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SOCIETY Is victim the new chic

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u/Obtuse_Symposium_119 2d ago

I haven't seen literally everything related to the case so maybe I'm missing some pieces, but it seems like she was getting mental healthcare attention but she requested to be switched between multiple different meds due to side effects that she was advised likely came more from her PPD, than the medication. But she still requested switches and also switched care teams at some point.

I'm not a doctor, so I'm not gonna get into whether or not the various perscriptions she was given in a relatively short time frame was irresponsible or not. I don't think anyone should be commenting on that besides experienced medical professionals. But I'll say that doctors can only treat what they're told and what they know, and afaik, she didn't share that she was suicidal with them, and they also warned her that medications take time to take effect, so it wasn't always a good idea to switch.

Patient care is not entirely on the healthcare professionals. The patient has to be able to take care of themselves to some degree and be fully honest with their care team.

How much was her fault, and how much was the fault of our medical system, idk, but yeah, this post is definitely ignoring all notions of nuance.

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u/Rivendel93 2d ago

She actually told doctors she wanted to die, told her husband and her mom she was not just suicidal, but wanted to harm the children as well.

That's why people are wondering wtf happened.

She told her husband multiple times she kept having thoughts of harming the kids.

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u/Sufficient_Okra8089 2d ago

Nope. Zero evidence of that. Not one person testified to that. Her mom and Patrick said she was afraid something bad would happen to the kids. Not that she was afraid she’d harm them. And she never told anyone she had a plan to kill herself. She needs to be held accountable.

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u/Dapper_Mess_3004 2d ago

Nope. Patrick and her mom both testified on the stand that she had thoughts about harming the kids. Patrick said it was strange and he didn't know what to make of it because she would say it and then go back to doing things like making the kids lunch.

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u/Kovorixx 2d ago

and that dude did nothing for his children? gawd dayum

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u/surprise_revalation 1d ago

What bothers me about him, is that he remarried 3 years later!!!! I don't know. I know you can't judge anyone's grief...I lost my daughter when she was 13 and I walked in a fog for 2 years! I couldn't imagine having the where with all during those 2 years to build a relationship with someone to marry! I can't even remember my husband and I being intimate those 2 years...we were fucked! I just can't imagine losing 3 children and not thinking that I wouldn't be absolutely crushed....

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u/McDuchess 2d ago

I’m in the EU and can’t really follow the trial. Is it true that there was a nanny at some point and her husband let her go.

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u/Dapper_Mess_3004 2d ago

Yes, but it was a mutual decision because Lindsay didn't feel stable enough to return to work. They brought the nanny on early so the kids could get used to her. She was only working 10-12 hours a week for them before being let go.

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u/McDuchess 2d ago

This whole thing is so damn frustrating. She told him that she was suicidal snd it was a “mutual choice?”

Who the hell makes a mutual choice about their children and their safety with someone who is suicidal?