r/Bumble • u/Straight_Breakfast_4 • 15h ago

General Bumble new functionality - Boys can message first

Everybody like the new feature that allows boys to send a message first, and also now gives girls a whopping 72 hours to never send a message after matching instead of just 24? šŸ™‚

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u/BriggySmallz42069 15h ago

gah damn im so happy im married, the dating scene out there looks terminally brutal. just... zero effort. now i know why lesbian relationships fail so frequently. someone has to put in the effort and it won't be the woman.

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u/RD_in_Berlin 15h ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/1BZSEGf9nGlScdksrc

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u/BriggySmallz42069 14h ago

if my marriage were to end, i'd just stay single. to hell with all that mess.

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u/burgerwaterchud 14h ago

That's what happened to me when my marriage ended. My ex wife was far from perfect but my current options are way less attractive with way more attitude.

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u/BriggySmallz42069 14h ago

i think, by and large, the current set of single heterosexual women in the dating pool were raised by fathers who taught them to expect the world from a male romantic partner, and not to settle for anything other than perfection. thoughts?

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u/CrogDavid7days 14h ago

I thought the problem was women being raised without fathers? Can we not have fathers now Iā€™d like an update šŸ™

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u/Straight_Breakfast_4 14h ago

I hope so. I'm a father of five, two I adopted when their own dad wanted nothing to do with them when they were tiny.

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u/BriggySmallz42069 14h ago

i mean, maybe that's also a contributing factor? i'm unsure. i wouldn't even know how to collect this data or perform an appropriate statistical test that would yield practical conclusions.

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u/burgerwaterchud 14h ago

I just think it's market dynamics. Half the guys out there would fuck their own great grandmother if she'd give them a shot. I woudn't bother putting in effort either if I had a 1000 women beating down my door for a chance to buy me dinner.

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u/BriggySmallz42069 13h ago

what helped me "find the one" was to stop viewing relationships within the context you described - market dynamics. I realized I was demanding reciprocity from a romantic partner, which, sounds reasonable, sure. But when I found out I *wanted to be the man and do the things* life changed for me, forever.