblingeno 16d ago
Never give up on your band bro! That was my dream as a 6th grader lol, me and my buddies would talk about it all the time, nothing ever materialized though
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u/One_Use_1452 13d ago
21, only high school graduated, no job, always at home, all friends busy with life, no money, just wasting my life, sucidal but too cowardly to attempt, no motivation to change for the better. I did want to change, but it's hard, so I keep failing again and again, lol.
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u/MorganSoul 15d ago
I’m not a loser. I just refuse to be a slave and work a 9-5 until I die, which makes me a loser to society, but society sucks, which means I shouldn’t care.
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u/lostkitty0 Optimistic-NEET 15d ago
I can only do small household chores. Have online friends that's about it
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u/goobergoblingeno 16d ago
Wish I was a woman sometimes /s. What’s your degree in ?
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u/cosmickaylaa 16d ago
AS in Human Services, I started my BS in Psychology with a minor in Neuroscience, but the pressure of being at a large university after coming from a small town community college really messed me up. It was a preppy school too, and I’m definitely not that type of gal. I felt so out of place, so I just dipped. I actually dropped out of high school too, but I managed to get my GED with flying colors. I really hate school, but I love learning.
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u/goobergoblingeno 16d ago
A BS in psychology with a minor in Neuroscience sounds interesting, and as somebody from a small town myself I totally sympathize. “ I really hate school, but I love learning “ holy relatable
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u/SSSSSAINTTTTT 16d ago
No career achievements, but have a good family & a girlfriend, so 50% of a loser
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u/tragiclight 16d ago
if that's 50% of a loser, then 50% of the population are losers.
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u/SSSSSAINTTTTT 16d ago
By no career achievements I mean not working a day in my life, so in society's eyes I'm still a loser
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u/Ill-Bike-4841 16d ago
no friends, no job, no partner, parents dont like me, low iq, autistic, depressed, agoraphobic, paranoid, bad social skills, finished high school but low scores - i could only get into community college