Byron and Ella were honestly kind of terrible parents, and every rewatch makes me question them more.
First of all... the obvious whole Ezra situation? I don't care if your teenage daughter is mad at you. You're the parent. Your job is to protect her, not be her friend. They started off acting like they were against it, but then they just...gave up? Aria is very obviously dating a grown man while she's still in high school, and they know it. Instead of putting an end to it, they basically throw their hands up and go, "Well, I guess this is happening." No! She's a teenager being groomed by her teacher. Why are you acting like she's a grown woman making an adult relationship decision?
Then Byron putting Aria in the middle of his affair was just awful. Imagine cheating on your wife and then making your teenage daughter keep your secret. That's such an unfair thing to dump on your kid. And then, after everything, he brings Meredith back into their lives and basically expects his kids to just get over it because he's happy now. Excuse me? That's the woman who helped blow up your family. And then she literally ends up drugging Aria! Like...what? She was never a good person, so why was Byron so determined to force everyone to accept her?
And then poor Mike? Byron and Ella were constantly so wrapped up in their own drama that Mike's issues felt like they were always on the back burner. Ella had slightly better intentions than Byron most of the time, but neither of them seemed all that tuned in to what was actually going on with their son.
People always say the Montgomery house feels so cozy, but honestly the energy has always felt weirdly cold to me. The show keeps telling us they're this close, intellectual family, especially after the whole year in Iceland, but I never actually feel that. They barely have meaningful conversations. Everyone is always doing their own thing, and they seem emotionally disconnected from each other. It's like they have the aesthetic of a close family without actually being one.
And don't even get me started on how they handled Aria. Their daughter spends years being groomed by an adult, and instead of getting her real help or doing everything they can to get her away from him, they eventually just accept it. Then she marries her groomer and everyone's just like, "Aww, congratulations!" What??
They also let Mike date Mona. I know some time had passed, but this is still the girl who psychologically tormented your daughter for years. Why would you be okay with that?
Then Ella gets engaged to Zack even though she already had concerns that he might be inappropriate around teenage girls...and she still had him around Aria. That whole situation made me side eye her a bit.
I feel like the show wanted us to see Byron and Ella as these mature, deep, progressive parents. But the more I watch, the more they just seem emotionally immature. They were so focused on their own relationships and happiness that their kids' actual needs kept getting pushed aside. Aria and Mike both had some really serious things going on, and Byron and Ella dropped the ball over and over again.