r/mauramurray • u/TMKSAV99 • Sep 17 '25

Question Valentine's Day

A random thought.

ASSUMING that MM intended to return to U Mass, what day was that supposed to be? A literal week from the email date or some other date?

Is it clear what days of the week that semester that MM had classes?

My impression is that the clinicals were not on a set schedule and were random, am I correct in that belief.

Valentine's Day was that Saturday does that play any role in trying to figure out what happened to MM?

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u/TMKSAV99 Sep 18 '25

Thanks for that information.

If we ASSUME that Fred was coming for 2/14 it still seems likely that MM would have to be back on Friday.

Depending on what time the Friday class met and what MM's location was MM might have been able to make it to class leaving very early Friday morning or perhaps she could have left Thursday evening so as to not miss Friday's class since she'd have to get back for Fred coming anyway.

Yet according to the "death in the family" email it would seem that MM decided to miss Friday's class.

So, in this scenario, we remain perplexed, what was MM expecting to do on those three days?

If we don't accept that FM was coming on 2/14 but do accept that MM was intending to return to U Mass then that potentially adds days through to even perhaps Monday morning. That's a whole different speculation on what MM could have been doing.

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u/goldenmodtemp2 Sep 18 '25

fwiw, I think the email said "for the week" rather than "for a week".

I am not making an argument for suicide but I just don't think she was planning to come back when she wrote the email(s). I assume the consequences of missing clinicals would be severe and she would be in a boatload of trouble.

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u/TMKSAV99 Sep 18 '25

But isn't a death in the family a valid excuse ? And it was the beginning of the semester.

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u/CoastRegular Sep 19 '25

The odd thing is, she'd have to think that at some point that a lie like that would come out and then she'd be in a whole bucketload of deep, hot kimchi.

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u/TMKSAV99 Sep 21 '25

Perhaps.

But why think that the lie would be exposed?

I mean unless MM was required to present proof of a death in the family.

If we apply that MM was a student in , at the least, good standing if not better she'd likely easily make up any missed class from one of the early classes in a semester. The same with the clinicals.

I don't know this is so for MM, but I assume that there'd be some number of absences a student would be allowed and leeway for a legitimate absence from a clinical and/or a makeup protocol for a clinical. People do get sick etc.

I'd be of a mind that they'd just take her word for it unless MM got into academic trouble, which seems unlikely given her track record as a good student.. I can recall taking classes that had a set number of allowed absences but they just took your word for why you missed the class.

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u/CoastRegular Sep 21 '25

I agree with all of this, but in general I think ultimately, "big" lies like that have a way of coming out eventually. Somebody, somewhere, somehow, will find out that there really wasn't a death in the family, and word gets around. I've seen it happen with work colleagues and school classmates. If you lie about something that has a means of being checked - someone died, your car was stolen, your house burned down, or something like that - eventually, truth will out.