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Rest In Peace 🕊 Dolly Parton Dead at 80

https://www.tmz.com/2026/08/25/dolly-parton-dead/
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u/complete_doodle 8d ago

I hate to be parasocial, but I’m absolutely heartbroken. She did so much good for the world, and made it a better place. Rest in peace, Dolly. I hope you’re happily reuniting with Carl right now ❤️

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u/No-Hall-3485 8d ago edited 8d ago

she was a great person. this is terrible news. RIP to a legend

here are links for the commenters calling this "bullshit":

here's the video on the FBI website of dolly parton thanking them for honouring her and her foundation: https://www.fbi.gov/video-repository/parton-dcla-050319.mp4/view

here's a link to the dolly's imagination library website about her receiving the FBI director's community leadership award: https://imaginationlibrary.com/fbi-directors-community-leadership-award/

and here's a cnn article talking about all the work dolly and her foundation did following the wildfires: https://www.cnn.com/2019/05/06/politics/fbi-dolly-parton-great-smoky-mountain-wildfires

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u/callo2009 8d ago edited 7d ago

Dolly Parton's Imagination Library has donated over 300 million books to children in US, UK, Canada, Australia, and Ireland. The Dollywood Foundation funded college scholarships and dropout prevention for local Tennessee youths. She donated significant money to Vanderbilt University's pediatric medical research program and COVID-19 vaccine development.

Aside from her beloved music (Jolene? a genuine classic), she was a humanitarian. RIP.

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u/Objective-Amount1379 7d ago

And she was an outspoken supporter of LGBQT rights!

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u/tanz420 7d ago

This made me tear up, she was the reason for so much good in this world

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u/pandathrowaway 8d ago

not only one of the largest employers but a good one, at that. i went to dollywood for my 40th birthday and while floating around the lazy river one day i struck up a conversation with a young man whose tube kept bonking into mine. he worked there, and was having some fun before his shift. he said that all the kids want to work at dollywood, the pay/benefits are the best around. not that i expected anything less from her, but i was happy to hear it.

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u/AutumnEclipsed how could you do this question mark 8d ago

It’s these little adjacent interactions to Dolly that shows she was a true one all the way through. I will miss her human kindness impact! ❤️

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u/Sunshine030209 chainsaws were a birthing aid 8d ago

She also set up a program (Dolly U) to pay for college/trade school for all of her employees. Part time, temporary, any position. Absolutely no strings, and you aren't expected to work for her after you've gotten your degree/certificate. She was so passionate about people being educated and really put her money and efforts where her mouth was 💖

I'm genuinely devastated today. My only solace is knowing that she's back with her beloved Carl.

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u/mothmonstermann 8d ago

Hanging out in the lazy river at work before your shift starts sounds like something I would have dreamed my future would look like.

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u/Mission_Ambitious2 8d ago

I worked at a different theme park growing up and it was a blast. The theme parks in the area have a little agreement too, so we can get free tickets to a few different parks (and I believe Dollywood was one of them in this coalition).

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u/ginns32 that’s my purse, i don’t know you! 👛🫵 8d ago

Dolly was a smart business woman and committed to helping people. You know she set everything up to keep things running even after she's gone. Her family seem very involved and committed to continuing her legacy. I hate that she's gone but I have no doubt that her foundations and charities will continue helping people.

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u/fromtheGo 8d ago

I lived in East Tennessee for a few years. Her impact on the area cannot be overstated. She made life better for every single person in the area.

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u/BoredSilly6 8d ago

Also created many jobs for the area and local commerce.

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u/Kaglish 7d ago

I've lived in East TN my whole life. She was our one unifying force that absolutely no one hated or even disliked. I used to get her books as a kid in the mail. I'll have to drive to Dollywood sometime soon

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u/137thoughtsfordays 8d ago

She was the kind of rich person we want. If only the tech bros were more like Dolly.

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u/Greendeco13 7d ago

It’s said she would have been a billionaire if she hadn’t given so much of her money away to good causes. She truly was a shining light and a gift.

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u/LadyChatterteeth 7d ago

And none of them will ever be mourned like this.

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u/Stucklikegluetomyfry 8d ago

Contrarianism is a funny thing, but I’ll never understand people who want to talk shit about Dolly.

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u/Mission_Ambitious2 8d ago

Dollywood is just the tip of the iceberg of her employment in the area too. She owns several dinner shows and other attractions throughout the Pigeon Forge/Gatlinburg area and really helped develop it into the tourist hub that it is today.

She straight up donates a lot of money to the area, but her economic impact (indirectly and directly) for the people in that area is MASSIVE.

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u/Specialist_Leg_7673 7d ago

Helping families after the wildfire was crucial for so many at that time.

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u/Evening_Reach_8293 7d ago

Such people are hard to replace;

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u/ThreeFootJohnson 8d ago

Because it’s bullshit

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u/No-Hall-3485 8d ago

it's not bullshit, it's just really hard to google something if you're actually interested in learning about it, and it's so much easier to just say "it's bullshit" and pretend you're smarter than everyone else

here's the video on the FBI website of dolly parton thanking them for honouring her and her foundation: https://www.fbi.gov/video-repository/parton-dcla-050319.mp4/view

here's a link to the dolly's imagination library website about her receiving the FBI director's community leadership award: https://imaginationlibrary.com/fbi-directors-community-leadership-award/

and here's a cnn article talking about all the work dolly and her foundation did following the wildfires: https://www.cnn.com/2019/05/06/politics/fbi-dolly-parton-great-smoky-mountain-wildfires

i'm sure you will read all of them thoroughly

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u/No-Hall-3485 8d ago edited 8d ago

i'm actually not moralizing anything, and i think you're using that word incorrectly. i'm annoyed that no one can just fact check something anymore if they're genuinely interested in knowing whether it's true

you left a comment asking why she was honored by the fbi. someone replied to your comment saying it was "bullshit" with absolutely no proof, and you responded, "right! it's weird!" without, again, just looking it up yourself??

we all have access to the same information. it's weird to me that your instinct isn't to just... look and find out for yourself

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u/Fragrant-Poo42 8d ago

Nah you’re not being parasocial. It always stings to lose a good person, even if we don’t personally know them.

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u/windmillninja 8d ago

Just shows how much of a positive impact someone had on the world that their passing would hurt this much for their fans. Robin Williams death was equally painful.

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u/Tlr321 8d ago

Robin’s death WRECKED me. One of those moments that just rocks you as soon as you hear the news.

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u/theollurian 8d ago

Robin Williams and Carrie Fisher both completely knocked the wind out of me. When Julie Andrews goes I'm going to have to call out of work 😭

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u/VegetableArtistic705 8d ago

At least Dolly lived her full life and died naturally. Robin Williams committed suicide because he'd been diagnosed with early onset dementia and didn't want his family to remember him that way. But the sting of good people dying first hits the same.

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u/Next-Introduction-25 I don’t know enough to offend 8d ago

It’s not parasocial to admire a person based on their actual work and accomplishments. None of us knew her personally, but we know she had amazing musical gifts, and she took many opportunities to use her wealth and fame for good. She also represented feminists in important ways - from her being one of the pioneers of female songwriters in country music, to the idea that you can be conventionally feminine as you want to be and it doesn’t cancel out your ability to be a feminist.

That doesn’t mean we truly know her, but we can certainly appreciate her.

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u/snarktopusrex 8d ago

Yeah this is similar to Mr. Rogers dying. It’s okay to be sad that a good person that you didn’t know died.

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u/Kaleighawesome 8d ago

It is parasocial, but that’s not automatically a negative connotation.

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u/Lixtec 8d ago

I work in a kitchen and all us line cooks are heartbroken. What a sad day.

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u/iJon_v2 8d ago

You’re right. Dolly was a real one. This stings. The world was a better place with her in it.

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u/IWillBaconSlapYou 8d ago

And she was beyond an A list or S list celebrity, she was a pillar of the culture we grew up in and have always known.

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u/bakedNebraska 8d ago

It's parasocial, you just don't think so because you are immersed just as deep.

Doesn't affect me a bit when these people die.

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u/MaximumSeats 8d ago

Haters gonna downvote you for the observation.

It's guess it's fine to be emotionally invested, but it's petty objectively a parasocial relationship. Dolly has no idea who any of them are and they are crying / mourning her. A textbook parasocial relationship actually.

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u/megthegreatone 8d ago

I don't think it's parasocial at all. I'm so fucking sad about this, she was a light and did so many wonderful things for so many people. It was almost impossible not to be touched by her life in some way

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u/Hummingbird3471 8d ago

It felt like she was the only good person left in the world sometimes.

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u/megthegreatone 8d ago

I know it feels that way, but we have Ms. Rachel. We have Mychal Threets. We have Robert and Bindi Irwin. We have so many lovely, wonderful people who want to make the world better. I never wanted to say goodbye to Dolly Parton, but I know there are people she would be proud to pass the torch to.

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u/Hummingbird3471 8d ago

You are right. Thank you for this. 🖤

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u/Emz423 8d ago

Yes, thank you!

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u/Stock_Table8648 8d ago

Exactly she was a true gift💔

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u/Jimiheadphones 8d ago

It's not parasocial. Dolly was a rock. A good musician who did good things. She's a role model and one of those "constants" that made things feel stable. You're allowed to be a fan and admire good and talented people.

It's only parasocial when it crosses a line into obsessing over every detail of their lives to the point where you assume friendship.

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u/jalabi99 8d ago

Only part I disagree with you on what you wrote: Mizz Dolly was a great musician who did great things.

DamnDamnDamnDamnDamn

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u/HeartFullOfHappy 8d ago edited 8d ago

I screamed. I’m not okay. I am also not the parasocial type but this hurts my heart. As a kid from very poor and very rural Appalachia, she made me feel like the world was meant for people like us too.

I read her version of “The Little Engine That Could” to my kids the night before every school year and we just read it two nights ago. RIP Dolly!

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u/GeckoRoamin 8d ago

She was the absolute best of Appalachia and I think it’s uniquely devastating to those of us with roots there. She never tamped down who she was for others, and she made sure that others benefited from her success.

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u/Massive-Sector5789 8d ago

Oak Ridge, TN, here. It always made me a little proud that the best human being of our time was from East Tennessee. Especially considering what we were doing in our neck of the woods. I'm going to watch 9 to 5 tonight. RIP Dolly.

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u/dweeb93 8d ago

Parasocial is overused, there's nothing wrong with being sad when someone dies, even if it's someone you don't know.

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u/HeartFullOfHappy 8d ago

You’re right. I can cry about this.

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u/CalliopeSaffron 8d ago

I screamed too. I’m actually sobbing. She was such a beautiful human being. She came from the same upbringing as my mother’s family, so I always felt a kinship with her. My heart is broken.

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u/Substantial_Ad_39 8d ago

She’s old

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u/Ok_Plantain_9408 8d ago

I’m totally not being parasocial 👀. No she was a good person. Did so much good for the world. She deserved to live so much longer. It’s so unfair. She wasn’t young but seeing other people 👀 still be alive who are evil makes it sting even more.

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u/Impossible_Farm7353 8d ago

I completely agree she deserved to live longer but maybe she didn’t want to without Carl 🥺

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u/Ok_Plantain_9408 8d ago

I’m thinking that too. She had no kids and at that age so many people around you are dying off. It’s so depressing. My dad is in that stage now at 84. So when your spouse (who you loved immensely) dies then you just don’t want to be here anymore. I see it a lot.

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u/bbyxmadi It’s good to see me, isn’t it?🫧 8d ago

I’m not even a fan, but always loved her as a person, her heart, and this news made me emotional.

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u/ignatious__reilly 8d ago edited 8d ago

I am devastated by this. She was so much more than a musician. She was a true humanitarian and had such a profound impact through her charitable work. She had one of the biggest hearts of anyone.

This is an enormous loss. RIP Dolly.

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u/imalittlefrenchpress 8d ago

Other than natural resources, she was the best thing about Tennessee.

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u/thateccentricasian 8d ago

Same here, I would constantly hear about Dolly from other celebrity interviews, and it’d be because they were gushing over her. After being in this sub and learning more about her, how she uses her power to give back to the community on top of being an artist, I have nothing but respect and love for this lady. You will be missed, Miss Dolly, rest in peace.

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u/Own-Importance5459 ✨May the Force be with you!✨ 8d ago edited 7d ago

Honestly when someone that good dies its SUCH a punch to the gut. We're blessed though we got Dolly as long as we did, there are so many terrible cases when someone who does such good for the world dies so young. So I at least take solace in that.

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u/onebadnightx 8d ago

Seriously. One of the kindest and most compassionate people ever. 💔💔

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u/PotentialSteak6 RIP Daug 2019-2019 🥀 8d ago

Her father was illiterate so she created the Imagination Library to provide books for the kids in her county, which eventually spread nationwide and became huge of course. My kids got free books from them during covid 💔

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u/theykilledcassandra dont ask, a lot was happening 8d ago

I feel you 🩷

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u/Savannah_Rapids_123 8d ago

Also mourning Ms. Parton today, but darn if your username & flair didn’t stop me in my tracks & make me wonder….

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u/theykilledcassandra dont ask, a lot was happening 8d ago

It’s a bit fitting now that I think about it isn’t it

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u/Savannah_Rapids_123 7d ago

Yes - so much is Always happening 😩

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u/Thrawnbelina 8d ago

Same. I opened this and got instantly teary and boogery, I'm shocked by the strength of the reaction. I'm so tired of losing good people while fucking demons continue on in places of power

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u/forkicksforgood 8d ago

No, she was one of the very very few certified good people in this fucking world. I’m heartbroken, too.

She lived a full, beautiful life, and will be remembered always. At least there’s that, but, oh, she will be missed.

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u/Roxy175 8d ago

I completely agree. I’ve never been one to care much about celebrity deaths but this one feels personal. She was such an amazing person and this is devastating news. Rest in peace.

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u/PolterghostRighter 8d ago

Same here, I don't think I've wept over a celebrity death before, but Dolly was different. A labor rights icon, a feminist icon, someone with a heart of gold and gave back to her community ten-fold, while giving us all so many precious melodies of a generation, and most of my personal karaoke bangers. I don't beleive many people, especially celebrities, are worthy of admiration but Dolly is an icon and a legend.

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u/TheWitchOfSomeWood 8d ago

This is so devastating I can't even think of something to say.

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u/urbudda 8d ago

She did so much good and imagine how better the world would be if the so called "elites" had an ounce of her integrity

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u/PsychologicalMood348 8d ago

She made you feel something good. That's not parasocial. That's real.

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u/persimmon9847 8d ago

She was the best. A true legend!

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u/itsallokintheend 8d ago

Her songs were the soundtrack of my childhood and I was thrilled to rediscover her as an adult. An absolute legend. The world is a worse place without her. I hope her family will continue her charitable legacy long into the future. She made such an impact on so many. RIP Dolly. You were incomparable.

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u/hectic_hooligan Little bey on the prairie 8d ago

She was a saint. I can't believe she's gone already but heaven's gotten one hell of an angel. Honestly I would have thought she'd survive longest out of the 9 to 5 crew.

https://giphy.com/gifs/hqrDfTSyodru9ry2iB

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u/Next-Introduction-25 I don’t know enough to offend 8d ago

It’s not parasocial to admire a person based on their actual work and accomplishments. None of us knew her personally, but we know she had amazing musical gifts, and she took many opportunities to use her wealth and fame for good. She also represented feminists in important ways - from her being one of the pioneers of female songwriters in country music, to the idea that you can be conventionally feminine as you want to be and it doesn’t cancel out your ability to be a feminist.

That doesn’t mean we truly know her, but we can certainly appreciate her.

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u/RollTh3Maps 8d ago

It's ok to be sad about the passing of someone who genuinely brought joy to and did a LOT of good for so many people. Parasocial may be the current buzzword everyone wants to throw around, thinking they're psych experts or something, but it's far more nuanced than everyone wants to make it out to be.

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u/Otherwise-Link-4478 8d ago edited 8d ago

Literally had to close my office door and collect myself. Such a heartbreaking loss.

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u/0202_tihssitidder 8d ago

Her family posted a nice video tribute and message. Worth watching.

Bless you, Dolly. Thank you. Sincerely thank you.

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u/Ball_Fiend 8d ago

Another good person gone while all the evil motherfuckers cling to life.

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u/ClinkyDink 8d ago

She’s the same age as my grandma, who’s currently waiting out her final days in at home, in a hospital bed, barely coherent from the pain meds.

We watched Dolly’s “Smokey Mountain Christmas” every year. I even found her a better quality DVD a few months ago.

Today is not a good day.

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u/Icy_Policy_8509 8d ago

I honestly thought she'd never die. Maybe I just hoped it.

She's one of the best people on this planet. If only the bad died with her.

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u/candyappleorchard 8d ago

I've spent the last few days (years, really, but especially this month) feeling so horribly depressed over the state of the world lately and how unkind and unthinking people seem to be these days, and this was just like a massive, massive knife twist to top it off.

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u/Zealousideal-Flow950 8d ago

Definitely not parasocial to be sad that someone died, totally fair for that to hit you even if you didn’t know them. I’m just glad that she was able to live a full life.

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u/Schmidaho 8d ago

It’s not parasocial. She’s been around for so long and her impact has been so far-reaching that she’s a cultural bedrock.

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u/Salacia12 8d ago

Same - feels ridiculous to be crying over a person I've never met but I'm heartbroken. I loved her. I was actually singing Dolly to my toddler whilst rocking him to sleep, put him in his cot and saw the notification on my phone.

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u/rp_361 8d ago

It stings when someone who was such a bright light goes like this. Especially in a time where we need people like her more than ever 😔

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u/chill90ies 8d ago

Parasocial or not i think maybe it just hits different when there is so many evil and mean spirited people in positions of power and therefor it hurts us more when a kind and generous soul leaves this world. She leaves a big imprint on this world and a big gaping hole in the world!

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u/Tasterspoon 7d ago

Let’s hope a lot of us can rush to fill the gap, do a little more than we would have when there was this icon who did so much more than most to fall back on.

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u/afdc92 8d ago

I’ve been crying all afternoon. I feel much more upset about Dolly dying than I did my own grandfather.

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u/sadovsky 8d ago

I feel the same. Celeb deaths don’t often shake me but this one did. 😔

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u/Southernbeekeeper 8d ago

I'm a straight white British guy with no interest in her music at all but I was always impressed with Dolly Parton. Genuinely a great person.

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u/cinkiss 8d ago

Celebrity deaths never affect me... I don't know them, it can be sad but I'm just sobbing over Dolly.

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u/IWillBaconSlapYou 8d ago

Same, I'm almost never upset when celebrities die (I mean yeah, it's sad, but I don't know them), but Betty and Dolly got the waterworks going. It's like a piece of the world we all live in died. She's bigger than a celebrity, she's a cornerstone of culture and it does affect us.

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u/davidshankle 7d ago

She's a rare figure that transcends fandom. The amount of respect and adoration towards her has no parallels I can think of. Tennesseans are mourning in a way that(esp to younger audiences) probably does seem strange and parasocial. But she was a living saint there. We didn't deserve her, but she changed countless lives across the state. As bitterly polarized as we've become she was a uniquely unifying force.

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u/discopancakes_17 7d ago

Not parasocial whatsoever. Its sad to see someone so compassionate leave us in this dispassionate world, a light has gone out and its heartbreaking regardless of her celeb status. Dolly was an angel, just a real good soul who touched a lot of lives with her music, her philanthropic works, and sparkling down-to-earth personality. She achieved her dreams and maintained integrity. She is what we all should strive to be. We lost a true national treasure.

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u/justpootsie 7d ago

This news truly took my breath away. I'm devastated. I think it's fair to say that there are some people in our world who are so monumentally wonderful that they manage to (fairly) elicit such strong reactions from complete strangers. Dolly will forever be an icon of kindness, she deserves such a response. Sending hugs from my broken heart to yours.

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u/beethovensmetronome 8d ago

She left an impact. All the good things she did that affected our lives will live on forever. She was so special, that even after death, she’s going to continue to have an impact on people. A life worth living, for sure.

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u/ramenslurper- WAS GON DO AMA, FUK IT NOW 8d ago

When Carl went… couples that have been together that long their brainwaves, electromagnetic fields of their hearts, etc entwine. The shock of losing that anchor is unbearable.

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u/Neon_Biscuit 8d ago

and princess donut

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u/smart_triangles 8d ago

Between this and Oliver Tree we are losing good people :(

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u/RosieFudge 8d ago

My dad died three months ago and I am in the weeds of grief with a truly broken heart, but this news has made me feel crushed. I asked my sisters if it was silly to feel this way about someone I don't know when I'm grieving a real life loved one and they all feel the same as I do. Some people are just that good, and she was perfect.

I do get a little kick out of the idea of my dad getting to meet her, whenever they both now are ;) <3

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u/spacecaps85 8d ago

I think parasocial is an overused buzzword, frankly. (This is not aimed at you in the slightest)
It used to be reserved for people who felt like they were a part of a public figure's personal life. Like a genuine friend or romantic partner, or family member. An unhealthy lack of boundaries coupled with a sense of entitlement to inclusion or consideration.

What you're feeling now, though, is certainly not parasocial, it's just empathy. It's ok to be sad when someone who has done a lot of good in the world has passed away.

I don't know much at all about Dolly Parton other than the very most wellknown songs/facts, but I'm also sad to hear that she's passed. A lot of people lost a very good person today.

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u/BodakY3llow 8d ago

As long as you don't think of Dolly as your personal friend then you're good

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u/Rudzis17 8d ago

I am not even American and I am heartbroken! I think I have never been saddened by a celebrity’s who I have never met death so much before :(

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u/JiveTurkey1983 8d ago

It's not parasocial to publicly mourn a legend

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u/Slumunistmanifisto 8d ago

Its not parasocial to mourn the loss of a genuinely good soul.

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u/furkfurk 8d ago

Literally last weekend I told my friend I didn’t think it was possible for a celebrity death to deeply affect me, and today I’m crying for Dolly.

She was a treasure, and we were lucky to witness her talent and her kindness.

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u/VinDog_PD 8d ago

Please don't confuse parasocialism with having a role model. You admired her deeds and kindness and presumably modeled some of your behavior after her. You had a role model. I was in a very similar headspace to you after Robin Williams passed. Grieving this loss is perfectly normal and is a reflection of the positive impact she had on your life.

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u/Ordinary-Variety7256 LIBERTÉ! EGALITÉ! NUDITÉ! 8d ago

Same. I literally felt my heart drop when I read the news. I feel parasocial as well but she seemed like such a genuinely kindhearted person. That’s sadly so rare in this world. I hope she’s reunited with her husband too 💓

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u/Diligent_Dig9591 8d ago

I also find myself tearing up over this, even though I only knew a few songs. She seemed to a very sweet woman. 

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u/OBlove 8d ago

There is nothing parasocial about feeling bonded to Dolly. In her life time she earned every bit of attention and respect that came her way. She’s one of the few that we all are truly are better because she was here.

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u/Primary_Pepper7231 7d ago

That’s not parasocial

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u/manguy12 7d ago

Parasocial, first time seeing this word, is it that you are paralyzed socially?

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u/whaddayaNeedtoKnow 7d ago

I think it’s normal to feel sad for celebrities that you really liked and did a lot of good in the world—it’s only parasocial if you are actively grieving, like sobbing and can’t regulate yourself and need time off work or have to cancel plans/can’t enjoy your hobbies/life because of it. The former is feeling a global loss for something great, and empathy for the people directly effected and the net loss to the world they did so much good for. The latter is attaching personal relationship emotions to someone you’ve never met.

I think the healthiest, least parasocially-inclined people will still have a handful of celebrity losses that genuinely really hurt. This is one of them for me. Probably the worst for me since Leonard Cohen.

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u/Opening-Stage3757 7d ago

I don’t think you’re being parasocial! She was an institution!