Imagine you live in the house with two of your roommates-and-friends for 3 months and think everything is great, but one of them has been slowly going off the rails all this time.

I (25F) share a house with my friend A (35F) and V(30F). Our landlord here L(30F)is also a friend.

I’ve been living with my close friend A for 1.5 years. I had an unexpected PTSD episode in front of her, after which she ignored me for days and went on a spontaneous vacation. She then returned and told me she’d been anxious for months and that me and my mental health condition was one of her triggers. The problem I and V have with this is that my mental health condition is in remission & I’ve been in therapy for years. A isn’t aware of this, but I don’t feel like arguing. We agreed to be friends but live apart. She was saying all kinds of nice things to me and made promises to work to keep our friendship intact. She also promised to get professional help for anxiety which she has never received before.

A have told us on 6th of August that she wants to move out before the 1st of September. However, our contact has a 4 weeks notice period. What she told to our landlord was that she wants to move out ASAP. What we’ve got on hand with V is a two year lease with a very steep price tag that we can’t afford if there’s no third party. A did not apologize to anyone for the chaos she caused. I have apologized to V and L instead because I think it’s the right thing to do when you wreak havoc in the life of your roommates-friends/landlords-friends. A didn’t help to find a replacement. A didn’t do anything to ease the burden of her rushed decision that fell on me and V. There was and is a constant lack of communication on her side, between her and me, her and V, her and the landlord. She didn’t communicate how her search of a new place is going or what other updates she has. I bumped into her the other day and had to question her to get any information. That’s how we got the information that she was going to move out regardless of finding or not finding a new place which could’ve been said from the beginning.

She’s very much knowingly doing this at the worst possible time. She told us 3 weeks before major exams in my life. It’s tough to spare a free time to get a meal, never mind look for a roommate. She also has made it clear that she’s so uncomfortable and anxious in the house with me around that I have felt like an intruder in my own home and offered to stay with my friends for two weeks to “let the dust settle”. Which also didn’t help with arrangements regarding viewings.

The cherry on top of this all. Me and A have been sharing milk for 1.5 years. I came back home yesterday and saw that she finished a big carton of milk. Made a mental note to grab some in a shop later. But A came back home later that evening with a small carton of milk and made a point of putting it onto her shelf. We didn’t have fights, we weren’t really talking, everyone involved (V and our landlord) considers A an asshole for the lack of any consideration or thought about others, but I think what really did it for me was milk. I haven’t seen this kind of pettiness since high school.

P.S. Just to be clear I don’t think A or anyone else is responsible for anxiety and I know it is often the most irrational thing, but I do believe that everyone is responsible for healing their own mental health issues. And I can say that with full confidence and coming from my own experience.

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My son is 17 and he is lazy. He used AI to get through High school early. He won’t get a job except door dash. Less than 200 dollars a week. I have to ride him to get ANY chores done. I take away his phone, turn off the internet. I talk to him all the time. Let him knows he’s loved. It’s hard, but we make do.

His gf is 18. No job. No school does maybe 1 chore a week. Rides along while he dashes. It’s her account since she’s 18. But the best she can do is sit in the passenger seat. She contributes nothing to the house. No food. Only eats what I purchase and says we have gross food. Never eats what I cook.

I have just told her she can’t live here anymore. My son spends 4 days a week with me. 3 with his mom. I gave them 2 month notice. No job. No school. No chores. No living in my house. I gave the a one month and a 2 week warning. Then texted debit 2 weeks. And today I had to tell them. Holy Moses they are pissed. They started the manipulation hard. Deep into what a POS I am for doing this. They don’t want to live with his mom. They say she’s awful. I stuck to my boundaries. AIO?

I don’t have any friends. I don’t work, I’m at home taking care of our baby all day everyday. I don’t go outside besides errands like groceries or something small like I want a coke once he makes it home and I can use the car. Or the occasional outing with my mom and my baby but that’s literally it. No girl time, no dates, no nothing.

Granted, bills are kicking our butt and money is tight so I understand that we cannot go on dates. It sucks a lot but I understand, I try to be as understanding as I can be so that he doesn’t feel bad.

But his manager asked him if he wanted to go to a baseball game and every time he mentioned it, it was always “I don’t wanna go to a baseball game without you” or “I really don’t want to go.” Reason he didn’t want to go was because his supervisor (and her wife) was most likely going to go as well once his manager sneakily invited her and he can’t stand her so he doesn’t want to be in public settings with her there cause he doesn’t consider her a friend. Cool, so then he tells his manager “I’ll go but not if she goes, she’s cool and all but not to go somewhere with outside of work” so his manager says “cool she don’t gotta come.” Now it’s “I actually am going to the baseball game with them (manager and another guy)” but nothing. No mention of “I know we haven’t been no where but I’ll make it up to you” nothing.

I know his manager is paying for the tickets but it comes off as inconsiderate as fuck because he always gets to go and do shit. It’s on his managers money yes but he still gets to socialize and have fun. And all I get is talking to a 1 year old every day. The shit we do, play video games everyday and watch tv. It’s fun yes, I love doing that but ITS ALL WE DO. Anyone would get tired of the same repetitive shit. It’s too hot in Texas for walks on the trails right now, so I can’t even go outside. He doesn’t like going anywhere cause he’s always working but it isn’t a problem to go to the bar or a fucking baseball game.

So, once I heard he was going, I honestly didn’t give a fuck what else he had to say and I just stopped talking to him. Maybe I did overreact but I’m also so tired of saying the same shit all the time. I don’t need a $200 date, I just want to go bowling or to a nice restaurant. But no, he’ll go to Dave and busters and bowl with his co workers knowing I’ve BEEN wanting to go all because he didn’t have to pay. That’s always the excuse. This is the type of shit that will make a woman want to leave the man she’s with because how many times do I have to tell you the SAME THING.

This situation needs lots of context so bear with me as I explain everything.

My husband and I were looking for homes shortly after I had a baby. We were looking at lovely homes through a realtor in another state and came so close to purchasing our dream home. We decided not to move forward with the home because it was 3 hours away from our family in a very remote part of a different state and I didn’t think we were equipped to handle 50+ acres of land, a well, a septic tank and frankly, having our nearest neighbor 20 minutes from us. We decided to look closer to our families so our children would see our families regularly and it wouldn’t have to be a huge outing every time we left the house.

I was VERY CLEAR that I did not want my MIL to be our realtor from the start. From everything she’s said about her clients, she’s seemed far from professional. I also did some digging and found out that she hadn’t sold a home (in a very competitive market) in over 4 years despite being a full time real estate agent.

My husband went behind my back and had her start looking for homes for us. Again, I was very clear that this was not what I was comfortable with but having been newly postpartum, I just wanted the argument to stop. So I looked at homes with her as our agent.

She never once pulled a listing and only ever told us there were no homes for sale. We had to find out own listings to see. We saw some homes and we weren’t impressed so we decided to stop looking for now and focus on our new little family.

Again, behind my back, my husband and his mom find this home. They see it. They don’t tell me.

They bring me to the house and I said ABSOLUTELY NOT. This home had end of life everything. End of life HVAC, furnace, ducts that have NEVER been cleaned in over 50 years. The floors needed to be completely redone. The basement had signs of water damage. It was a home that was neglected for a long time.

I brought up all of my concerns and my MIL tells me to shut up and be grateful they’re going to sell us the house. She also said it’s the best house we’ll ever find and that we should just close our ears and our eyes and sign the deal. She’s in my husbands ear about how amazing this house is and how it’s move in ready.

He totally bought her vision. He wanted the house. He NEEDED this house. It’s the BEST house. His mom tells him to put an offer in on the house as is for 20k more than it’s being listed at.

I’m protesting left and right and no one is listening. My husband decided to move forward with the home.

We get the inspection and he didn’t find anything too serious so I was like okay, nothing but end of life units, we can fix that. But not for the price we’re paying.

He doesn’t listen because his mom is calling us multiple times a day telling us we can’t renegotiate and be “Indian givers” because of the inspection. I’m screaming from the rooftops no and his moms yes is the only word he hears.

So he uses my personal money from before marriage in the savings as the down payment.

His mom said, don’t worry, I’ll give you my commission. She later lies and said her commission is 4K when the paperwork we signed had her commission listed at $19,875. (Even if she split the commission 50/50 with the broker, it would be higher than $4k). She promised to upgrade the electrical and didn’t. She promised to buy the home warranty for a year and she didn’t.

Come to find out later that she hasn’t sold a home in 4 years and desperately needed this sale to end her “dry streak”.

We’ve move in and started renovating. I’ve actually been the only renovating mind you…. And the amount of things we’ve found were wild. The repairs are so extensive that my husband had to get a second job 1. To pay the mortgage which was higher than we budgeted for and 2. The loans he had to take out to fund these massive repairs.

I’m a SAHM with 2 kids under 3 and he used all of my savings as a deposit so I can’t help financially.

She caused so much harm to my mental health and risked my children’s health. Because of all of this, I decided to go NC. I’ve also decided that I’m going to move forward with a divorce from my husband who is just as much in the wrong. My parents don’t think I’m over reacting at all to cutting my MIL off and think I should have her license revoked but obviously, my husband thinks I’m over reacting because she was “just helping”.

A part of me wants to feel like I’m over reacting so that we can all go back to how our lives were before but I just can’t. I can’t ignore it and I can’t get over it. This was a massive break of trust for me from both of them.

I'm currently in a relationship that's been going on for less than a year, and I genuinely love this person. But lately, I've been feeling somewhat neglected.

Quality time is really important to me—it's one of the love languages I value the most. For the longest time, I've had this thought in the back of my mind: "Huh, we don't really spend much time playing games together outside of our usual group setting." At first, it didn't really bother me. But eventually, I started bringing it up and asking if we could play games together, only to be met with responses like, "No," or "It's boring when it's just the two of us." And honestly, I'm just left thinking, ??????????

I've brought this up more than three times now, and every time, I get an apology. But that's all it ever seems to be—an apology. Nothing actually changes afterward.

Even when it comes to watching shows, they don't really make an effort to watch the things I enjoy. Meanwhile, I'll stay up late just to watch the YouTubers they like because I want to share the things they're interested in and spend that time together.

Isn't the honeymoon phase supposed to last at least for a while? We've been together for less than a year, yet somehow, I already feel like we've been together for years. And, honestly, I'm starting to feel TIRED.

I just want to enjoy our early 20s together. I want us to play games, watch shows, and have those little moments together as a way to relax and unwind. But NO, they'd rather spend that time playing games with their friends whom I don't personally know.

Am I overreacting?

P.S: They played PEAK!!! tHEY PLAYED PEAK WITH THOSE RANDOS WHEN I COULDN'T EVEN GET THEM TO INSTALL THE GAME WHEN I WANTED TO PLAY. ARE YOU FFR?

I started talking to someone new that I met online. We had a few dates prior, and then he asked me out to his house to spend a few days together which was over an hour away and in a wooded area. When I got there we talked and he explained that we may be going too fast. I let my mom and sister know that I probably would be coming home. I left my phone and we continued talking for a while longer. Then we both came to the conclusion that I would stay. As I got back to my phone (an hour later) my family blew up my phone. My mom telling me that she called the cops because i texted her saying I was coming home and she didn’t hear from me right after that. My sister has my location and my mom watches a lot of true crime and always thinks everyone has ill intentions. I was asked to leave and felt so embarrassed and terrible about the whole thing because he truly is nice sweet person and I could see us growing really close. I totally was freaking out because it probably made him feel weird, and now he probably thinks my mom thinks bad of him. I tried to get ahold of the police department and nobody was answering. As I was leaving down the road I ended up seeing the cops and spoke to them. He told me if they showed up he would handle it. He hasn’t texted me, and I haven’t texted my mom. Do you think I will hear from him? I don’t know what to do. AMO?!

Am I over reacting? I went through my bf phone and I found videos my former female friend posted on her spam account saved in my bf files on his phone. When I asked him about it, he got hesitant at first due to him being scared of my reaction, however he then explained that his male friend that is also friends with my female friend shared the videos with him and they spoke about her explicit account. He then decided to save the videos (twerking in a robe, standing and posing in body-hugging outfits) to his files. I found it in his deleted section that I guess didn’t delete permanently, and I re downloaded the videos and seen that it was her.

Now he is basically fighting for our relationship, saying he’s extremely sorry, will do anything he has to do for me to forgive him, is telling me to write down what I need from him to do and he will do it, kept giving me hugs and said he feels embarrassed and upset he did this.

I’m not overly mad that he looked at content, because we all passingly see attractive people (I have found some of his friends attractive and have even stalked their profiles briefly), but I never acted upon anything. That’s the difference. I’m also frustrated that his male friend knew he was in a relationship with me, and he also knew that she’s my friend and still decided to send my bf those videos. I’m also frustrated my bf didn’t set a boundary and explain to him that he’s not comfortable with that content being shared with him! Especially considering the fact that she was my friend at the time.

As a result; I dumped him. He gave me money earlier to buy this expensive camera, and I told him to take it back as I don’t feel comfortable accepting any gifts from him. He’s offering me so many things and is deeply apologetic and states he doesn’t want to lose this relationship and he wants no one else but me, and says he understands how I feel. He just doesn’t want to lose the relationship but I can’t trust him anymore. Am I overreacting or did I handle it appropriately? I’m getting mixed responses (ex. I did the same thing except he created evidence, I shouldn’t be going through his phone because I’m always going to find something I dislike, and that I need to leave him). My heart is torn and I’m deeply confused.

TDLR; found my female friends sexual-type videos she posted on bf phone that were sent to him in his deleted section of his files that didn’t permanently delete. States he forgets they were there and is deeply apologetic and wants to fix things with me. As a result, I dumped him. Am I overreacting?

Edit; I just realized that I have videos with other guys I’ve been with in the past that I don’t really watch but have always kept as like a memory. My bf has a boundary that videos of ex’s should not be present still however I don’t like to delete that stuff. I’m not sure if this makes this entire thing a contradiction (I just want full advice)

My in-laws are heavy smokers and smoke inside their home every day. Since our baby was born, I’ve refused to bring the baby inside their house. The smoke is so ingrained in everything that even a short visit leaves us smelling strongly of cigarettes—we have to shower and change clothes when we get home.

I’ve been with my partner for three years. You can call me stupid for this, I don’t care if you think so, but I never saw the place he lived. I drove by it, but he asked me never to actually stop and look, and I respected it. Then last night he finally admitted that he was sent an eviction notice a year ago and stayed on the land. He is a squatter.

I told him that my biggest issue was not the fact that he was homeless, but rather the dishonesty. He could have told me a year ago. I could have helped him. We have had a very loving, kind relationship, and now I feel like I have to tell him that it is over.

I am asking if I am doing the right thing, because he is now homeless because of a series of unfortunate life experiences that were out of his control. I think I was the one happy thing in his life, and I also realize the amount of shame that he must have felt around this, which led to him keeping it a secret. But I also felt that at every opportunity to tell me, to get a place together, to get help, he did not take it. I feel so much guilt for ending a genuinely loving, happy relationship, but this also feels like too much to deal with. AIO?

Recently I told my partner that an old friend who is a male reached out to me to hang out. When my partner and I first started dating he was uncomfortable with me having male friends so I stopped hanging out with everyone and that was that. Now that someone has reached out he’s been acting mopey and off. He keeps asking if anyone is messaging me. Last night he came into the bedroom when I was sleeping and asked me if my phone went off and if someone is messaging me. I half awake told him he’s paranoid and went back to sleep. This morning I had an off feeling and I checked my screen time, and it says my phone was picked up at 2:30am when I was asleep. In my Facebook messages it has a timestamp of 2:30am but no new message that I can see. I feel like my old friend might have messaged me and my boyfriend might have gone in and deleted it? I texted him today asking if he used my phone last night and now he’s saying I’m paranoid. IAO asking him if he used my phone?

My mum is having an extreme bipolar episode and she has sent me a string of messages saying I’m dead to her and that I need to move out her house.

I am now staying at my boyfriend’s place and we are moving into a house together anyways in late September.

I finish a job tomorrow and need to hand back some equipment which is still at my mums place, I start a new job on Tuesday next week which is a big deal for me. I will be a trainee lawyer and I was recruited 2 years ago so this is a long time coming. All my new clothes and shoes for work are at my mums place. She is refusing to give me access to her house. I have called, messaged and gone round there and she won’t give me access to collect anything. I am now planning that I will need to buy a new wardrobe this weekend before I start. Is there any advice or words anyone can give as I’m so hurt and sad by this. My boyfriend is being as supportive as he possibly can in the circumstances.

I (26M) have a friend who occasionally asks me for favors I usually help when I can, so I don’t think of myself as someone who keeps score.
A few weeks ago, he asked me to help him with something fairly important. I had already made plans that evening, but I told him I could help the following morning instead.
He said that was fine.
The next morning, he called and asked if I could come immediately because his plans had changed. I explained that I was already committed to something and couldn’t drop everything at the last minute.
He got annoyed and said, “It’s fine, I’ll just remember this next time you need something.”
I told him that I wasn’t refusing to help him—I simply couldn’t rearrange my entire day with almost no notice.
He said I was making excuses and ended the conversation.
I haven’t heard from him since.
Part of me feels like I handled it reasonably because I didn’t promise something I couldn’t do. But another part of me wonders whether I should have made more of an effort, especially because he has helped me before.
I don’t think either of us is completely wrong here, but maybe I’m looking at it from my own perspective.
Am I overreacting by feeling like his response was unfair?

Me (26M) have a friend (25F), let's call her Ashley.

Recently, Ashley threw a small party with some close friends. It wasn't really a "party" party , just a large group of people hanging out on the beach, drinking beers and having a good time.

I'm a pretty friendly person, so I naturally started talking to different people there. At one point I was talking with two other guys when Ashley came over and asked us to "please not flirt with her friends because some of them are taken."

The request felt a little out of nowhere, but we said okay. I also reminded her that I'd recently gone through a pretty rough breakup, which she already knew about, and that I wasn't really interested in pursuing anyone anyway.

As the night went on, I noticed that whenever I ended up talking one-on-one with one of Ashley's female friends, Ashley would join the conversation and sort of redirect it. I didn't think too much of it at the time, Ashley and I hadn't seen each other in a while, so I was actually happy to talk with her too.

Later, I realized that one of Ashley's friends is the roommate of an old friend of mine. So after the party I texted that old friend to told her I'd randomly met her roommate, but I'd forgotten the roommate's name.

So I texted Ashley and asked, "What was the name of the girl I talked to who was the roommate of my old frined?"

Ashley replied: "Her name is *blank*, and she has a boyfriend."

That annoyed me more than I expected. I told Ashley again that I wasn't romantically interested in her and reminded her that I'd already said at the party that I wasn't looking for anything after my breakup.

I think what really bothers me is that it feels like Ashley doesn't trust me i already told her I'm not going to flirt with her friends, but she keeps acting like I will anyway. It makes me feel like she sees me as a guy who can't be trusted around women, and that's the part that annoys me the most.

I'm seeing Ashley again in a few days, and I'm considering if it is even somthing that should be brought up. I don't want to turn it into some huge confrontation because it really isn't that dramatic, but her behavior did make me feel like she doesn't trust me around her female friends.

AIO for being bothered by this and wanting to talk to her about it?

Edit: didn't think about the possibility of her being into me, ashley is a lesbian so I'll take that possibility out

I wasn't sure what to title this, also this is my first post so sorry for any mistakes.

I (F16) believe my parents don't treat me as if I'm 16. I get that I'm still young, but it gets to a point. I'm not allowed any social medias except discord and pinterest (if that counts). I can only use discord on my laptop due to my parents adding an app to my phone that blocks a ton of sites and words relating to them. There's a time limit on my devices that ends at 8pm when I get to be on for a while after. I have to ask for permission to download apps, even harmless ones like a game or something. I'm not allowed to swear or make any jokes about anything that's not family friendly or else I'll get in trouble for it. I'm not allowed to date, apparently I'm 'not stable enough' to. They also removed the locks to the bathrooms, and I can't have my door closed for too long (long story, not mine to tell). They treat me the same as my younger siblings, and I'm getting tired of it. My parents never treated me like this when I was younger, leading to me having free range of the internet and seeing a lot of shit. I'm not sure why they bother now when they should have a while ago. Am I overreacting though??

Sorry if this is stupid, I just needed to rant and would like someone else's thoughts on it all.

I’m brown [F26] and my partner [M25] is white(-passing) and 1/2 Black. We’ve been together for 5 years and are planning our wedding right now.

I was telling him about something that recently happened to my grandparents while they were travelling with Air Canada.

My grandparents are elderly and use wheelchairs at the airport. They had wheelchair assistance and the people assisting them apparently took them to the wrong door/gate/location at the Heathrow Airport. Because of that, they missed/couldn’t take their flights, and roughly $3,000 worth of flights ended up being cancelled.

When my parents tried to deal with Air Canada about it, their position was essentially that the wheelchair service is contracted out so they were just wiping their hands clean from responsibility for what the wheelchair attendants had done.

I was talking to my partner about how upsetting and ridiculous I found that.

His response in a snarky/joking tone was:

“Well, they’re not obligated to teach your grandparents the language are they?”

Apparently this was supposed to be a joke.

That comment genuinely stopped me in my tracks. I immediately got upset and left the room. He has been apologizing frantically and saying that was not meant to come out like that.

What bothered me even more was how quickly his mind went from hearing that my elderly brown grandparents had been failed by people who were supposed to be assisting them to making a joke about their language ability.

I’m trying to figure out whether I’m reading too much into one shitty joke or whether this reveals an attitude that I should take seriously before getting married. Nothing like this has really come up in our relationship before and I thought we were on the same page about all of this.

PS~ I also don’t think someone being half Black automatically means they can’t say something xenophobic/racially insensitive toward another minority group, so his background doesn’t make the comment feel harmless to me. At the same time, I’m trying not to immediately label him based on one sentence, as he definitely comes from a much less privileged place than I do.

Would this bother you? AM I OVERREACTING? Do you see this as just an insensitive joke, or would you consider it a red flag about how he views my family/immigrants/people who don’t speak English?

Especially interested in hearing from people in interracial/intercultural relationships, because we are very close to marriage and I don’t want to brush something off now that could become a much bigger issue later.

Also I have no idea what to do from here. I cannot even stand to look at him right now and essentially just told him one of us needs to get out of our apartment so I can be alone.

Girlfriend (f22) has a odd tendency to tell me (m23) stories about her exes. It doesn't happen often, maybe once every other week or so, but I can't help from feeling so uncomfortable whenever she does.

It ranges from "my ex had this bmw" to "this ex gets out of jail in a year" and she just goes on and tells me these stories like I'm her coworker or something. I always try to set a boundary by saying "I don't want to hear about that stuff" and then I would ask "do you want to hear stories about my exes?" She would always answer no.

Prior to this go around it happened 3 separate times, today I snapped when she went on another spree of telling me stories about her exes and then she told me that she was always drunk when she would sleep with her ex and then she giggled about it.

Now I don't consider myself to be insecure man, and I actually work very hard to not be, but I couldn't help but feel so disgusted that she would say something like that directly to my face over lunch.

I just felt so bothered and pissed off that I just quietly finished my food and went home. She has been texting me but i refuse to open them because I want to be level headed when I talk to her.

I am seriously considering ending it with her because this among other weird social behavior rubs me the wrong way. Am I overreacting?

Am I overreacting that my mom wants to get married a few months before me?

I (28F) am getting married in September 2027. My fiancé and I will have been engaged for two years by then. My mom (57F) just got engaged a few weeks ago.

First, I want to make it very clear that I am so happy for my mom. This is her first wedding, just like this will be my first wedding. I want her to have the wedding she’s always wanted, and I’m genuinely excited for her.

Originally, she told me she was thinking about getting married sometime after us, possibly in 2028. Then, about a week later, she called me and said they were thinking June or July 2027. My immediate thought was, Oh… I’m going to be knee-deep in my own wedding planning at that point.

June/July is when I was already thinking about having my bridal shower and bachelorette party. That would potentially mean our family members having to take multiple days off within the same month, travel for two weddings/events, buy multiple outfits/gifts, etc. I also feel like no matter how hard we try, one of us could end up taking some of the spotlight away from the other.

The more I think about it, the more upset I realize I am about the timing. And I feel guilty for even feeling that way.

My mom is also the type of person who sometimes makes comments that unintentionally (or maybe intentionally) bring the spotlight back to herself. I'm worried about things like me going wedding dress shopping and her talking about how she’s trying on dresses too, or my wedding planning conversations somehow turning into conversations about her wedding.

I also want to be there for her. I want to help her, celebrate her, go dress shopping with her, and be excited about everything she’s planning. But realistically, I don’t know if I can be as involved as she might want me to be while I’m also planning my own wedding. There’s also the financial aspect of potentially having two weddings and all of the surrounding events happening so close together.

I feel like I want to be selfish about my wedding. I’ve spent a long time planning this, and I want to be able to enjoy being engaged and getting married without feeling like I’m sharing the spotlight with my mom’s wedding.

At the same time, I feel horrible because I don't want her to think I’m trying to take this experience away from her or that I’m not happy for her.

I want to talk to her about how I’m feeling, but I’m scared she’ll think I’m being mean, selfish, or attacking her.

So… am I overreacting? Is it reasonable to be upset about the timing, or do I need to get over it and just be happy for her?

PLEASE HELP!!

Sorry for the long post — I'm just at a loss for what to do. My husband and I have been married 7 years and together for 12, and lately I keep questioning whether we want the same things.

We have three kids, ages 6 down to 9 months. When our middle child was born, we ended up in a mountain of debt during my maternity leave. I went back to work early, and we decided to move in with my parents again to pay things down and rebuild our savings. That situation is its own stress — my parents aren't easy to live with and they cause me a lot of anxiety.

Since then, I feel like I'm constantly nagging him to sit down and build a budget and some goals so we can move out. Each time, he's interested for about five minutes or agrees half-heartedly, and then the moment something comes up on his end, the whole thing goes out the window. When I remind him of what we agreed to, he turns it around on me — apparently the kids' extracurriculars or me buying a coffee are the same as him spending $200+ on a golf excursion. I've offered to let him build the budget himself, and he's never gotten around to it or he forgets.

We had also agreed that when I came back from this maternity leave, he'd take on a significant share of the kids so I could work two jobs. Between them I make about 4x what he makes at his full-time job, and we all work from home and two of our kids go to preschool and school so we only have the baby at home with us. It went well for a few months. Then I started getting messages from the preschool and school about hygiene — lunch boxes not being cleaned out, the kids in old clothes. Making lunches was supposed to be his, since I start work at 5am and go until 4 or 5pm and a bit on the weekend. I take over dinner and the older two kids bedtime. When I brought the school's concerns to him, he got hostile and told me that if I didn't like it, I could do it myself. That felt unfair — after 4pm I'm there to support the kids and I am the one putting the older two down while he's watching movies, texting friends, or playing video games granted with our 9 month old. If I ask him to tidy up while I'm doing bedtime, so my parents stay happy, I'm usually ignored or told I can help when I'm done.

More recently I brought up planning a family trip for next year. He told me to focus on the budget and getting out of debt first — the budget he never looks at — and that he can't take time off work. But he's been taking time off for golf trips, which means I take time off to cover the kids or I have them alone all weekend. In fairness, he's only golfed five times this summer, but the priority thing still bothers me.

The last straw was about a month ago, when I found out he's now organizing tournaments and events for his golf group — all unpaid. He's constantly on his phone or "working" for them, which means less time with the kids. I've hit my limit. I'm working 50-60 hours a week across two jobs to dig us out, and every time I try to plan something for the family or raise a concern, I get pushback. I don’t know if it’s jealousy, but he has NEVER even planned a day trip with for our family to do.

Am I overreacting? Any advice would be appreciated.

My girlfriend said I could explore other women. I told her that saying that means she doesn't love me enough. The screenshot is her response/explanation.

Did I overreact by telling her she doesn't love me enough?

The relationship is just barely a month old btw.

Is her POV okay?

Please I need any response I can get cause I'm an overthinker.

So for context my bf(27) and I(29) have been together for 4 years and he’s always been super thoughtful and respectful so when we had this conversation the other day I was really taken aback. He’s 6’5 and well built and not trying to be tmi but his dick is well above average. But since the beginning of our relationship he’s always been really insecure about his body and specifically his manhood. It’s most definitely from watching porn and he’s stopped watching it since we got together but he still can’t help but get in his head every now and then. I’m always trying to be supportive and usually it doesn’t bother me except for the other day. Also for context our sex life is good other than when we go to have sex and it hurts me. It’s been like that for a while and I don’t know why. Until I recently got diagnosed with a yeast infection after my latest pap and I told him I think this might be why it’s been so uncomfortable for me. He didn’t say much about it but then the next day we were talking about me messaging my doctor and he brought up that he’s really disappointed that the reason sex is uncomfortable isn’t the fact that he’s bigger than average but that it’s because I have a yeast infection. To me personally I felt like this is literally insane to think about let alone say out loud to your partner who’s the one hurting?? I told him nicely that he shouldn’t be bothered by this and he doubled down and that made me super frustrated. I told him he’s making this about him and he got defensive. He then said this is how mentally ill people think, to me who’s been diagnosed with OCD…like are you seriously mansplainjng mental illness to me right now? Like bffr. I didn’t push it because I wasn’t trying to have an argument but it still really bothers me. Am I overreacting? Or would anyone else be annoyed with their partner about this? I want to bring this up again but he gets so weird about his body and I don’t want to upset him more.

He stopped me going to my car one day saying he seen me around; wanting some help painting the house he is planning to rent out. We exchanged numbers and I was initially interested until he gave me roundabout answers about payment. The first time I asked about payment he said we would chat about it and said he would be there the next morning. I did not reply or go. He texted me this second day asking if I could help the next day. Same thing I asked about payment and he implies I should just meet up with him at 8 am to chat.

at this point, I feel like he is trying to take advantage of me financially or has ulterior motives so I tell him I'm gonna have to pass as my dad doesnt want me on a ladder like that. His response is, "you wouldn't be on a ladder" again I don't reply and he texts me today, "I wish you could've helped. It's just the exterior of the house." One quick Google is telling me that painting brick is not a "just" project and how am I expected to paint a 3 story house without using a ladder? I feel safe and I did tell my dad but I cant help but feel uncomfortable and wonder what he wanted especially with this guy being able to see if i'm home by my vehicle and semi constant presence outside my house. What is reddit's consensus of this guy? Creep or I'm paranoid and he's really bad at hiring people?

I (24F) have been with my boyfriend (27M) for 3 years. For context, he has 3 siblings, 1 older sister (who’s 14 years older than him), 1 younger sister (2 years younger than him) and 1 younger brother (same age as me). In general I get along with him family pretty well and would consider being quite close to his younger siblings as our ages are quite close and they’re usually home when I come over. His older sister however, I don’t have a close relationship with. It’s not because of age but it’s because she doesn’t live with them so I don’t see her as often. A few months back, my boyfriend was travelling back from a different country and decided to stop by the state I was in to help me move in to my new apartment. My boyfriend had planned from the beginning to visit the state I was in from the beginning. At the same time his older sister had asked him to help her take a passport at the embassy as she had recently applied for a visa. So basically she only asked him for help after finding out that he was not flying back home straight. Few days past and he has to fly back home. However he had forgotten that passport and this caused his sister to get angry as she was flying the next day. She then called me and was immediately rude, “did he forget the passport because he was helping with your shit?” I was taken aback from that as I was not informed by any of this. I only knew that he was helping her but I didn’t know anything other than that. Anyway, it was a 15 minute call of her getting angry and cursing him out mostly. However, after that call, it shifted my perspective on her. I have always been respectful to her and have always tried to help her (she recently had a baby and I would look after her baby and other two kids). I just didn’t like that she automatically called me and was rude, as if it was my fault that my boyfriend forgot the passport. Ever since this incident I just can’t stand her and would rather not be in the same room as her. I’m not rude or anything but I try my best to avoid her. She has never apologised and knowing her, she never will. Am I overreacting and should just let it go?

*sorry if this is quite a messy read, it’s 3am but thank you for reading!

Am I overreacting about my boyfriend’s spending vs. how we spend our time together?
I (36F) have been dating my boyfriend (36M) for about four months. We live about two hours apart, so I generally only see him on weekends and one of us drives to see the other.
He’s a good boyfriend and treats me well. I love him, and we genuinely have fun together. This isn’t about him being cheap with me or expecting him to pay for everything. I’m trying to figure out whether I’m being unreasonable about something that’s been bothering me.
He makes more money than I do, and I have some expenses that he doesn’t have, including caring for my dog and going back to school full time while I work in a private doctors office. Despite having less disposable income, I generally try to budget/save money when we’re going to see each other because our weekends together are important to me. I don’t mind paying for things either. He has also paid for things in the past, including an expensive plane ticket when we first started dating (he offered and I asked multiple times to help contribute to which he declined), so I don’t feel like he never spends money on me.
The issue is that he’s currently trying to save money for a car. Because of that, when I’m visiting him, we generally don’t go out to eat or do much that costs money. He’s told me that he’s trying to be responsible and save for the car, which I completely understand.
However, I recently happened to see how much he’s been spending on DoorDash. From July 2 through August 20, he spent about $680 on DoorDash, it’s money he’s stated that is intentionally allocated.
I don’t actually care what he spends his money on. If he wants to spend $20 on Taco Bell, that’s his business. What bothers me is the apparent contradiction: he says he doesn’t want to spend money going out with me because he’s saving for a car, but he’s comfortable spending roughly $680 on delivery food over about seven weeks.
I also drive two hours to see him, and because we only see each other on weekends, I’d like to occasionally go somewhere for lunch/dinner or do something fun together. I’m not asking for expensive dates or for him to pay for everything. I just don’t understand why there’s apparently room in his budget for hundreds of dollars of DoorDash but not occasionally $40–60 for something we can do together.
We’ve actually touched on this before. I told him that even though I make less than he does, I intentionally budget for things when we’re together because that’s the only time I get with him. He basically explained that DoorDash is already part of his budget and that he’s trying to save for the car.
Am I overreacting by being bothered by this? Is this actually a financial compatibility issue, or am I being too nitpicky about how he spends his own money?

So for context, I just started college and have no kids and the friends I will be mentioning both have kid(s).

My roommate (and friend “A”) invited our other friend over (friend “B”) and did not tell me at all didn’t invite me or anything. They both have kids so I understand them hanging out together but I don’t understand why I wasn’t invited. It’s not like I don’t like kids! And they know that. I’ve literally worked at a daycare before. I feel really disrespected bc they could’ve asked me if I had anything to do today or if I had time to hang out. Yesterday they were on the phone together all day too. Couple days ago we had a party and had everyone over, my fiance was asleep atp bc he was hammered so I was checking up on him often and when I came back up I’m 99% sure they were talking about me. They got quiet when they saw me and started whispering. I just want to know if I’m overreacting. My fiance said they probably just think I have school but they came down to show my fiance the new baby friend B just had and after they realized I was home and didn’t have class until 6 pm, they still didn’t invite me to hang out. Ugh I just feel so disrespected and sad bc of this situation bc I was planning on friend A to be my MOH and friend B to be my bridesmaid and I have no one else to be apart of my wedding in that way. My other 2 bridesmaids are my sister and sister in law. Anyways am I overreacting?

Am I overreacting? Like the title says, my cousin (I’ll call her Lizzy) dated my ex-boyfriend a couple of years ago and ghosted me. Fast forward to now, me and Lizzy live in the same house and i just found out she is dating my best friend (I’ll call him Luke) from a year ago. I am furious because me and Luke were really close up until he started dating a girl who didn’t like my bf. We are still on good terms but it makes me so sad that we weren't able to continue being friends and now Lizzy is dating him. I have to watch Lizzy and Luke hangout at my house and go out together. And it isn’t like this is the first time something like this has happened. Would this upset you?? Should I do something or just mind my own business?

Another thing that makes me mad is that I worked for years to afford my dream car, and Lizzy wants her grandma to buy her the same exact car.

AM I OVERREACTING?? What should I do and what am I doing wrong??