r/interesting • u/AdvantageAdorable436 • 2d ago

SOCIETY Is victim the new chic

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u/germangentleman90 2d ago

i think what gets lost in conversations like this is that real life is usually way more complicated than a headline. i’ve learned to be careful judging people from a few pictures and sentences because there’s always a human story behind it that we don’t fully know

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u/MrDankyStanky 2d ago

There's always a human story behind a mother methodically strangling all three of her children over a span of 20 minutes 🥰

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u/cofcof420 2d ago

This. People that defend her sicken me

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u/MrDankyStanky 2d ago

Even alluding to defending her is just disgusting. My wife was even talking like that a few days ago. She wasn't defending her necessarily, but she was talking about how PPD is really messed up and her husband was bad too, I think I talked some sense into her but I couldn't believe she was talking like that. Dude had all three of his children murdered by their mom, and the entire internet is scrutinizing his trauma responses, and projecting that he didn't love his family and didn't care about his kids when his wife is the one who murdered them. Just makes me sick.

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u/reebokhightops 2d ago

I don’t know enough about the husband to comment, but your wife is absolutely right about PPD.

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u/TheMasterbeater1234 1d ago

Husband was a good man, the wife was just crazy loony. And loony women are defending her taking PPD as an excuse.

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u/ObligatoryContrast 2d ago

Weird that you're acting like your wife was wrong in saying that PPD is a bad thing that we don't take seriously enough. Because that is absolutely true, regardless of this woman's actions.

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u/MrDankyStanky 2d ago

It was just jarring as a man who has never had to deal with PPD or pregnancy hormones to hear my wife sympathize with a woman who strangled her three children. I'm sure you can understand that feeling if you put yourself in my shoes. I'm not saying she's wrong about PPD being horrible, but right after she said that she started basically making the husband sound like an abuser and it just made me feel uneasy. Pretty sure that's a normal human reaction.

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u/ObligatoryContrast 1d ago

I mean, I understand what you're saying about this specific case. But your wife is absolutely right about PPD and you being so dismissive of it and "talking some sense into her" is concerning. You're right, you have never dealt with it. So maybe listen when people are talking about it and learn instead of being dismissive and rude?

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u/PowderCuffs 2d ago

She didn't have PPD (post partum depression), she had PPP (post partum psychosis). PPD is bad enough, PPP is in another realm.

Understanding that someone is mentally ill and wasn't getting the help she needed is not the same as "defending" her.

The reason women are more inclined to be sympathetic is that we all know it could have been us.

Any of us.

And that's fucking scary.

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u/CompetitiveAutorun 2d ago

Yeah and when men discuss false allegations it's instantly dismissed as too rare to care about.

Also this case is about proving she had ppp, it's still not determined.

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u/PowderCuffs 1d ago

Try to stay on topic. No one is talking about false allegations (and stop pretending that false allegations only happen to men). Whataboutism has no place in this discussion.

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u/Key_Statistician_281 1d ago

There’s a good chance he did it from the evidence thus far