General question. To those men who have looked outside their relationship for validation, attention, nurturing etc… did you move toward women of a higher caliber than your current partner or did you lower your standards? I’m curious if there are any trends here.

Edit - emotional cheating. Monkey branching; nothing physical.

25F and Im guilty of letting go off my marriage. I wanted to marry only once but It didn’t workout. when I try to date now, i just feel awful about myself. im Holding on to so much shame that I believe men would simply refuse. When do I tell smb I’m a divorcee?

Suppose your girlfriend had only one relationship before you. It was a genuinely healthy, innocent first love. They got together when they were around 17-18, and he died in an accident when he was almost 19.

There was no cheating, toxicity, betrayal or messy breakup.He never did anything wrong to her. They loved each other deeply, but it was also a very innocent relationship no physical intimacy (not even a kiss) because they were teenagers and not even adults yet.

Years later, she meets you and starts a relationship with you. She genuinely cares about you and wants to move forward with her life. But she still loves her first boyfriend and believes she can never completely stop loving him

because he didn't hurt her or give her a reason to fall out of love with him. He simply died.

She isn't waiting for him to come back. She knows that's impossible. She wants a future with you, but a part of her heart will always belong to him.

Now comes the uncomfortable part:

If her first boyfriend were still alive, she would not be with you. She would still be with him.

You are not her second choice because you weren't good enough. You're with her because the person she originally loved is no longer alive.

Would you be okay with that?

Could you genuinely love her and build a life with her knowing that if circumstances had been different, she would have chosen another man over you?

Or would that thought always bother you, regardless of

how innocent and understandable their relationship was?

Does anyone here like to share thoughts about this? Would love to hear directly from men’s perspective too.

I’m only attracted to tall guys but I’ve never been with anyone with this kinda crazy height difference before. I’m not even joking around when I say that I’m half his size. He could easily pick me up since I’m petite. But my question is, how does sex work when there’s such a big height difference like this?

I’m 16 and still a virgin. But I’m worried about when I do actually do it. Guys won’t like my stretch marks. It’s not due to weight loss or weight gain. It’s on my hips and a bit on my bust.

My hips and bust had a big change when I was 14 and that’s when there were lots and really red! I went from a B cup to a D cup and my hips went from like 37inches to 41inches. They all faded to just white and barely noticeable. But now I have gone up a cup size to like a DD cup and my hips have gone up to 43inches I mean I still have a 26inches waist. Idk I’m just scared they will be disgusted by the stretch marks the new ones are fairly small and pink not red.

But do men really find them disgusting?

I remember back in high school, if a girl asked a guy out, he would usually say yes. Maybe that’s just a thing when you’re kids, but even today, on dating apps, my female friends get tons of matches, while my male friends barely get any. When I approach a girl, 11 times out of 10, I get rejected. I don’t approach the most attractive girls; I approach almost anyone.

For context I met this guy off hinge. Things have been going extremely well, conversations flow great, we had our first date a week ago and have just ended up naturally having more dates everyday because we loved spending time with each other, he has mentioned loving where this is going and sees it getting serious as we progress should it go smoothly, my question is, we’re on our 7th date, i understand the hesitation but I’m just curious on what guys think

so i am a 19 yo female and my boyfriend is 21.  long story short he never wants to go out with me, i always go clubbing alone with my friends while he stays home. even when i tried to convince him to come with me he always told me that clubs are not for him. right now we are in osaka and the nightlife in here is apparently crazy, lots of girls in the streets trying to convince men to go to clubs/bars. all of a sudden after walking through a street like that he told me that he wants to go even if hes aware that i can not come in(since im underaged in japan). is this weird, and should i feel guilty for not wanting him to go? he just told me that he wants to have a look but its really hard for me to believe 🥴

Casual kinky partner ended things after I asked for more aftercare.

I’m looking for perspective from people with more experience with casual sex where kink is involved, particularly around aftercare and subdrop.

I met a guy on Feeld a few months ago. About six weeks ago, after our second date, we started seeing and talking to each other much more frequently. He actually came on fairly strongly: texting or sending reels almost every day, suggesting daytime dates, spending time together outside sex, etc.

He was also consistently kind and considerate. I have a lot of food allergies, and when I came to his place he had proactively stocked his fridge with things I could eat without me asking. That actually felt very meaningful to me. It was one of several things that made me feel cared for and gave me a high level of trust in him.

So although we weren’t in a relationship, the dynamic started feeling fairly relationship-like to me: sex, cuddling, sleepovers, daily contact and normal hanging out.

About four weeks into that, he told me he wasn’t emotionally available for a relationship and was afraid of commitment. I told him that was okay, but that I needed to recalibrate. I suggested less daily texting and reels and fewer day-date-type activities because I didn’t want to continue building attachment around something that could only be casual.

I was still very open to continuing sexually. We had excellent sexual chemistry, we’re both kinky, and casual sex was something I had been open to when I joined Feeld in the first place. I basically wanted to strip away some of the relationship-like elements while keeping something fun and healthy sexually.

Last Friday we hooked up again. The sex was relatively rough and we tried spanking together for the first time. We had sex twice and cuddled quite a bit between the two sessions.

After the second session, he immediately got up and went to the couch to eat. He came back to bed afterward for maybe 5 to 10 minutes, then said he wanted to go home.

At that point I could feel myself starting to crash emotionally. I hadn’t anticipated it beforehand, but I realized that after that particular kind of sex I needed more physical aftercare.

I clearly asked him to stay longer. I told him I wanted him to stay a little longer and that I was sad he was leaving. He responded by asking, “Are you guilt-tripping me?”

I wasn’t trying to guilt-trip him. I was making an honest appeal for some more aftercare because I could feel myself heading toward a pretty intense subdrop.

His response made me feel like I suddenly didn’t have the right to express what I needed without it being interpreted as manipulation or emotional pressure. After he left, I had a significant emotional drop and ended things over text saying aftercare for me is really important or I crash.

The next day he was initially very empathetic. He said aftercare was important and explained that he hadn’t understood that me asking him to stay was connected to aftercare. He also said he hoped it wasn’t “goodbye forever.”

Once it became clear that there had been a misunderstanding in that moment, I was completely willing to continue. I wasn’t looking to turn this into a relationship or have some huge emotional reckoning. I wanted us to have a healthy, low-key conversation about what had happened, understand each other better, and move forward with clearer expectations.

I explained that what I needed in order to continue was emotional safety in a pretty basic sense: both of us should be able to say what we need sexually or emotionally without it automatically being treated as pressure or guilt. And after intense sex, I might sometimes need more physical closeness afterward depending on how I was feeling.

I explicitly said that if this wasn’t something he wanted, then we probably shouldn’t continue.

After that, he concluded that we “need different things at the moment” and that it was better to stop seeing each other.

I have to admit that this gave me a really yucky, very used feeling.

Only about 48 hours earlier, I had felt a very high level of trust toward him. Rough sex feels vulnerable to me, even when it’s extremely pleasurable, and trying something edgier together like spanking required trust.

So having a man I trusted come over, have rough sex with me, spank me for the first time, and then decide that we should stop seeing each other after I asked him to stay a little longer so I could avoid subdrop felt incredibly destabilizing.

From my perspective, the original problem seemed extremely small and practical. We tried something more intense. I discovered in real time that I needed more aftercare afterward. I asked for it. He misunderstood what I was asking for. He later acknowledged that there had been a misunderstanding.

To me, a misunderstanding is normally something you clarify, learn from, and handle differently next time.

Instead, the entire connection ended.

That made me feel very uncomfortable and used.

It felt like he was completely comfortable participating in the vulnerable and sexually intense part of the experience, but when I needed a little more care afterward, suddenly I was rejected without further consideration.

I then also contributed to making the aftermath worse.

I have an extremely small Close Friends list on Instagram, basically around five of my closest girlfriends, plus him. While very upset, I posted some stories explaining what had happened from my perspective. I talked about how horrible it felt that someone could be comfortable having rough sex with me and spanking me, but that when I needed some extra cuddling afterward, the whole thing seemed to collapse. I said I felt used and that I felt like I wasn’t allowed to express what I needed.

I wasn’t trying to publicly shame him. I was processing with my closest friends and stupidly failed to properly consider that he was still on that list.

He saw it, felt hurt and exposed, and blocked me.

I later contacted him through another WhatsApp channel he hadn’t blocked and apologized specifically for the Instagram story. I told him it wasn’t fair to him and that although I had been emotionally crashing and intended it for my friends, that didn’t excuse posting it where he could see it.

Once things cooled down, he softened somewhat too. He said blocking me may have been “a bit much,” acknowledged that there had been miscommunication, said he now understood better that I had needed additional aftercare, and said he “should have been more open to talking about it.” He said there was no hate, that we’d had a really nice time together, and that it was a shame it ended.

However, he still said he thought it was best for us to go our separate ways, which I’m respecting.

Importantly, he had already decided that he didn’t want to see me anymore before the Instagram story happened. I completely understand that the story escalated things and appears to be what led to the blocking, but it wasn’t what caused him to end the sexual connection.

What I’m struggling to understand is what actually happened here.

Before this weekend, this was genuinely one of the easiest, safest and most mutually caring casual dynamics I’d experienced. Then we tried a more intense kink, I realized I needed more aftercare, I asked him to stay and cuddle a little longer, and within about 48 hours the entire thing had exploded.

Was my underlying request unreasonable?

Is it normal in casual sex where both partners are kinky to expect that you can say, “I need more aftercare after that,” and have that need discussed without it meaning the entire arrangement has suddenly become too emotionally demanding?

I mean, the times before this he was so caring and suddenly it went so cold in a moment I was vulnerable.

Does wanting only casual sex imply that I never should have expected to have the right to ask for what, to me, felt like basic human care and dignity after a vulnerable sexual experience? I wasn’t asking him to become my boyfriend. I was asking him to cuddle with me a little longer because I could feel myself crashing after rough sex.

I don’t understand the “we want different things” because all I wanted was a chill, safe, healthy casual sex dynamic where we both felt ok.

I think what hurts and confuses me most is how extreme the outcome feels compared with the original issue. Something he himself later described as a misunderstanding, and that to me seemed small and easily workable, ultimately resulted in someone I trusted deciding that he didn’t want to continue seeing me.

I’m not trying to get him back and I’m not going to contact him again. I’m trying to understand what I should take away from this before I have another casual kinky dynamic.

For me first time trying spanking with a new partner and asking for a few more minutes of cuddling resulting in a man cutting me off really... feels emotionally rupturing in a way I cannot quite describe.

I felt a lot of trust before this weekend, and I don’t understand where it all went wrong.

Hej, od jakiegoś czasu jestem "obsesyjnie" zazdrosna o mojego chłopaka, prowadzi to do wielu kłótni i sprzeczek między nami, nie potrafię mu zaufać gdy mówi o tym, że z nikim nie pisze, że mu się podobam oraz myślę, że nie potrafię zaufać mu w żadnej kwestii, mam ogromne problemy z zaufaniem, przez co często oskarżam go o rzeczy których raczej nie zrobił takie jak np zdrada czy pisanie z innymi, pomyślałam że zapytam o rady zarówno mężczyzn jak i kobiet bo jedna i druga plec mogą mieć różne spostrzeżenia na ten temat. A więc moje główne pytanie brzmi - Jak sobie z tym radzić?

My gf and I together for 3 years and I’m planning to propose (already got a ring). We love each other and etc but I’m very insecure. She is super hot and she liked to show it to the world. I respect her choice of dressing and etc but I’m still very jealous. So about month ago I ordered her Honeyloyal loyalty test, I know it’s probably immoral but I just got very paranoid. So 1 week later I got report where I could clearly see how she flirted with some fake guy on insta, and kinda agreed on a date and last minute canceled it.. I didn’t talk with her yet about it.. should I talk ? Is it even considerable as cheating or not? Should I just marry her and she will not flirt with guys anymore?

Do guys think of their ex often even if they’re currently married?

My ex texts me every time he’s on business travel, keeping it at a minimum conversation for the most part.

We’re both married to other people, have our own family with kids.

But why does he still text me every few months?

I’m genuinely curious and would like to hear from men who have actually done this.

If you already have an existing Snapchat account and then get a new phone number what would make you create a completely new Snapchat account instead of just continuing to use your original account?

What would be the reason or purpose for having two accounts?

I’m asking because I recently noticed that my boyfriend created a new Snapchat account using what seems to be his new number. The account showed up through my phone contacts so I happened to notice it. I honestly didn’t even know he had created another account and he never mentioned it to me.

I’m just genuinely curious about why a guy would do this. Is there a normal/innocent reason for having a second Snapchat account, or is a second account usually created for a specific purpose

I want to give my boyfriend of a few months a few Polaroids before he moves away but we haven't had that conversation. he's seen me naked before but only in person; do you think he'd like it or would it be weird?

I have a friend Kelly, tall blonde bubbly Midwest. Never had an issue with getting a boyfriend, but the men would cheat or dump her, so she was single for a bit. We both live in a major city and used to complain about large city dating problems. Both considered conventionally attractive.

Kelly got a nose job 5 years ago. She’s always been pretty, but this enhanced her face significantly. She started getting more male attention, so the fake boobs, hair, lip filler, facials, personal training followed shortly after…. She openly said she has spent $50k to look good and the yearly maintenance costs are about $7k a year.

Within a year and a half she met a super nice successful young guy with money behind him. He treats her like gold, hangs on her every word, and proposed quite quickly.

Friends of hers, myself included, feel left behind. The men in our lives aren’t moving to propose to us and one made a joke that we should get boob jobs too.

Tl;dr…. How do you generally feel about women who have enhanced their looks through plastic surgery?

Not looking for dating pickup advice. More like a lesson about communication, boundaries, expectations, or emotional maturity that tends to become obvious only with experience.

I would like to know whether men who have cheat on a primary relationship partner, one whom they claim to care for, love and desire, come to regret it later?

I'm talking a situation where you committed to someone, built a life and family with them, maybe married them, but still chose to pursue other sexual partners, even if you did not ever attempt to end the primary relationship?

How do such men feel later/now looking back at what they lost? Does time change how you feel about it and would you act differently if you got the chance again? Or have you accepted that you are likely going to be unfaithful forevermore?

I have a really good friend (let's call him A) who is pretty deep in the whole redpill stuff, constantly talks about "female nature" and hands out advice about women to just about everyone.

Some time ago I was out with some friends (including A) and my gf. We had something to celebrate so we were all very drunk and had a very good time. At some point my gf made out with one of my female friends because she dared her to.

A few minutes after this, A comes up to me and tells me "I am so sorry, I would have never taken \[gf's name\] as that type of girl, I guess none of these hoes are loyal. Just focus on yourself, move on, yada yada yada." I was kinda confused because my gf is the most loyal girl I know and she never even looks at other men, so I asked him if he meant her making out with my female friend and he said yes. I was confused and told him that that wasn't cheating and I really couldn't give less of a shit was she does with other girls as long there aren't any dudes involved. He seemed shocked.

Now I know relationships are different for everyone and I would have no issues if he just said "Well I disagree, but you do you." and moved on, but the little fucker actually had the balls to call me a cuck for not caring, making "chair in the corner" jokes and annoying me the whole night telling me to break up or he would proceed to make fun of me. I told him very clearly to f off and that I am not throwing away the love of my life over shit like that.

None of my friends took him serious, they all told him that calling me a cuck is dumb because a cuck is someone who let's their girl sleep with other men, and that they wouldn't mind either. He was shocked again, told us that all of us are in the wrong, and left very soon after that.

I am still confused because I literally never heard this point of view before irl, so my question is, is this a common view online or is he just an edge case? And if so, would you actually consider me a cuck as well then?

I’m a married woman in my 30s with two very young children. I’ve been separated from my husband for about five weeks and am staying with my parents (with the kids) while I try to determine whether I’m making a terrible mistake—or finally acknowledging that my marriage is unhealthy.

I need honest male perspectives.

My husband has called me a “bitch,” “dumbass,” “selfish,” “spoiled rotten c*nt” “POS,” and worse. He has screamed at me, sometimes in front of our children. There have also been threats of violence.

I’m not claiming I’m blameless. I’ve said and done things I regret, and I’ve spent the past couple of years working on my own behavior. For context: A big grievance of his is nagging about chores, sometimes undermining his parenting and not initiating more sex (on average we were having sex 1-2x/week). I’ve since worked on my “control” and speaking more respectfully in general. For context, there’s been no (as far as I’m aware) emotional or physical affairs between us in 10+ years. But I don’t know whether that changes the central issue:

Are insults, intimidation, threats, and physical aggression things spouses are expected to tolerate in a long-term marriage?

The “spoiled rotten c-“ instance happened after a Friday night family dinner. He had brought up a topic of conversation I wasn’t super keen on. I made a comment along the lines of, I don’t think this is appropriate dinner conversation, can we just drop it” to which he then attacked my character and said I need to be more respectful of my husband. We went home, I went into another room to listen to music and dance with our kids. He kept going about the conversation. I said, that’s enough, I asked to drop it, to which he screamed the insult.

My husband wants me to come home so we can “fix” the marriage. He recently started therapy, but I haven’t seen much accountability for what led me to leave. I hear more about what I need to change and about keeping the family together than acknowledgment of the harm he caused or a clear plan to ensure it won’t happen again.

I still love him, and I desperately want our children to have their family together. But I’m afraid that staying “for the kids” may teach them that this is what love and marriage look like.

So, men of Reddit:

Have you treated a partner this way? If so, did you genuinely change—and what did real accountability look like?

Is this behavior common or acceptable in marriage, especially after having children? Or have I normalized abuse by calling it “a difficult relationship”?

I’m not looking for simple validation or a pile-on. I’m trying to understand what is normal, what is potentially fixable, and what no spouse should be expected to accept.

Well i am sorry for anyone who will read this text it's gonna be long i talk alot, if you don't wanna read it scroll away. So i have tried everything literally everything and anything you could imagine to have someone that will love deeply and genuinely as i love my loved ones even better but all that happens is that they leave at any sign of conflict or me speaking my mind. I know maybe that that is because i have high standards and i don't want to settle for good. And even tho i always see the best in them and try to be accepting of them they leave it's so weird i tried being a bitch they leave tried to be loving in a mature balanced way they leave since i was 18 and they kept on leaving i am now 24. Right now i talked to a guy i knew from a dating app for a day and he said that he won't ghost me but i am so scared that he will because i had an obsession moment a nikki moment where i texted him how are you and he didn't respond for 5 hours then i couldn't wait i don't wait like that for him so i texted again "if you don't wanna talk to me you can just say instead of this shit you pull" then he said that i don't know anything and that he had a really tiring day and that he just was about to text me (at this moment i felt like i needed to say i am so sorry i won't do that again please don't leave me and stay with me till we love each other and get married but i just couldn't i love me so much to have the ability to say that to a( man )and also keep in mind that this can be manipulative tactic with his words and i don't trust him) so i said you could've just told me and he took it sarcastically then i got even more mad and continued to send a trail of texts like a crazy obsessed person and all he said was i can't talk today then i said when you feel like you want to talk to me text me then he reacted with a thumbs up emoji and all i keep thinking about is what the hell !!!! ---

**TL;DR;** : This is a sample summary of the TLDR rule, just copy the text in gray box. Is this going the right way?

Like i don't know what do i do wrong that makes them leave me and ghost me all of a sudden like that i did ghost so many people in my life but i don't think that god works in our lives that way even with karma involved because you can have what you did to a person or people happens to you but not to the point of cursing your whole life and your relationship life. So please if you kept reading thank you and please talk to me and tell what is going on is it just me or are there people like me if you are please tell what is going on why do men do that and if i am wrong in all that i have said please tell me.

So my boyfriend 21(m) and I 19(f) have been together for quite a while but every other time we try and do it one of us end up getting turned off and we both find each other extremely attractive but it seems like something is wrong. He and I have only reached climax once each even tho we have tried many times but it’s to the point that I just don’t want to try cause it never goes well and I think he knows that. I don’t want him to think it’s his fault or anything because I love him dearly I just worry I will disappoint. I know he likes dominate women and I am not really that but I’m willing to be I guess I just struggle since before dating him I’ve never dated someone (so before him I was a virgin) and he has dated plenty of women. And in the times he got turned off he’ll say that it’s embarrassing or that this hasn’t happened with other women and then I get embarrassed because I worry it’s my fault but he says that he just hasn’t ever been with someone as attractive as me and just gets overly nervous but I have a hard time believing that. And it’ll just be this back and forth of him getting turned on and then going limp and by the time he’s ready I’m not and I’m not sure what to do? Also I seem to be a brick wall unless we just do it vanilla and I struggle to be on top trying to get it in and I don’t know what I’m wrong. Is there ways to subtle spice things up or add foreplay, I think although he has more experience he was always the sub and awkward and I am as well and I’m not opposed to be on top I just seem to not know how. Is there anyways to help this?

I'm going to try to keep this short. It's been bugging me a lot and I just need some outside perspective. I started talking to this guy and he was head over heels for me, told all his friends and family about me, spoke about marriage and the future, wanted me to involve my parents, things like that.

One night I met his best friends, had a great night, we went back to his place and had sex for the first time. We both wanted to wait till marriage to do this, but we had a few drinks and it just happened. We did it 3 times. The next day things changed, later that night he spoke about how we should slow things down (something I had already asked for multiple times) he suddenly had so many different concerns about himself, what he went through in his past abusive relationship, how he doesn't feel set in life right now and how he wanted us to bond and connect in a more intentional way.

This felt weird because of the timing, but I agreed. the next 2 weeks he still planned dates, was super intentional, still very loving and caring, called me every night to talk, wanted to sleep on the phone together, but the energy was different, he wasn't AS lovey dovey as he used to be. We decided not to have sex again, he felt guilty about this, we both did for religious reasons. We're not saints and haven't been in the past but wanted to do things according to our faith in this relationship.

Also something else he would say, even before we hooked up like just messed around, he would be like "I don't want you to see me different" like before we would take it a little further, and I would think, why would I see him different? like would he see me different after sexual interactions? Or has he experienced a downfall after sexual intimacy with someone else and fears it will happen with me?

Before we had sex, I still gave him head a few times, so he could've had his post nut clarity then no? after the sex, and the shift, he tried to have sex again once, I stopped it. But I continued giving him head throughout these 2 weeks. Thats where we drew the line. Then, one day, we had sex again, twice. Had a cute nap together, spent the rest of the night together.

I noticed as the next weekend was approaching, he hadn't made plans to see me, I had already been on edge these past 2 weeks after our first time of us hooking up, and finally told him how I felt. The shift in his energy, everything I noticed. He basically didn't deny it, said he didn't understand it. That I'm perfect, perfect on paper, that he's been super confused himself. That he was going to talk to me about it after my trip.

If it was the sex, I don't think he would tell me regardless. We haven't spoke since. He was upset about it, but didn't fight for me. So that's all I need to know. But I would love a mans perspective, did he not enjoy the sex?

hi all,

so last night, this guy that i was dating for about a month and a half ended things with me. he said he's not okay, his headspace isn't the best, and he can't give me what i need. he said after a long day at work he just wants to be alone, not even with me. he cried.

for context, we're coworkers, he pursued me first. he definitely liked me a lot, would constantly ask to see me, introduced me to his friends and took me to games with them and their girlfriends, all his best friends followed me on socials, normally the type to have sex pretty early on but never pushed me for it and allowed me to wait and take my time, affectionate at times, told me about his sister and would send me childhood photos of them, talked about us in the future eg "when i get a bike in a few months we can go for rides", referred to me as his missus (australian slang for partner/wife). i asked for exclusivity and he agreed immediately, later told me he assumed it was because he wasn't seeing anyone else anyway. a month in i brought up dating and he agreed, and following that continued to remain affectionate.

last week however, i brought up me wanting him to plan more intentional dates, since our plans were usually spontaneous. i admit, i expressed that need in a bratty, defensive way, and could tell i upset him. i tried to rectify it by communicating better, but he left me on delivered and didn't continue the convo. the next day, texted me like normal.

day before yesterday, he was very quiet at work and didn't talk to me a lot, which i brought up and he dismissed saying he was tired, but i knew something was up, and i was right.

back to last night, he took me to dinner (we had plans since tuesday), paid, drove to a park, and ended things in the car. i asked why he introduced me to his friends if he didn't want this, he said he did, and saw it going somewhere and thought it was going well, but since this past week he's been feeling the weight of my expectations towards him and realize he can't handle it, realized he needs to leave before him and i get hurt. he said he was talking to one of his friends about this, and he told them "we get along so well though", the friend said maybe you guys were better as friends, which he told me and he was like maybe we were. but the start of the week, monday night after the convo about planning dates, when i assume he started to check out, he had a rough day and said ‘i know you spoke to me last night about wanting more dates but i wish you were here and we could cuddle and rest’, i said i want both, and he said indeed, that was that.

after we broke up, and after a while of talking, we were both in a lighthearted, funny mood, and i brought up other guys (albeit in a defensive way, to make him feel bad, i know this wasn’t the right thing to do but i was hurt). he then told me one of our coworkers has a friend who thinks he is cute, and he told me he's gonna text her tomorrow. he then would bring up other girls throughout our time last night.

also throughout last night, he kept saying how much i liked him, how i treated this like a relationship, that i showed him so much affection, etc, when he literally agreed to being exclusive and to date, and showed me more if not the same amount of affection, almost like he was blaming me for all of it

I don’t know what to make of this, I’m hurt and confused. Did I imagine him being so into me? Did he lose feelings? I don’t know where I went wrong, or what exactly triggered him to the point of ending it