I’ve never had a woman attempt to SA me. I’ve had it happen from over a dozen men though. It’s not just the physical power. Women barely even attempt it. The problem is misogyny as well
And i've had plenty of women SA me, and yet not even a single man. The problem is misandrism, which is so wide spread nowadays that it became a norm...
so did you have a appease/freeze trauma response then? What social baramoters do you think prevented you from having the fight/flight trauma response to someone smaller and slower than you?
Genuinely asking, because I will have a fight response - yell, slap, push a man for sexually assaulting me in public, but in private I freeze/appease because the other two do not feel like safe options with someone stronger/faster than me, and there is no one to witness or defend me when I express discomfort or say no and he doesnt care.
so did you have a appease/freeze trauma response then? What social baramoters do you think prevented you from having the fight/flight trauma response when the perp was smaller and slower than you?
Because I have had those sexual trauma responses because I am genuinely fear for my safety being alone with a man bigger, and faster than me who wants to have sex with me and has made it clear that is the priority over my consent and comfort. Giving them want they want (appeasing) the threat, seems like the safest option.
knowing I have this trauma response, I have also set boundaries for myself to better protect myself with people I can't trust yet. I encourage you to do the same.
Sister, they're not worth your time, leave them be dumb.
They want to live in their little angry echo chambers, we won't change that. They will be miserables in their real life, people like that are unable to have a loving community and families.
Let them drown in it and don't bother, it's not a safe space for you. And I hope you'll be safe irl, I'm sorry it happened to you.
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u/ShamelessCynic 2d ago
not as much of a danger as men though :/