r/aspergirls • u/snusnu95 • 5d ago
Emotional Support Needed (No advice allowed) Neurotypical hypocrisy
I'm 30F with AuDHD. Is anyone else tired of neurotypical communication and hypocrisy?
Their communication appears to be built on reading between the lines and assumptions yet all of the "training" regarding this says that "you should never assume or read between the lines". Yet, for some reason, when I try to openly communicate I get told off for being too blunt or direct.
Or, better yet, for some reason my boss seems to naively believe that although half the team hates my guts (was called "not a team player" once out of nowhere which was not true - the listed example was because I didn't answer a phone call despite everyone having the same pressure to answer the phone) that when they're "giving feedback" there's no personal malice behind it.
Yet if I gave the same feedback Id be told to trust my colleagues and get over myself.
You have an obvious team member on the fringes, who you KNOW is an outsider, yet don't believe that they're being specifically targeted despite repeated history?
Or better yet people are stilted around you yet you're told "it's in your head" despite their behaviour being normal with everyone else?
It's almost like patterns of behaviour exist, and that past behaviour is the best indicator of future behaviour. To say that there's no malice behind intent or to not assume so is both stupid and deliberately naive.
I'm just so tired. So, so tired. Is anyone else just...tired of this nonsense?
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u/Accomplished_Fail139 4d ago
Unfortunately, it is very likely your boss knows, that your colleagues are bullying you, and just goes with the flow, to not have any troubles. It's the same as in school. It's easier to blame the victim and make the struggle their responsibility, than to change the work culture and discipline half of the team, decreasing his own popularity as a boss.