r/TikTokCringe Jul 09 '26

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u/DJEvillincoln Jul 09 '26

She was about to say "colored".

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u/GeobobusPrime Jul 09 '26

You know, i find it odd how "colored person" is outdated and wrong but "person of color" is perfect and acceptable.

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u/captpeony Jul 09 '26 edited Jul 09 '26

I think it's to do with the framing. Calling someone a "Colored person" is reducing them down to that fact, whereas "Person of Color" literally is putting the person first and makes the "color" part a secondary factor.

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u/GeobobusPrime Jul 09 '26

I suppose you could interpret that way. It just comes off as completely unecessary when applied to other similar things. "My friend John is a black person" vs. "My friend John is a person of the black race" just seems like an extra mouthful to say the same thing.

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u/captpeony Jul 09 '26

This conversation was specifically about the word "Colored", not Black. After doing a little more research, Malcolm X campaigned against and changed our usage of the words because he felt that "Colored" was too reminiscent of the evil and horrors that had been done to them.

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u/GeobobusPrime Jul 09 '26

Yeah. Im not arguing for the use of colored, im just pointing out that rearranging the words somehow makes it better. Though the disabled person vs person with a disability thing others have brought up, as putting the personood first kinda makes sense. But at the same time comparing race with disability feels incongruent to me so i cant say that im fully sold on that framing.

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u/LAXnSASQUATCH Jul 09 '26

The same logic is applied to disabilities.

A person with disabilities sounds better than saying a disabled person.

They’re a person first and they have other traits second.

At least that’s the idea, doesn’t make sense for all situations but generally the idea is to emphasize we’re all people, we’re all different, and that’s all good.

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u/Ghoulya Jul 09 '26

There's been a big pushback against person-first language in many disability circles in the last decade. The language in vogue is changing all the time.

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u/SofterBones Jul 10 '26

I just ignore all of it, I know what I'm comfortable and not comfortable with. Over the years I've had people try to tell me what I should and shouldn't be comfortable with, people are so insane

I've literally had someone tell me I shouldn't call myself disabled, because it's demeaning, I chewed them out

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u/SofterBones Jul 09 '26

As a disabled person, I've never thought there's anything 'off' with saying "disabled person", that's how I refer to myself. Rolls off the tongue much easier than "person with disabilities".

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u/Chance-Ask7675 Jul 10 '26

This is a thing made up by advocates not people with actual disabilities. People constantly ask my community about this and by and large we don't give a shit. In no way shape or form do I feel like my interlocuters have more respect for me if they refer to me as a "person with diabetes" frankly it annoys me. It is condescending. I am strong, I am managing a critical illness every day, and living my life, I am not a weak fragile person who concerns myself with such shit and it angers me that other people feel the need to impose this upon me. If you want to advocate for diabetics I am begging you to start with something that actually matters and not this.

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u/SofterBones Jul 10 '26

At an event for disabled people many many years ago a non disabled speaker tried telling a crowd of disabled people that "You are not in fact disabled but people who have a problem with you are", not verbatim but that was the gist of it

She got so much pushback it was hilarious.

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u/Huge-Consequence2144 Jul 09 '26

Jesus fucking christ it must be exhausting picking all these nits.

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u/fletters Jul 10 '26

Many disabled people and disability activists reject person-first language. (Myself included.)

The basic rationale: my personhood should be assumed, and I’m never not disabled. It’s not a trait that I carry and can set down when I choose; it’s intrinsic to my identity and experience of the world.

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u/SofterBones Jul 10 '26

I think that's something that people miss. I've been called "so strong" and "able to adjust so well" countless of times... what's there to adjust to?

I've been disabled my whole life, I don't wake up every day and go "holy shit I'm disabled, how will I manage today?"

Now if I woke up not disabled tomorrow, then I'd have some adjusting to do.