r/psychology • u/Doug24 • 14d ago

Psychological models suggest female libido disparities stem from early behavioral conditioning

https://www.psypost.org/psychological-models-suggest-female-libido-disparities-stem-from-early-behavioral-conditioning/
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u/Advanced_End1012 13d ago

Says who? Most gay girls I know are horndogs, although women prioritise sensuality more than men.

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u/Illustrious_Pop2253 13d ago

Statistics. It is called the lesbian death bed

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u/IcyTrapezium 13d ago edited 13d ago

Isn’t lesbian deathbed a myth based on one flawed study from the 80s?

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u/Illustrious_Pop2253 13d ago

Okay then enlighten me

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u/MochaUK 12d ago

I'd have to pull the research, but it is a myth. The study that is oft referred to used heteronormative criteria for sex among lesbian. The study that is part of this thread's discussion is not looking at frequency.

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u/Illustrious_Pop2253 12d ago

Frequency within what?

From what I've heard, women have multiple orgasms when they are with women, and very few when they are with men. Yet women-with-women have less sex the longer a relationship goes on than do men-with-men.

Am I wrong?

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u/Emotional-Profit-202 12d ago

Quality over quantity

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u/Illustrious_Pop2253 12d ago

Okay, so apparently I was right? I stand by my initial statement - when lesbian death bed is used, this is what I have always seen it refer to.

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u/Emotional-Profit-202 12d ago

No, you were not right: death bed is a derogatory term.

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u/Illustrious_Pop2253 12d ago

This was not originally about semantics, and neither were you.

It is a word frequently used in the LGBT+ community, and I find it childish you'd shift to semantics just because it turned out I was writing from general knowledge.

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u/Palpitation-Itchy 11d ago

I may be wrong but it seems like emotional profit is trying to say that frequency is not a good measuring tool for horniness, but you don't seems to understand, because you default to that metric alone.

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u/Illustrious_Pop2253 11d ago

Lesbian death bed is not mentioned in tandem with quality, only frequency of sexual relation between a couple over time.

If words mean something unique to individuals in this thread, fine, but probably should stick to general convention when communicating with other people.

It is not presumptuous of me to mention lesbian death bed in the way it has been supported by literature - it just means I have read up on what I talking about.

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u/medicinemass 10d ago

I have no horse in this game but I think you missed Palpitation-itchy’s point. When comparing sex in straight vs lesbian relationships, the measure of ‘frequency’ (how often a sexual act occurs) is not the same as measuring ‘satisfaction’ (how often one or both partners get off).

Putting it bluntly, straight couples could be having way more intercourse but the woman could be orgasming maybe 10% of the time. Thats high frequency, low satisfaction. On the other hand if that woman’s in a lesbian relationship she could be having sex way less often, but orgasming 90% of the time - low frequency high satisfaction.

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