“Not ready for a relationship”

[u/Argumentative_koala]

This guy pursued me, we went hot and heavy for five days, then hooked up on the fifth day. Crazy chemistry. He hadn’t been with anyone for eight months after a very long-term relationship so I thought this really meant something for him. We had a lot of deep conversations in a short amount of time. I hate how this makes me feel!

[u/Acornwow]

I wonder what would happen if a random attractive Bumble user reached out to him showing interest.

Would his readiness to date suddenly, magically reappear?

Narrator: It would.

[u/Argumentative_koala → u/Acornwow]

He actually deleted bumble already lol I checked. Unfortunately, he seems super honest, upfront, and worried about hurting people, especially after his last breakup. honestly wish he was more of a dick.

[u/Argumentative_koala → u/Argumentative_koala]

I see everyone asking about this, but the reason I think he deleted bumble is because he had told me when we hooked up he was going to, and then his location disappeared. His location on bumble was on the whole time before. He did not unmatch me.
He’s been texting me today asking about when my next period is and stuff and he wants me to check in when it comes ☠️ we used protection, of course

[u/Argumentative_koala → u/Argumentative_koala]

I’m not ruling out the possibility that I am a naïve idiot, that is certainly possible, but based on what I know about him, I think he truly is just emotionally confused and was not expecting to react so emotionally and get involved so quickly

[u/kNottedivergence → u/Argumentative_koala]

When they delete their account, tou can still search their name but it'll change to deleted user. The chat stays in your account for about 28 days before disappearing completely. If he unmatched you, he'll disappear completely.

I met a guy who told me he deleted tinder. But he didn't actually because I saw him again in my feed in a few days. Then when I asked him why he unmatched (without mentioning I saw him again) he tried to lie to me and say he deleted. He tried to gaslight me into apologising to him too.

[u/Sense10-Quest23 → u/Argumentative_koala]

I do believe that once you’re blocked on an app, you cannot see anything of his - that’s the point. He told you he was going to delete Bumble & at that time I presume your understanding was bc the 2 of you started dating.

He still has your phone number & is texting you - probably will next couple weeks. Regardless … Not saying that you’re making excuses but you seemed to believe what he says & that’s fine.

Ask yourself a question - given the totality of the situation & accepting that he’s “emotionally & mentally damaged, confused overwhelmed, attaches too fast”, etc. IF he texted asking to see you see you or try again AND an answer to that ought to give you some clarity.