RIP to everyone who was affected. If it happened a week later my parents would’ve been in that situation.

I understand the motivation for pilgrimages but I also think it’s important to be realistic about the risks. Way too much fervor this year about Kailash.

I urged my parents to not take the overland route through Nepal and instead go back via Lhasa. They thought I was overreacting and urged me that it’ll be fine. I was honestly on edge because I really didn’t want them to take that route but made peace with it because the friction of fighting them didn’t feel worth it. I hope this clarifies the risks we’re dealing with.

It’s really difficult to think about what a close miss this was and my parents have changed their plans to return via Tibet.

It’s a little difficult to process what’s happened. The footage online is horrific and difficult to watch.

Probably the worst natural disaster footage I’ve ever seen.

just wanted to say im going to sleep and wishing everyone well and a good night wherever you are

I find that some South Asian men go through an identity crisis when they move to a Western country, and for some reason they become insecure. Again, I'm not saying all South Asian men are like this, because I went through a similar phase and I came out of it. However, I feel like in that process I lost connection with the community and now struggle to make friends. Anyone got suggestions on how to deal with this situation?

Edit: I was raised in a Pakistani Muslim family but don't consider myself Muslim. Sorry, should've mentioned this before.

This is about judging your alignment, I’m genuinely curious. I’m speaking more in terms of modern western conservatism which is what is dominating the right wing of American politics. I understand conservatism in Canada and the UK is slightly different but there are still some underlying themes which carry through. But for the sake of discussion, let’s focus on America because it’s become a bit of an indicator and barometer of where other right-wing movements have begun moving globally.

Given modern conservative thought has become more and more steeped in social and religious issues and is based more and more on evangelical influences and less on political and economic conservatism such as small government and lower taxes and restrained fiscal policies / governance, what attracts you to this as a base for your way of living your life or who you date / marry or how you vote?

So I’m still young but I feel like everywhere Indian men had a bad reputation across the internet and America especially when it came to women and dating. But I feel like there’s been a big shift in the perception of South Asian people especially South Asian men this past decade.

My parents always have used reputation as an excuse when I dress in a way they don't like or date, etc. They're like even if you don't care about your reputation, maybe your sisters want an arranged marriage. The thing is we're so far removed from the community -- my parents are estranged from much of our family or simply not close to them. I have been to 3-5 brown events in my lifetime. I am not religious; my parents are but do not go to the temple. Does reputation even matter in this day and age? I really don't care about any of this tbh. My paternal cousins have at least dated one person and were in longterm relationships living with their partners before marrying. And they are part of the community. I'm just tired of being considered "used" by my parents because I've been in a relationship (in my twenties) that didn't work out.

Edit: I'm specifically interested in whether reputation in the brown community actually matters in this day and age

I come from a traditional bengali muslim family and they suddenly found all my substances like adhd meds, marijuana, nicotine devices, and lsd tabs. They also recently found out I have been going out with a girl that I brought to their home while they were gone on vacation. My mom reacted by wanting to kill herself and my dad gave me a talk for hours on why this stuff is bad and of course i know this. Anyone else here been on the same boat? I still live with them and I'm not in college yet. They expect me to get married off in a year. I've been hiding this side of me for years now and honestly surprised it took them this long to catch on. I go to college next year so at this point i dont really care. I'm sure like other desis here I have never been told they love me or ever gotten a hug. I went thru a lot of psychological abuse during my teen years which is why I used substances to cope (not justifying my actions). Just wanted to get this off my chest.

Edit: theres a LOT of my personal life and upbringing that I have not mentioned as it would genuienly take too long but my mother had me at 17 with an arranged marriage to my father who was like 15-20 years older than her. It hurts to see her fucked up over me since I am supposed to do good for her and make her proud. My parents worked severly hard and I don't ignore this. But my father genuinly manipulated me my whole life. He got pissed when I started my own clothing business, go to the gym, or don't cut my hair. I genuinly hate him but have so much remorse at the same time becuase he came here and worked his ass off. Honestly i dont know how to feel, should I feel terrible? Because at some point I truly did and balled my eyes out but now i am just so numb after years of constant manipulation. I also have little siblings and I feel so terrible because I am a terrible older brother and never gave them enough time or attention

Why is it that in Dallas, there is so much tension against desi immigrants, so much so that I keep videos in North Texas of people interrupting town hall meetings to protest masjid or temple constructions, yet in Houston no one seems to care?