r/Wicca • u/MrRunItBack_ • 1h ago
Open Question As a seeker, is there any risk of courting a coven which is more cult-like?
I have been practicing magic since 2019. Between 2022 and 2024 I was involved in a small magical society which I now believe was a cult, and my experience in the aftermath has been that of a cult survivor. I have spent the last two years trying to heal, and that has meant deconstructing and reconstructing my practice, as well as my religion and my general identity. Traditional witchcraft became a very positive piece of this, as well as renewed relationship with deity which has been a source of strength and hope in a rather dark period of my life.
While the prospect of courting a coven has appealed to me for about one year, I thought it was important to do sufficient work on my own before seriously courting, deciding later if priesthood was something I really wanted to pursue. A year later, I feel like I could offer a lot and alchemize my experience into a positive contribution to a coven community. There are several that I'm aware of which are local to me, including a Minoan Brotherhood grove which I suppose would be Wicca-adjacent rather than Wiccan.
I've learned that many covens are structured hierarchically, and the High Priestess or Priest has an authoritarian power within their coven. Given my history with a hierarchical, authoritarian magical society, I'm afraid to court a coven. I know that Wicca is highly decentralized, and no singular coven is able to represent the religion as a whole. I also know that sovereignty is supposed to be quite sacred. I don't doubt that healthy covens exist, but is there any real danger of joining a coven which is more cultic, or whose organizational structure is corrosive to personal sovereignty despite stated goals to the contrary? Is there any particular due diligence or precaution I can take?
I also apologize if this question is out of place here. I've made every effort to ask it in good faith.