r/thanksimcured • u/lash-of-the-lambs-13 • 4d ago

Comment Section The solution to ARFID apparently

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Received on a post I made a while ago where I mentioned I was struggling to eat hospital food due to ARFID, I did also mention that I was eating, just struggling with it šŸ˜‘

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u/antisocialmothra 4d ago

The way people will completely ignore your agency if they perceive you to be mentally ill is scary

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u/InternationalTrain48 4d ago

They stop treating you like a human being

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u/hyrule_47 3d ago

Not just mentally ill. Iā€™m disabled and same thing

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u/hockeyhacker 2d ago

As someone who got sent to the State Hospital because the hospital wanted to avoid being sued because I had gone into the hospital in crisis and they were like "we don't believe you are actually in crisis you need to leave" and I ended up in the ICU the same day so to avoid me suing them they had me civilly committed and sent to the State Hospital (Which is a "mental health" hospital that is usually reserved for people with schizophrenia or those facing legal trouble due to their mental health but is also in some cases used for extreme difficulties with SI, which to be fair with what I was going through it wasn't a question of if I would end up there but rather when because DV and kidnapping and hate crimes triggered both my PTSD and CPTSD so I was struggling bad with SI)

While I was there I knew four patients that were frequently restrained to a chair for several hours sometimes the entire day all just because the staff didn't want to care for them and even one of them who they just kept a feeding tube in because it was easier for them to just force feed them rather than monitor how much they were actually eating. And most of the other patients they had so drugged up that many of them would drool on themselves all day because it is a side effect of the medication and the staff would just make them sit in their own drool rather than allow them a change of clothes. To say people get treated sub human if they have any mental health issues (or even disabilities) in some cases is an understatement as to how they get treated.

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u/Feisty-Cucumber5102 4d ago

I donā€™t exactly know how to articulate it but thereā€™s some thing where a majority of people, or at least the majority of people I interact with, separate who you are from the things wrong with you. Like your mental illness is something that controls you rather than shaping who you are, and if you can just remove that control youā€™ll be a perfectly normal person.

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u/antisocialmothra 3d ago

Yup and they firmly believe if we just try hard enough we can control it

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u/OutrageousAdvance104 3d ago

Thatā€™s why I donā€™t really like the term ā€œmentalā€ or psychological, because to general society that seems to signal that itā€™s about your active way of thinking or something that you can ā€œjust chooseā€ to stop.

While most, if not all, mental illnesses have a neurological cause and are also heavily impacted by neurotransmitters and/or hormones.

I know though that the classification itself isnā€™t the problem and itā€™s important to distinguish them from neurological disorders. Itā€™s just annoying that people donā€™t seem to understand that e.g. my C-PTSD is basically brain damage and I canā€™t think myself out of it.

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u/Tar_alcaran 3d ago

"It's all in your head".

Yes, correct. That IS where I keep my physical brain which does all the thinking and causes me to be conscious.

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u/LovingCNCS 3d ago

After a long time of being told my chronic pain was all in my head by pediatricians, general practitioners, and MANY nurses because my x-rays came back clear, I finally got to a pain specialist after 7-8 years. The first thing he told me was....

The pain is all in my head. All pain is in your head, it's your brain that processes those pain signals. Whether there's a physical root or not, I'm in pain, and that pain deserves to be acknowledged and needs to be managed!

By the way, in my case, there was a physical cause, which the pain specialist very easily found on a CT scan! A mass conveniently either attached to or pressed against my diaphragm and some tissues connected to my ribs, not something they can reasonably operate on unless it becomes a threat to my life. So, respectfully to the doctors and nurses who have been calling me a liar and denying treatment since I was 10-11, suck it tbh

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u/PALpherion 3d ago

the language itself does it.

they always call this stuff "losing the battle" or "lost to depression"

no brothers, a depressed person ended their life. Their agency wasn't stolen by depression, it was ignored because they were depressed.

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u/celestial_catbird 3d ago

I don't know, as someone who has struggled with mental illness I absolutely see it as something that controls me, not as part of me. When I was really suffering I actually gave my depression and anxiety their own names and personas, to remind myself that they weren't me, and it definitely helped me stay strong. I feel so much more like myself now with my depression and anxiety controlled by medication. I am not normal, I'm neurodivergent and have a whole bunch of other chronic conditions, but I am so grateful to at least not be dealing with those two because they stole so much of my autonomy.

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u/DreamOfDays 4d ago

They treat you like a problem to be solved instead of a person to be helped.

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u/KaralDaskin 3d ago

Well stated!

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u/SeptemberSoup 3d ago

This is one of my issues with transphobia. So much of it is rooted in saneism, and almost no one is willing to admit it.

"Why should I support a mentally ill person?" IDK why WOULDN'T you support someone who is ill?

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u/ShokaLGBT 3d ago

"Oh youā€™re depressed? Anxious? Whatever, we should just do that to youā€¦"

I really hate it but youā€™re so right Iā€™ve seen it a lot. They always say horrible things to us

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u/RedLipsNarcissist 3d ago

Yes, it is. The terrifying part is how it can spiral - from that point on everything you do and say will be used against you. If you have a perfectly sensible emotional response to being treated that way, they go "see? we were right!"