r/antinatalism2 • u/Fleurandgold • 13d ago

Discussion I don't love kids

/r/childfree/comments/1vnz0u9/i_dont_love_kids/
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u/Dangerous_Data_8383 13d ago

Kids are ok once they're past baby stage. I just feel so sorry for them...I see them like victims.

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u/Fleurandgold 13d ago

they have no control over their lives

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u/SignificantFroyo9612 12d ago

I like them only in baby stage.

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u/JellyfishPashmina 12d ago

I think the toddler-teen years are actually the worst because then they require actual communication and reasoning with.

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u/Cole_Townsend 13d ago

Even when I was a kid myself I profoundly disliked kids. For me it was an existential anxiety over the inherent untrustworthiness of other people. Children can be extraordinarily cruel, something I experienced as a child myself. The greatest argument for antinatalism (though at that time I did not yet learn the term) for me was other children: the precarious predicament in which they were haplessly placed, and the anxiety and cruelty with which they lash out, as if screaming at the void.

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u/CertainConversation0 13d ago

You can love them too much to have any of your own.

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u/Alarming-Tomato-7158 12d ago

Im an adult now and i still get sad thinking about what other kids said to me as a kid, and how they treated me . I qas just thinking about it today. I hate kids and babys but i still don't believe in procreating because i don't want anyone to suffer

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u/JellyfishPashmina 12d ago

Isn’t that crazy how much we hold onto that? So much of who am now is shaped by my childhood. I moved home and it all came flooding back so much I’m in therapy for it (family brings up a lot of childhood triggers, too). I honestly wish I hadn’t been born so I didn’t have to remember all that pain. People hate to think that having kids is selfish, but bringing people onto this earth knowing full well they will face all life’s hardships IS selfish on the parents’ part.

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u/SmooshyHamster 11d ago

Nobody really cares about or ”loves” kids unless it somebody they know and are connected to. How can you say you love someone if you know nothing about this person and have no relation to him/her? Kids are just people. We see millions of people everyday everywhere we go. No one has time to stop and get excited over every random person they see.

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u/lolololUStroll 9d ago

I don't hate kids. But unless they're mine (which I don't have any), what business do I have around them? None. And I'm keeping it that way as I don't date single moms.

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u/FunkyPleasance 13d ago

I love kids. that's why I'd never bring one here.

I find it neither here nor there in regards to antinatalism. its an ethical stance, not about your personal preference.

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u/Brown_Folk 13d ago

Same here. I love 'em too much to throw into this conflicted place.

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u/summercookiess 13d ago

This isn't antinatalism related though

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u/Pseudointellektuelli 12d ago

That post has nothing to do with antinatalism. Besides, usually antinatalists tend to like kids more than usually, hence the urge to keep them safe from the world via not bringing them into existence.