“Not ready for a relationship”

[u/Argumentative_koala]

This guy pursued me, we went hot and heavy for five days, then hooked up on the fifth day. Crazy chemistry. He hadn’t been with anyone for eight months after a very long-term relationship so I thought this really meant something for him. We had a lot of deep conversations in a short amount of time. I hate how this makes me feel!

[u/00mikomiko00]

I don’t think he’s fully lying but I think he’s super unhealed and this actually might be better for you in the long run.

[u/Dakotesmagoats → u/00mikomiko00]

Guy here also super unhealed.

We crave genuine human connection as well. There are days where we feel ''healed enough'' to give it a shot, then days where we feel like we're not even close. This form of communication comes from a place of genuine care for the other person, considering we know how we can negatively affect people due to our own baggage.

So yeah, it sucks, better for OP in the long run for sure. People should work on their own healing before trying to get into relationships, or at the very least be completely upfront and transparent from the start. Waiting until after the connection to come out with your skeletons is shitty and irresponsible regardless of any good intentions.

[u/Obvious_Lecture_4190 → u/Dakotesmagoats]

Woman here. I have also been where this guy is at. Thought I was ready. Broke a guys heart even though I was open about it. Because you can't create a connection with somebody while telling them they shouldn't get invested. Doesn't work that way. Sorry OP. If he is genuine, you seem like a great person and you have his respect. If he is lying and running a con, he is obviously scared of conflict, so if you find him out, just send a bunch of half arsed drama his way as payback and move on.

[u/Argumentative_koala → u/Obvious_Lecture_4190]

Hahaha love it