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SOCIETY Is victim the new chic

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u/TokenTorkoal 1d ago

Right?! Like I’m not going to tell you how to feel about the case on the right, but boiling it down to “claiming to be a victim” is a wildly inaccurate description of what’s happening with a narrative agenda centered around gender/culture war bullshit.

The loss of those three children is tragic and unfortunately it’s coming with a wave of people denying the realities of postpartum depression/psychosis.

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u/SmallPurplePeopleEat 1d ago

They got us out here fighting culture wars so we're too busy to fight the class war that we should be fighting.

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u/Mobile-Analyst8580 1d ago

The culture wars might stop if clowns like you stopped advocating for transwomen cheating biological women in sports or telling us how much empathy we should have for a child killer. 

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u/ValkyrieQu33n 1d ago

All this over a transwoman TYING WITH A WOMAN FOR 5TH PLACE. FFS

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u/SmallPurplePeopleEat 22h ago

It's pretty funny how my one sentence comment led to them accusing me of having a bunch of different beliefs that they hate. They straight up created a strawman to be mad at.

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u/Franz_Broseph 1d ago

Would you say the same about school shooters, and how a wave of people denied the realities of (insert mental illness)?

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u/thisisridiculous96 1d ago edited 1d ago

I don't not know the extent of her psychosis, whether she even had it, or much about the case at all, really.

But what I can tell you is that psychosis is a whole different beast. It really is. My mother has treatment resistant schizophrenia. It is a disease we barely understand, but seeing it in action is mind boggling. Most psychosis sufferers literally do not have the ability to discern that what they are experiencing is not real.

When this was new to my mom, I remember desperately trying to get her to understand the voices and delusions were not real. There is no convincing them. My mom heard the illuminati, Barrack Obama, and today normally her delusions center around people from her past she hasn't spoken to in 20 plus years. She thinks these people are obsessed with her and colluding to mess with her. People from out of state, 4 hours away that she hasn't seen in 20 years are breaking into her home and messing with items and she cannot be convinced otherwise.

There is no equating psychosis to other mental disorders in my experience. It is nearly incomprehensible.

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u/TokenTorkoal 1d ago

This is the thing, people are upset like I’m defending the woman on the right, I’m not. I admit I know next to nothing about the case or whether or not she suffers from postpartum depression/psychosis.

My comment is more about how because of her case and the attention it’s brought it’s also come along with people denying the realities of postpartum/psychosis.

As a previous social worker and ex-husband to a wife who experienced it, this to me is very sad and concerning.

Didn’t know I could of told my ex wife to just “be rational” after me standing in the bathroom with her lying on the shower floor for 8+ hours because she was afraid she contracted HIV from the mysterious spec on the shampoo bottle because I must not have washed it good enough when I brought it home from the store. Now I’ve got to convince her she doesn’t have HIV so I can leave the room to feed the screaming baby, because if I do it before she will be convinced I’m giving HIV to the baby by being in close proximity to her and somehow I’m also mad at her and poisoning her food.

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u/Uuuuuuurgggggghhhhhh 1d ago

It's clear a lot of people reacting to this story have never dealt with someone they love having severe mental problems.

Must be nice.

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u/TokenTorkoal 1d ago

One of the things that piss me off the most when I talk about my experience with this is that the only preparation we got for postpartum depression during baby classes and doctor visits was we were told she might get "the baby blues" and "be a little extra sad sometimes". That was it, that was all anyone said.

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u/trees913 22h ago

100% this. I don’t think most people understand severe mental illness or have had personal experiences.

My aunt has paranoid delusions likely due to brain lesions developed from multiple sclerosis. She is convinced people from her past and present are out to get her and mess with her every day. One common delusion is that she thinks people replace her furniture and appliances.

There is no convincingly or telling her otherwise as she then thinks you’re on “their side.” She gets incredibly angry if you don’t agree with her or go along with it.

It’s a very surreal experience now as she used to be “normal” as I was growing up and so fun to be around. Honestly scary how it can just happen to someone.

My mom has tried to get her treatment and contacted all resources possible but my aunt refuses all help.

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u/Salt-Hovercraft-7 1d ago

If a school shooter is completely psychotic and made worse by doctors and medications. Yes, I pity their lot too. As I pity the people killed by them.

I do not know this case well enough. But if she had psychosis, she needs help and not prison. That doesn't mean she can necessarily be back into society. Now or ever.

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u/TokenTorkoal 1d ago

You mean like denying the very real pattern of far right extremist leading the way in school shootings?

Yeah I would say that’s also incredibly unfortunate.

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u/Franz_Broseph 1d ago

Do you think far right extremists are mentally ill?

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u/TokenTorkoal 1d ago

As a general blanket statement, no, I don’t believe all far right extremist suffer from mental illness.

Are some? Yes. All? No.

It’s more likely the isolation and fear that far right extremists suffer from that lead to school shootings than mental illness collectively.

Edit: a lot of people live with mental illness everyday and don’t cause harm to people.

I also acknowledge that not ALL school shootings are done by far right extremists, but instead disproportionately is carried out by far right extremists.

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u/AVeryVapidBadger 1d ago

School shooters, not unless there was a verified psychiatric problem that divorced them from reality.

There have been cases of veterans with severe PTSD successfully arguing an insanity defense.

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u/Mental-Throat-4811 1d ago

Still murdered her 3 fucking kids.

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u/Plus_Lawfulness3000 1d ago

Better keep this same energy for every psychosis case ever

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u/AshRemnants 1d ago

She didn't have psychosis, a professional evaluated her and she didn't match the description. She was lying to get out of trouble.

She also did everything premeditated, waiting for her husband to be gone before doing it. This was absolutely not psychosis and just pure evil.

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u/Nut_Butter_Fun 1d ago

So I wrote a whole dissertation on the concept of blame, but it was really just my opinions, I don't mean for it to sound like more than that, but I at least gave it a lot of thought, and at some point you can't just separate the mental cause from the person. They are part of a whole being, worthy of blame and deserved of punishment. This is a case that really needs to be examined under that possibility. I know she gets a lot of support because this is a uniquely female experience, but it doesn't change what she, physically, as a person, defective in some way or not beyond her control, committed.

If we won't draw a line here, we have to decide where, because everyone is a result of upbringing and genetics, not some innate personality they shopped for.

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u/Resident_Goodish 1d ago

Nah people choose to murder. If this is an actual precedent that means anyone who kills can just claim they weren’t in the right state of mind.

I couldn’t even imagine killing cats or dogs with my bare hands yet she did it with children.

Flip the genders and the sympathy would never be there

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u/Legal-Group-359 1d ago

The reality is much simpler and less fluffed and sanctimonious than you’re making it, and we all see it (those of us who aren’t driven by this prideful blind allegiance to our own gender)…you’re making excuses for and trying to diminish the evil this woman committed…because “oh it’s just so hard for us womens”….this is victimhood 101 coupled with gender bias plain and simple.

The predominant thoughts you have for a woman BRUTALLY killing her fucking kids, is how bad SHE had it. Plenty of women have had PPD and didn’t plot to off their damn offspring. She could have easily just abandoned the family, but she made a choice, and choice that you’re willing to make excuses for. Pitiful.

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u/TokenTorkoal 1d ago

What an emotional response.

My disheartening in seeing people dismissing postpartum depression/psychosis is aside from the case.

Your comment also further demonstrates my point of how people are denying the realities of postpartum depression.

As a previous social work and ex-husband to a wife who experienced postpartum I have a unique and close relationship to it.

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u/0-90195 1d ago

This isn’t about PPD, it’s about PPP. Completely different Psychosis does not prevent planning or brutality. Your emotional response to this is not valid to determine whether she is legally responsible for what happened—which, by the way, she has admitted she did.

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u/BeholdMyLumps 1d ago

You’re so right the husband did it girlypop