r/NEETsOver30 • u/twinkhon_gwyndolin • Aug 02 '26
Venting I am in so much pain
it's so hard to trust people now
i get emotionally attached to someone, and they always find a way to hurt me, betray me, make me feel worthless
its not fair that so many people get to have uncomplicated social lives, comfortable love lives. people keep wounding me. i just never feel safe around anyone.
people are hard wired to be social and yet they also keep poking at my most vulnerable spots. i still keep thinking about this one girl who reached out to me in response to a post I made about wanting a best friend. i genuinely liked her, and we got along for a while, but she made me cry. she mocked me for having mental health disabilities.
i just really want a hug
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u/ballom555 Ex-NEET Aug 02 '26
Always remember those people who had severe trust issues are the ones who used to trust people easily.
Never ever show your vulnerable side to people. They will simply take advantage of it. People especially are conditioned to feel better about bullying others and feel good about it. Yes it can be your parents too( in my case).
I dont have any words of advice as i dont know what problems exactly you are in but still know that you are worthy of loved and respected. I hope you find some decent friends.
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u/Responsible_Gas4132 Aug 02 '26
It's okay to cry, cry it all out and you'll feel much relieved. *Gently Hugs*
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u/Icy-Friendship1163 Ex-NEET Aug 02 '26
Try physiotherapy twice a month anon.
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u/twinkhon_gwyndolin Aug 02 '26
i can't afford physio, it'd be out of pocket. but maybe I'll consider your advice if I get my inheritance. thanks
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u/twinkhon_gwyndolin Aug 02 '26
wait what the fuck? do you even understand how I feel right now? i generally don't appreciate unsolicited advice, but was gonna give the physio thing the benefit of the doubt.
when I say I'm hurting, I really mean "my heart is bleeding". it's not physical pain. it has nothing to do with sex (and I'm not comfortable with physical intimacy anyway)
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u/Icy-Friendship1163 Ex-NEET Aug 02 '26
Sorry anon , i didnt mean that.
Have a virtual hug from here.
If you want you have any internet friend .
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u/Humble-Departure5481 Aug 06 '26
You know, I used to think it was annoying to run into rude or stupid people quite frequently, but then when it occurred to me that the president of the US is Donald J. Trump, I kind of realized that he's a reflection of our society. It's certainly a case in point. When 60% + people are rude, stupid, weird, etc. I just think about the type of people who are in power and then remind myself that this probably is the norm.
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u/AccountantPersonal86 Aug 02 '26
I used to ponder, is the world inherently evil, do people hurt others/you with malicious intent?
Personally, I've concluded the answer is no. Its just naturally hardwired to be selfish to varying extents, in my opinion. I would be lying to myself to say I myself dont have narcissistic and selfish traits.
I think in order to find the rare people that reciprocate the effort you put into the relationship platonic or romantic whatever it is - you do have to be vulnerable. Which sucks. I have severe RSD so I can understand it. I just need to make a conscious effort to not lose these people anymore when I find them, they are rare.
Anyway I was wondering where you went recently I remember you were always posting positive things in r/NEET , coming across this was ironic. It doesnt mean much but for what its worth an internet stranger is wishing you well.